Dead Ass with Khadeen and Devale Ellis

There's a day that every boy Dad anticipates. The day that his son tries to knuck 'cause he is buck! In this episode, the Ellises discuss when that fateful day came for Devale and their oldest son. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you've been in a relationship for a long time, you learn that every argument just isn't worth having. In this episode, The Ellises talk about how admitting when you are wrong, can be the best way to get along. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The secret to having a great marriage is keeping the spark alive. That means date nights, acts of service and having sex like two strangers who just met at a bar. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss how they keep their relationship hot, steamy and interesting with casual sex. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Set your alarms, because Christmas is coming! And your new favorite Christmas movie, Meet Me Next Christmas is coming to Netflix on November 6th. Kalen Allen co-stars in the film alongisde Devale, and in this episode, the Ellises talk to him about how knowing exactly who he is has helped him reach the stars. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We might feel young, but when it comes to the fashion, technology, lingo and trends that our kids are hip to, we are completely out of the loop. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about how they are trying to keep up with what their kids know, so that they can be better parents. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The first time sexologist and author Shan Boodram was on the show, she played the role of referee in a heated conversation about sex between this Ellises. 5 years, another child, and a vasectomy later, the conversation is a lot different. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As the oldest sister and the mother of four boys, Khadeen knows the value of having a bond with your siblings. Whether it's getting through the awkward parts of life with the help of a big sister, or banding together to get your parents to do what you want them to, the power that siblings have when they are close is unmatched. In this episode of Dead Ass Presents A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks to Etienne and Ivy Coco Maurice about how their bond and the love they have for each other helps them show up for our community in a big way. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After a long day of work, errands, and an attempt at self-care, the question every mom hates to hear - what's for dinner? In this episode of Dead Ass Presents A Day with Kay, Khadeen talks to food blogger, tv host and chef, Alex Hill, about how her love for creating fun, flavorful dishes, keeps her motivated to enthusiastically answer that question every single day. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

While a lot of people think that men can't be faithful, we found four faithful Black men saying it doesn't serve them not to be. In this episode, Devale talks with the hosts of the Nice & Neat Podcast, Duke Inehacho, Omar Bolden and Jalon Webster, about why they chose monogamy. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After struggling with symptoms from PCOS, Candice Bolden took charge of her fate and changed her life. Now, just months after having her first baby, her struggles are totally different! #DeadAssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The people are saying that millennials aren't hosting cookouts, family dinners, or upholding old traditions anymore. But is that true? In this episode, the Ellises discuss why it may seem like these new generations are losing recipes. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's time for listener letters! But this time, the Dead Ass podcast producer, Tribble, steps out from behind the mic and joins Khadeen to give their best (not toxic at all) advice! Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After being diagnosed with breast cancer, Grace Azubike immediately sprung into action. In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks to her dear friend Grace about her mission to help women survive. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A new mother to a child of her own, and a bonus mom to her partner's kids, Jasmin Brown is not worried about what the internet has to say. In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks to our internet bestie WatchJazzy about the highs and lows of motherhood so far, her journey as a comedian and why the third time's a charm. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sanya Richards-Ross is a mom, wife, entrepreneur and an Olympic medalist, many times over. For 18 years, she has been the fastest woman in America. But this year in at the Olympic games in Paris, we'll be watching to see if that record will make it to 19! In this episode of A Day With Kay, Khadeen talks with the world class athlete about her rise to track stardom, her family life, and being the owner of the official pajama line of the 2024 Olympic Games. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to social media, the trolls be trolling! But when you live authentically, ain't nothing nobody can tell you, that you haven't already said. In this episode, Khadeen sits down with comedia, social media star and podcast host, B. Simone, about her journey to not giving AF about what the comments say. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes you have to take the road less traveled to get to your dream. In this episode, Khadeen chats with her sister, Sakari, about her unconventional route to the nursing career of her dreams. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A Day With Kay is going on tour this September, and we're looking for the movers, shakers, motivators and stars in your city to tell their story! Write in to nominate yourself or someone you know to be feature in Chicago (9/5), Houston (9/8), Fort Lauderdale (9/20), or Los Angeles (9/22). Tell us why you think they should be featured. Send those letters to DeadAssAdvice@Gmail.com. #DeadAssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Devale is a star with a glow that can be seen from outer space. But don't get it twisted, Khadeen is the sun! In this episode, the Ellises talk about why A Day With Kay is a project they are pursuing now. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we hear men talk about their perception of women, could they really be talking through the wounds they have in the relationship with their mother? In this episode, the Ellises talk about the psychological effects of mommy issues. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you make a vow to have and to hold your spouse through sickness and in health, what you're really vowing to do is support your partner through life's changes. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss supporting your spouse as they grow and change. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Knowing your spouse well is more than just knowing their likes and dislikes. It's also knowing their history. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how going back to Khadeen's father's home, St. Vincent, helped Devale get to know his wife a little better. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The way we see the world is determined by our personal experiences. But what we've been through isn't always the whole story. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about the downfalls of choosing our perception over seeing reality. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

His birthday might have passed, but the party don't stop! In this episode, the Ellises talk about what it took to surprise Devale with a late birthday party, and the growth they realized they've made in the process. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're a millennial, your parents are aging and it's about time that you have to take more responsibility for them than you ever have. That comes with managing their finances. But do you know how? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about some of the ways you can start planning for your parents' future, now. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether it's the death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, or a big life change, we all have to deal with grief at some point in our lives. It's not th same for everyone, and it's never easy. In this episode, the Ellises talk about their recent run in with grief and how they are dealing with it. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to living the life you want, are you going after your wildest dreams, or are you complacent with where you are now? That's the question Khadeen and Devale assess in this episode. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's the drama for me!! In this episode, Khadeen and Devale get all up in your business with a whole episode of listener letters. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you're lucky to still have your parents around, it's probably about time to start taking care of them. And not only that, but learning how to have hard conversations about estate planning and their future wishes. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about the challenges that come with parenting their parents. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we tell our kids how much we've sacrificed for them, we unknowingly create a guilty conscience in them that they will eventuall have to heal from. But they still need to learn how to be responsible and take things seriously right? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss how they try to empower their kids without the guilt. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Yesterday was Devale's 40th birthday. And to prepare for this momentous occasion, he's been making sure his body is ready for the years to come. In this episode, Khadeen talks to Devale about what he's learned about his health, and what changes he's prepared to make to ensure his longevity. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellis Family platform is built on love. Love for family, friends and most importantly, the people that support them. But do the fans love them back? And if they do, do they know how to act? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale share some awkward fan moments and discuss what supporters should consider before approaching their favorite celeb in public. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kids learn how to communicate at every stage of childhood. And while they're still learning how to say how they feel and know what they need, our parent's intuition is like a super power. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how knowing their kids inside and out has helped them in dire times. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The littlest Ellis is 2 and has been learning, growing and living his best life. But when it comes to verbal expression, he doesn't do too much talking. In this episode, the Ellises open up about learning about Dakota's speech delay, and what they've been doing to help him catch up. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If you missed the Love Against The World Tour, sorry about your luck. The shows were packed, the crowds were hype and the Ellises and the Dead Ass team showed all the way out! In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about their favorite moments of the tour. Plus, find out if they've changed their minds about doing it again. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Love Against The World Tour just ended and we went out with a bang! In this episode, the Ellises talk about how the creative direction for the tour came about and what it took to make it happen. Dead ass!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The oldest child might get the most responsibilities, the most punishment and the most restrictions. But that's only because with the first kid, parents are just practicin'! In this episode, the Ellises talk about how their practice kid is becoming a young man with a big opinion. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a relationship where both parties are trying their best to be of service to each other, things can still get misconstrued. In this episode, K&D discuss an incident where keepin' it of service, almost went wrong. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this special bonus episode, the Ellises talk to Monique and Melvin Rodriguez, the power couple behind beloved hair care brand Mielle Organics, about their journey from puppy love to love against the world.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

2024 is going to be a big year for Devale. He's turning 40 in April and want to end his thirties with a bang! But what does that mean? In this episode, Devale discusses how he's preparing for his 40th year. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to women turning 40, the conversation tends to be about perimenopause, weight gain and wrinkles. But not in this house! In this episode, Khadeen talks about why she loves being 40 so far. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The upcoming Love Against The World Tour is the fifth tour for the Dead Ass Podcast and we's ti'ed, boss! Khadeen and Devale are focusing on new things and taking a break from the tour is going to be necessary to bring those goals to fruition. But in this episode, the Ellises reminisce on their favorite moments from the past, and gush about what they're excited about for the future. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We believe in making changes when the need for a change comes. No matter the time of year. But the turn of an old year into a new one is the perfect metaphor for change and can be a perfect motivator.The Ellises are back with the first episode of 2024, talking about new years resolution. Are they useless or nah? Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Khadeen's favorite part of the show is the whole show in this episode. It's all listener letters! Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to success, some people want a seat at the table before they even get in the room. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how to pace yourself to get to where you want to be. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Since 2020, Lynae Vanee has been giving us the tea on all things political that affect our communities. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale sit down with Lynae to hear why she chose this path. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to social justice, we often look to the people who are most visible for the right thing to say. But should celebrities always be expected to speak? Especially when you don't want to hear what they have to say? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss celebrity decorum around advocacy and visibility. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Trying to raise boys into responsible young men is a hard task. But the pressure we put on our kids can be even harder. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss taking a step back to teach their son to step up. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dead Ass resident financial expert and budget queen is back with more money making tips, tricks and tools, and a new book- Made Whole: The Practical Guide to Reaching Your Financial Goals (MadeWholeWorkbook.com). In this episode, the Ellises talk with Tiffany Aliche (budgetnista.com) about what it takes to be made whole financially. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises know what it takes to start a new business. But what's the secret sauce? In this episode Khadeen and Devale discuss what it takes to be successful in entrepreneurship. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This year, the Ellises embarked on a new venture in content creation. Subscription based content on Patreon. But why? In this episode, the Ellises explain why they chose to create a paid platform and what they think about the criticism. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For couples, splitting time between families can be a headache. The choice between keeping up with old family traditions and creating new ones can cause unintentional riffs between family members and in-laws. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how they try to keep their families from feuding over being invited to the function. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Making the choice to share your family on social media can be rewarding in so many ways. But it can also be very annoying. In this episode, the Ellises talk with social media stars Amber & Beyn Wallin about what it takes to keep a bag as family influencers. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises walked in New York Fashion Week! The Actively Black runway show was high class, star studded and packed out. But everything that glitters ain't gold. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss why they almost didn't make it down the runway. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We love making new memories with our babies. But baby, Momma and Daddy gotta have a life too! And taking intentional time away from the hustle, bustle and them kids is the greatest way to connect with your partner when life is lifeing. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Now that summer is over, our bank accounts get a chance to recover from the kids being at home. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how much making memories on family vacations cost them this year. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would you do if you found out you were allergic to all the foods you love. Well, in this episode Khadeen talks about her journey with a naturopathic doctor, and her brand new diet. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The kids are back in school and at a whole new level of learning. In this episode, the Ellises discuss their goals for this school year. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

February 2024, Dead Ass Podcast Presents...Love Against The World. A six city tour with more stories, guests and special surprises for our Dead Ass day ones! Tickets go on sale Wednesday, September 20th. But you can get your tickets today. Just use the code: LATW24 to buy your tickets early on Monday, September 19th.  Go to DeadAssPodcast.com to get your tickets.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As a member of SAG-AFTRA, Devale is officially on strike as an actor. The union is striking in protest of failed negotiations with studio heads, which means thousands of people are out of work indefinitely. In this episode, Devale explains everything you need to know about the strike and the importance of union organizing. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Devale finally got to witness the Queen herself, Beyonce, perform live and it's safe to say he's now a member of the Beyhive. Well...maybe not. In this episode, the Ellises talk about Devale's first Beyoncé experience. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's time for another Listener Letters episode. In this episode, the Ellises read your letters and give the best advice they can. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When Boosie said, "I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T do you know what that means?", we started to wonder... What does it mean to be in a relationship, but still be independent? In this episode, the Ellises talk about independent vs. interdependence. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After finally executing Operation SDB (Snip Dem Balls), the Ellis clan is set in stone. But Devale might not feel the way he felt about his vasectomy when he got it. In this episode, Khadeen talks to Devale about the regret he feels after deciding, permanently, not to have more children. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As the oldest of the Ellis kids gets ready to start middle school, Khadeen and Devale are getting ready for the changes that come with it. More homework, harder classes, and raging hormones. In this episode, the Ellises discuss what they wish they would have known about sex and sexuality in middle school. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When Khadeen got in the gym and her body started to snap back after giving birth to her fourth child, everyone started asking if she got a BBL. But When Devale's Dad bod started to disappear, nobody asked him squat! Why is that? In this episode, the Ellises answer the question anyway. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's Bey Hive season!! With Beyoncé's Renaissance Tour touching down in the US this week, the stans are ready to party with the queen (no non-disclosure). But Kay got to see her first tour stop in Europe a few months ago, and how that happened is quite the story. In this episode, Khadeen gives us the tea about her trip to Sweden to see the other Yoncé. Dead ass.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's scary as hell having kids in school in 2023. That's not what any of us had on our parenting bingo cards. But when it comes to our kids, we'll do anything to keep them safe. In this episode, the Ellises talk about gun control and what that means for their family. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What other people think about you is none of your business. Once you learn that, your potential for happiness is completely up to you. In this episode, the Ellises discuss what it takes to be truly satisfied with yourself. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The old saying goes, "making money is easy, the hard part is to keep it." That couldn't be more true. In this episode, the Ellises talk with their long time friend and financial advisor Shaun Freeman about the cost of making money. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As social media boasts weddings more extravagant every year, the expectations on engaged couples can be high. But what are the real standard wedding costs? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss the hype vs. the reality of wedding costs. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dead Ass Live Podcast Tour stopped in Detroit and the D showed us love! You can see the whole show by subscribing to Dead Ass on Patreon at https://www.Patreon.com/DeadAssSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The famous African-American proverb, "you can take the man out the hood, but you can't take the hood out of the man", rings true when the young and rich, try to hold onto a past. In this episode, the Ellises discuss what makes men (and women) mature, and the answer ain't money. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dead Ass Podcast Tour made a stop in Chicago, and the crowd was too lit! This episode is the audio from that show. If you want to see the full show, subscribe to our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/deadassSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You know we can't end the season without a round up of listener letters. In this episode, the Ellises get all in your business and give their best advice. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dead Ass Podcast Live tour stopped at the Regent Theatre in LA. If you missed it, listen to part of the show here. For video of the full show go to https://www.patreon.com/deadassSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When men compete and talk smack, it's encouraged. But when women do it, it's often considered as pitting women against each other. But what's the truth. In this episode, the Ellises talk about the myth of pitting women against each other. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dead Ass Podcast Live tour stopped at The Improv Theater in Arlington, TX and you know it was lit. If you missed it live, don't worry. You can listen here!  Want to see the action? Catch the Dead Ass Live show and all podcast video content on Patreon! Go to Patreon.com/DeadAss to watch.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most people think once you get a little money, you have it to spend. But it takes more than getting paid to make money. In this episode, the Ellises talk about navigating the costs of making money. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dead Ass Podcast 2023 Tour was lit. If you missed it, you didn't miss out. This episode was recorded at the Dead Ass Live Podcast Tour stop in Houston, TX. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The streets are talkin' and they're saying Khadeen got a lil' work done. Is it true? In this episode, the Ellises give us the real tea. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Genuwine made feeling anxious sound sexy, but in reality, anxiety is an uncomfortable and debilitating experience. Ain't nothing sexy about it. In this episode, the Ellises talk about how they deal with their own anxiety, so they can feel "so anxious" only in the way the song said. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Rihanna's British Vogue cover had the internet goin' nuts! But is it really emasculating for a man to be in the background while the woman in his life takes her moment in the forefront? In this episode, the Ellises talk about empowerment vs. emasculation. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

99% of arguments have nothing to do with facts. That's because when emotions are high, nobody is listening. In this episode, Khadeen & Devale talk about miscommunication and how to do better. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After having 4 whole boys, Khadeen is done having babies. For real this time. Now what? Devale asks Khadeen what's next, since another baby ain't it! Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In our society, most of us have to work to live. But sometimes working too hard, too much can literally kill you. In this episode, Khadeen & Devale talk about their close call with burnout. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your kids play sports, you can't help but put your two cents in from the sidelines. But should you really play parent and coach at the same time? In this episode, the Ellises talk about it. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

All the women who independent throw your hands up at me! But not too hard or else your independence may be mistaken for masculinity. Where do we draw the line? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about the difference between masculinity and insecurity. Dead ass! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every couple experiences making difficult decisions together. And we're not just talking about what to have for dinner. In this episode, the Ellises discuss one hard choice they had to make early in their relationship, that changed the course of their lives. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

That's right! Khadeen and Devale are coming to a city near you in 2023. Houston (2/15), Dallas (2/16), Los Angeles (2/24), Detroit (3/3) and Chicago (3/4), get ready for a night of love and laughter. Tickets are available now for Dead Ass listeners. Go to deadasspodcast.com. Password: DEADASS23See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's the most wonderful time of the year! Especially according to the Christmas crazed Khadeen. Ever wonder why she puts up 6 trees and countless decorations during the holiday season? In this episode, Devale gets all the answers. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Every friend group has that one super shady friend that will hype you up to do some damage and the one that's gonna talk you into making a better choice. You need both the reasonable and the shady friend in your life. In this episode, the Ellises give the Reasonably Shady duo Gizelle Bryant and Robyn Dixon (Real Housewives of Potomac) a chance to share their advice to your problems with their answers to listener letters. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We wrote a book, y'all! We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want From Your Relationship is more than just a relationship or self-help book though. It's a love letter to our past selves and a commitment to our future. In this episode, we're giving you the tea on what made us write a book and what it gave to us in the process. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes, to save a relationship, you gotta learn how to let some things go. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk losing the battle to win the war. How to let things go to keep the peace. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

IYKYK! The Ellises have spoken: 4 whole boys is plenty! And to solidify their word, Devale went the extra step to make it permanent. In this episode, the Ellises share the intimate details of Devale's vasectomy journey. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Straight Shot, No Chaser with Tezlyn Figaro (@tezlynfigaro) examines controversial and thought-provoking topics with diverse guests to discuss politics, social consciousness, and culture. Through weekly conversations, Tezlyn invites guests to share their views and experiences, raw and unfiltered, to educate, uplift, and provide honest insight into the issues facing the Black community in America. A mix of hip-hop and political expertise, Tezlyn keeps her ears to the street and brings her knowledge and savvy to every discussion with power and purpose.   Listen here and subscribe to Straight Shot, No Chaser with Tezlyn Figaro on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you get your podcasts!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would you do to make sure your child gets the medical care they need. That is a question on many parents minds as emergency wait times in Children's Hospitals across the country are at an all time high. In this episode, the Ellises discuss their experience in an Atlanta-area Children's Hospital, that was a microcosm of the greater crisis happening right now within the American healthcare system. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A legacy isn’t just something you leave behind, it’s something you carry on. Our DNA holds the stories of that legacy and in this episode, the Ellises unlock some of those stories with their report from 23andMe. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes the bad places we find ourselves in, are solely because of the bad choices we make. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk choices, mistakes and consequences. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Everyone's experiences are different. And our experiences help create the ways we respond to things. You can either accept another person's perspective or reject it, but you can't change it. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Social media can be a cruel place for adults putting their lives in front of the world to scrutinize. So imagine how crushing it can be for kids just finding their self-worth. The Ellises talk about their resistance to letting their kids have their own social media. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you know who you are and how special you are, words that don’t affirm your existence won’t sting as much. That is what Devale thinks makes kids (and adults) pretty much impervious to bullying. Do you agree?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The second stop on the Dead Ass podcast tour was Philadelphia, and the crowd was lit! Get in on the action you missed in Philly. The Ellises play more games with audience guests and answer more live listener letters. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises were live at the Howard Theatre in DC giving top tier advice. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dead Ass live tour kicked off in New York City and a time was had. The Ellises share some New York nostalgia, meet more couples, and answer more listener questions live!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Khadeen and Devale are LIVE at The Buckhead Theatre in Atlanta, GA. The Ellises shared a night of love and laughter in ATL. Surprise guests Regina Hall and Sterling K. Brown stopped by to talk about their new movie Honk For Jesus. Save Your Soul. And the star of the new Sistas spinoff, Zatima, Crystal Renee Hayslett came through and blessed the stage with her soulful voice. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's time for our favorite part of the show...For the whole show! In this episode, Khadeen and Devale read your listener letters and give their best advice. Dead Ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The passing of a central family member is never easy. Especially if they've left their assets behind without a plan. In this episode, the Ellises discuss what to do when you receive an inheritance, so that you can leave the next generation better off. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We rep our city, our town, our hoods – but you don’t know what you don’t know until you’ve been somewhere else. During their trip to Europe, Khadeen and Devale gained some major insight on what America looks like from the outside. In this episode, the Ellises talk about the growth they’ve experienced through traveling the world.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Millennials have done the work to reclaim the power in our own sexuality. Wearing what we want. Not waiting until marriage to have sex. And taking pride in dating around before settling down. But can playing the field cost you your chance at long lasting commitment? The Ellises talk about it. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to making our dreams a reality, the real measure of success is your will to work. Discipline over everything. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale what habits help them to grind as hard as they do. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Black entrepreneurship is more popular than ever before as millennials learn how to build generational wealth. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss bringing your business into your marriage, what it takes to leave your children set, and all the tea about running a business with your spouse. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When two become one, things get a little complicated. That’s why Khadeen and Devale think it’s important to take time and space for yourself when you’re in a relationship. In this episode, they discuss how they make time for themselves to keep their marriage strong. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"Value can only be determined by those willing to pay that cost." We're not talking about clothes, cars or jewelry. When it comes to choosing a lifetime partner, the way we value the attributes of another can be a distraction to sift through. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk the real meaning of high value when it come to romance. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fame can be prosperous, glamorous and inspiring to others. But fame can also make a person feel like they are untouchable and above morality. In this episode, the Ellises talk about the true price of fame and what it takes to keep your integrity even when you're "famous". Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In marriage, the obligations you have to your partner can be wearing. Especially if your main goal is not to serve your partner every day. But for the Ellises, their pursuit of peace outweighs any pressure they feel. In this episode, they'll tell you why. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

While Black men are becoming more and more successful, the disproportionate rates of illness and death due to illness are also climbing. In this episode, Dr. Kelvin Brown breaks down the numbers and the ways Black men can prioritize their health now. Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to physical fitness, the Ellises each have their own agenda. Devale’s gotta stay fit for the camera, Khadeen wants to snapback after her 4th child, Jackson is preparing to become the next Steph Curry, Kairo wants to be better than Jackson, and Kaz….well, Kaz doesn’t give a damn. But with all their different opinions on fitness, the gym is another place the Ellises build strong muscles and family values. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One thing the Ellises will do is take care of their mental health. And in this episode, they've invited licensed therapist Kier Gaines to help talk through some of their latest challenges. And yours too! Dead ass. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So you want to be an entrepreneur. But do you really know what it takes to build a business from the ground up? Khadeen and Devale give you the keys to entrepreneurship. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You can never really know your partner until you live with them. Unlike their parents’ advice, the Ellises think shackin’ up is a good idea. Dead Ass.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dead Ass the podcast Live is coming to 4 cities this August and we’re giving our listeners exclusive access to tickets before anyone else! August 18th we’ll be back home in New York City! August 19th we’re rocking the stage in Philly! August 20th we’re bringing the show to the Howard Theater in DC! And August 26th we’ll be on stage in Atlanta!    Tickets are on sale exclusively for our Dead Ass listeners from now until May 6th.Go to www.DeadAssPodcast.Com and enter the code DEADASS to unlock the pre-sale and cop your tickets first! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The conversation about who foots the bill in relationships comes up every day on social media. Some think, if a man is a true provider, he’ll take on all of the financial responsibility. But others think, if a woman truly wants equality, she’ll be willing to split the bills 50/50. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss what they think, and how they’ve made money work in their marriage. Dead ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Social media can be a tool that you use for knowledge, inspiration and connection, that enriches the life you already love. Or social media can be a nagging reminder of all the things you hate about yourself. It all depends on what you choose to believe. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk about the ups and downs of social media. Dead Ass.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all like to feel helpful and important to our friends and loved ones. We help them when they’re sick, give them comfort when they’re sad, and advice when they complain. But all advice ain’t good advice. That’s why the Ellises have learned to keep people outside of their marriage out of their married business. Dead ass.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s Khadeen’s favorite part of the show…for the whole show. In this episode, the Ellises are getting all in your business to answer your listener letters! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

They say, when you’re up, your friends know who you are, but when you’re down you know who your friends are. The burden of being the one who made it is heavy, and in this episode, the Ellises talk about what it’s like to carry the weight. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The same thing you do to get him, is what you gotta do to keep him, right? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale reveal all the little things they did during their days of dating that turned them into #MarriageGoals almost 20 years later. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In moments of high frustration with kids, and there are many frustrating moments, parents can let their emotions get the best of them. Khadeen and Devale explain how they admit when they’re wrong and apologize to their kids. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a man is available and willing to be a father, his child’s mother should let him do so. Do you agree? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss the challenges of trusting Dad to do what Mom can. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to family, the Ellises are sure to put theirs first. But with Khadeen’s parents living with them full time, it can get tough. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale tell us the whole truth about what it’s like to live with their parents. Dead Ass.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know someone that’s too clingy. Or we’ve had a partner that can’t or won’t express how they feel. But what you may not know, is that a person’s emotional response in relationships is an attachment style that they developed in their first 18 months of life! This episode is like group therapy when Khadeen and Devale talk to licensed therapist, Delena Zimmerman about attachment styles and how our childhoods determine the way we move in our adult relationships. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The term “Black excellence” can be a double edged sword. The pressure to be twice as good, and the burden of being Black enough can be a heavy task to bear. But in this episode, Khadeen and Devale explain the way they encourage and embrace their Princes on their journey to becoming Kings. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to religion, Millennials are questioning what we were taught to believe. From the judgment we faced in church, to the condemnation of people whose lifestyles don’t gel with church folk, nowadays, adults are finding their own way to connect with God. In this episode, author, mother and born again Christian, Christina Price, shares her story. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Traditions are the cornerstones of a family. But sometimes those traditions are things like: keeping secrets, validating abusive behavior, and upholding toxic patterns. Khadeen and Devale think it’s time to break those family traditions and settle into some healthier traditions of your own. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When you have a spouse, a job and multiple kids, it’s hard to find a moment for yourself. That’s why some parents are opting to hire help with their newborn’s needs while they take a few hours to do other things. But how much help is too much? In this episode, Khadeen and Devale discuss their method for getting help at home. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The access we have to information in today’s world has created a generation of people who are much more equipped to deal with life’s ups and downs. And for social media personalities like Katryce Pedro AKA The Funny Momma, sharing their journey through hardships and triumphs helps create communities of people all over the world who are dealing with similar issues. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale talk with Katryce about her journey through motherhood and social media. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Now that the Ellis crew has added another whole boy, are Khadeen and Devale done having kids? In this episode, the couple discuss if they’re done populating their village. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When a woman is handling the changes in her body during pregnancy, her partner may want to be creative with ways to keep her feeling good and sexy. In this episode, Devale shares the ways he kept Khadeen feeling sexy to make sure the intimacy never wavered during pregnancy. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 40 weeks of pregnancy, the work of having a baby isn’t over. Khadeen and Devale bust the myths and discuss the facts to prepare you for the 4th trimester. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The line between life and death becomes its thinnest during childbirth. In this episode, the Ellises discuss their brush with death after Khadeen developed postpartum preeclampsia. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Baby E4, Dakota Marley Ellis is here and the Ellises are savoring each moment with him as he starts to make his mark in the world. In this episode, Khadeen and Devale share their experience giving birth at home to their fourth whole boy. Dead Ass.   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Congratulations to the Ellises who welcomed baby Dakota to the world! Come back for a new episode of Dead Ass on Wednesday, December 8th! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The countdown to baby E4 is almost over, and the Ellises are getting ready for another home birth. In this episode, they answer all your questions about exactly what takes place during the birthing process and what’s different about giving birth at home. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From Brooklyn to Atlanta, and hospitals to home births, the Ellises have stories for days about how the births of their 4 boys have been different. How’d they prepare for each of them? In this episode Khadeen and Devale explain. #DeadAss. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Well into the third trimester, Khadeen’s ready for Baby E4 to make his appearance. But as Devale plays super Dad to make sure she’s ready for delivery, Khadeen’s got her hands full keeping Devale’s head in the game. In this episode, Khadeen gives her top 10 suggestions for what Dad needs during pregnancy. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

With 15 years of friendship and 9 kids between them, Khadeen and her bestie Bianca Smith have shared a lot of life. This week they’re letting us in on their lives and some of the craziest moments in their friendship. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a society where masculinity is synonymous with hardness, where does a man get to be open? Devale makes space for masculine vulnerability with his Sistas co-stars Kevin Walton and Trinity Whiteside in this episode. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After having 3 whole boys, Devale is an expert at making sure Khadeen is comfortable carrying baby E4. This week, Devale shares his top 10 things Dads can do to help carry the load during pregnancy. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Children are a gift, but the way they get here feels like a curse. Khadeen and Devale get real about what they hate about pregnancy. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Khadeen gets real about the transformations she’s seen in her body going through her fourth pregnancy while Devale talks about changes he’s seen in himself too. The Ellises share advice on how to have a healthy pregnancy and how to cope with all the changes that come with it. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Pregnancy takes its toll on a woman’s body and that can weigh on a couple’s sex life. But for some couples, the sex is even better during pregnancy. The Ellises share where they fall on the pregnant sex spectrum. Dead Ass! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Some experts say that the first trimester of pregnancy is the sneakiest of them all. No cute baby bump, just morning sickness and vibes. This week, Khadeen and Devale share how they got through their fourth 1st trimester. And share tips, tricks and absolute necessities for new parents. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 4 seasons of Devale begging Khadeen to have another baby, his wish is finally coming true. The Ellises are having another baby! The Eliises are sharing their hopes and dreams for #E4 and how they finally came to the decision to add one more to the Ellis gang. Dead Ass.   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Game night is always a blast when the drinks are flowing and the laughs are growing. Khadeen and Devale try to replicate the game night vibes virtually with the always hilarious Kid Fury (The Read). The trio shares some of their deepest darkest secrets with a game night where nothing is Taboo. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Devale always says, “There is a delusional quality that all successful people have”, and that delusion is the vision that only they can see for themselves. The Ellises invited their friends, and fellow superstars Kendall Kyndall (Social Society) and Crystal Renee’ Hayslett (Sistas) to share the delusions they’ve had when reaching for their dreams. #DeadAss. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s time for Khadeen’s favorite part of Dead Ass - listener letters! And this time, the Ellises are answering your letters for the entire episode. Get ready to be shocked, perplexed, and nosey. Dead Ass! If you want to be featured as one of our listener letters, email DeadAssAdvice@Gmail.com. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Relationships that stand the test of time, also stand the tests of life and circumstances. After 10 years of marriage, the Ellises say that those tests are the measure of loyalty in relationships. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Culturally, quickly establishing who is at fault is our default response. But what does it really mean to hold ourselves and our partners accountable? Licensed marriage and Family Therapist, Delena Zimmerman is here to help the Ellises figure out who is really to blame. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is it possible to hate and love someone at the same time?? This week, the Ellises say YES! Khadeen and Devale share what irks and annoys them about each other. But what doesn’t kill them makes them stronger. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises didn’t get to celebrate their 10 year anniversary with a vow renewal, but that doesn’t mean they’ve stopped celebrating their marriage. This week, Khadeen & Devale discuss what they want to take into the next 10 years of marriage. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises bought a new home! And while they celebrate their win, the challenges Black people face when it comes to homeownership are real and perpetuate the racial wealth gap in America. This week, Khadeen & Devale tell you the ins and outs of what it took to buy a new home during the pandemic. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When it comes to single men and women, the double standard is real. A man is a pimp when he’s sewing his royal oats, but a woman is a hoe if she’s dating around. Khadeen & Devale debate the relevance of heaux tales. #DeadAss Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Ellises only disagree on 1 thing – whether to have another a baby! But this week, Devale thinks he has the answers to convince Khadeen once and for all. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Arguably the most eligible bachelorette, Lori Harvey has been getting a lot of backlash about her dating habits. But is she wrong for being courted? Khadeen and Devale discuss. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Budgetnista is back to talk all things wealth with the Ellises. This time she’s breaking down the 10-step plan to financial freedom from her new book “Get Good with Money”. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The sex drive conversation has finally come to a resolution. This week the Ellises reveal what they think was holding them back from doin’ it wild for the last few years. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

#DeadAss Is back for season 5 and the Ellises are starting 2021 with a whole new outlook on love, life and marriage. How do you wake up every day with the intention of serving your spouse? Khadeen and Devale touch on service in marriage, finding your purpose and more this week. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Throw out everything you know about marriage! After 10 years of marriage, the Ellises reflect on the lessons they could only learn by doing. What really makes a marriage work? Well, that’s up to you. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Family secrets, family history and family curses are all ways we explain away the traumas that we pass from generation to generation. You can’t heal what you can’t feel, and this week Khadeen and Devale are talking about all the ways they hope to change their family’s future. Dead ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If 2020 has done one thing, it’s gotten all of us closer to our kids. We’ve been teachers, lunch ladies, camp counselors, playmates, and everything else during the pandemic and the struggle’s been real. This week, Khadeen and Devale talk to Early Childhood Development specialist Dr. Reema Naim about how we can strengthen the way we nurture our kids’ development. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The church is a pillar in our communities and families, but in the age of information, how do we reconcile what we know with what we believe? This week, Khadeen and Devale talk to Pastor Reginald Wayne Sharpe Jr. (Fellowship Chicago) about what faith and religion really mean in 2020. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The people who can trigger you the most, are the ones who know you the best. Family. And during the holidays, we gotta be prepared to deal with the ups and downs of family time. This week, Khadeen and Devale share their secrets on how to deal with family as an adult. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Amidst Black Lives Matter protests this year, The Ellises had to face one of their biggest challenges as parents raising Black boys. Having the Black talk. Khadeen and Devale are joined by civics educator Amber Coleman-Mortley to help them have the talk about race in America with their boys. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We make timelines in our minds for how we want our lives to go. But what happens when you put pressure on your spouse to meet your deadlines? The Ellises are going back to their conversation about pressure – the good and the bad that can come of it. Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Before you check your favorite celebrities and Facebook friends about posting about social justice issues, have you checked yourself? This week, Khadeen and Devale Ellis speak to Mysonne (co-founder of Until Freedom) about what it means to be a social activist, and how we can all activate change. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fatherhood is sacred. And as men continue to evolve, the way they approach fatherhood gets better and better. This week, Devale Ellis joins Ser Baffo, Slick Naim and Robb-Davon Butler in a discussion about all fatherhood, and how they’re breaking generational patters for their lineage. Dead Ass!  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This one’s for the ladies! Melanie Fiona, Ashley Chea and Bec M Gross join Khadeen Ellis this week for a candid conversation about what they’ve learned as mothers, from their mothers, and through self discovery via motherhood and beyond.   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know by now, that second stimulus check ain’t coming. So what can you do to remain financially secure during uncertain times? The Budgetnista is back with Khadeen and Devale to help you stay afloat during the pandemic. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The 2020 Presidential Election is just around the corner and this year every vote is more crucial than ever. Shaun King joins the Ellises on this episode of Dead Ass to discuss just what is so important about this election, and how we can all effect change. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

If money comes and goes and emotions are fleeting, what is the real value of having a spouse? This week, Khadeen and Devale share what they’ve learned about how to be the best partner in marriage.   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do some women want monogamy if they can’t meet all of their partners’ needs? That’s Devale’s question for Khadeen this week as the Ellises talk about where their sex life is after 10 years of marriage. How do their standards for sex match up? What do they consider intimacy? And is monogamy really worth it? Find out in this episode of Dead Ass. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Just when you thought 2020 was a wash, The Ellises are here to save the day. Live from the Fresh Prince of Bel Air mansion, Khadeen and Devale share how they’ve used their time at home to be better parents and what they’ve learned from the now infamous 2020. Dead Ass! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the midst of an unbelievable year, Dead Ass is back for its fourth season with a new home, new episodes, new guests, and the same BROOOKLYNNNN energy. Join Khadeen & Devale Ellis for another season of conversations about relationships, culture, and everything in between. Season 4 starts Wednesday, October 7th, wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many decisions that will affect our future will happen this year…dead ass! On this special BONUS episode of Dead Ass, the Ellises talk politics so you can get as much information as possible and can let your voice be heard. First up K&D interview 2020 Democratic presidential nominee Joe Biden to discuss action items for the black community. Then the Ellises go deep on the state of Black America with three brilliant minds: President of Sales at BET Louis Carr, Civil Rights attorney Kenneth Montgomery, and Finance Guru Tiffany “The Budgetnista” Aliche. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

For their 10 year anniversary, Khadeen and Devale wanted to honor their marriage with a vow renewal ceremony #EllisVowRenewal2020...until the pandemic happened. The ceremony is on hold right now, but to end Season 3, K&D are still celebrating this milestone at home with you! This week they're breaking down what they've learned from being partners for 18 years and what they see in the future of their relationship. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As parents, you want your kids to have it better than you and as hard as you did. Khadeen and Devale are turning back the clock to talk about their childhoods in 90's Brooklyn and how they're trying to teach their kids the same lessons from the 'hood even though they're growing up in LA. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Devale and Khadeen have always talked frankly about sex as a married couple in their YouTube videos and on Dead Ass. But there are three people they are NOT ready to have any conversations about sex with: THEIR BOYS. This week Antoinette Scully, co-founder of More Than Sex-Ed, joins K&D to help them figure out how to start conversations with their kids about sex, consent, contraception, and gender. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

ATLANTA, you brought the heat to Dead Ass Live at the Variety Playhouse. This show was recorded Valentine's Day week, and K&D wanted to do something special: they wanted to find the ideal couple in the audience that night. You do not want to miss this episode! See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In honor of #EllisVowRenewal2020, Khadeen is throwing herself a second bridal shower. But this time, instead of focusing on the honeymoon, Khadeen is turning to her friends and fellow boss moms Melanie Fiona (@melaniefiona) and Codie Elaine Oliver (@codieco) to share stories, tips, and advice on how to balance their identities and ambitions with their marriages, children, and work. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Devale gets tons of DMs from single men who want to know: why should I get married? This week, Devale’s bringing that conversation out of the locker room and into the open. Representing the single men, he's joined by Brian Jordan Jr (@brianjordanjr) and Chido Nwokocha (@yea_imchido), and on the married side, Marcus Tanksley (@marcusaintonthegram). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We're bringing you an extra surprise this week! The Suga is the newest podcast from our Stitcher fam and it's the brown mama's guide to the sweet life. It's hosted by actress, model, and producer, Tika Sumpter, and co-president of Kevin Hart's LOL Network, Thai Randolph. They're both boss moms, just like Khadeen. The Suga is a safe space where moms, moms-to-be, and those undecided can laugh, learn and love on each other as they navigate life. We know you'll love the show, so listen and subscribe to The Suga now in your favorite podcast app! See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In a relationship, you gotta work out how to be with your significant other as an individual, as a partner, and, if you want kids, as a parent. This week Khadeen and Devale dig into how they teach consequences to their boys and what they do when their parenting styles don't match up. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Devale wants to turn #3WholeBoys into #BabyE4, but Khadeen just wants to protect her womb! This week, Angel Laketa Moore (@thatchickangel) and her husband Marcus Tanksley join K&D to discuss knowing when you're done having kids and how to address nosy questions like "When are you going to have another baby?" See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sex after kids is NOT a myth. But it IS a challenge for many couples, including Khadeen and Devale (#couplegoals ain't all it's cracked up to be.) This week, they hash out where they stand now when it comes to making time for intimacy and making each other's satisfaction a priority. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Khadeen and Devale talk about past infidelities and how they each got through their moments of transgression, and Melissa Dumaz, LMFT from U Help You joins the Ellises to share her insights on how couples can rebuild trust after cheating. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Partnership takes work. But Devale and Khadeen have very different methods to getting things done: Khadeen is a procrastinator and Devale is a control freak who wants to do everything right away. This week, how to navigate your partner's work ethic as business partners to avoid resenting each other as husband and wife. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After ten years of marriage, Khadeen and Devale Ellis want to do it all over again. Your favorite millennial couple is renewing their vows this summer (#EllisVowRenewal2020!!) And on the next season of Dead Ass, starting March 4, they're gonna look back and reflect on what they want to bring into their second decade of matrimony. Subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Visualizing, goal setting, and manifesting. We want you to live your best life and while we all experience setbacks, what defines us is how we don’t give up in pursuit of our dreams. To end Season 2 we’re sharing how we’ve been able to make our wildest dreams come to fruition. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our live show at the Brooklyn Bellhouse was a culmination of our hard work and most importantly, your support. Thank you to our frambily (family, friends, and tribe) for showing up for us at our SOLD OUT live shows. You don’t want to miss this episode. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After 17 years together, we’ve set, overstepped, and reset boundaries. And through it all we’ve learned to trust that we are committed to choosing each other. This week we’re talking relationship boundaries and why we don’t set them. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As the saying goes, you gotta put your oxygen mask on first. This week we’re talking self-care, yoga and rachet affirmations with Britteny Floyd-Mayo of Trap Yoga Bae.      This episode is sponsored by Morgan & Morgan (www.forthepeople.com/deadass), MVMT Watches (www.mvmt.com/DEADASS), Policygenius (www.policygenius.com), and Brooklyn Brewery (www.brooklynbrewery.com/SPECIALEFFECTS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

So many of us are living with unresolved trauma and as a community we have a lot of healing to do. The first step is seeking help. This week forensic psychiatrist, Dr. Imani Walker joins us to share her insights on the state of mental health in the black community.   This episode is sponsored by Spotify - Dissect podcast, Zebit (www.zebit.com/deadass), Morgan & Morgan (www.forthepeople.com/deadass), and Universal - Queen & Slim. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week on Dead Ass, our favorite part of the show is the whole show! We’re answering your listener letters and dropping some gems from our personal experiences.   This episode is sponsored by Zebit (www.zebit.com/deadass), Universal - Queen and Slim, JustFab (www.justfab.com/deadass), and MVMT Watches (www.mvmt.com/deadass). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all know it takes a village when it comes to raising kids, this week Khadeen is holding it down with mom, rapper and YouTube sensation, Jessica Rose of She Really Had a Baby.   This episode is sponsored by Morgan & Morgan (www.forthepeople.com/deadass), Universal - Queen and Slim, and ID Tech (www.idtech.com/DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We got the power! Now we gotta get our facts straight when it comes to political participation. This week we are talking to A’shanti Gholar, the founder of The Brown Girls’ Guide to Politics (thebgguide.com) about how to exercise our voting rights and running for office.     This episode is sponsored by MVMT Watches (www.mvmt.com/deadass), MyBookie (www.mybookie.ag code: DEADASS) and JustFab (www.justfab.com/deadass). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Energy vampires be GONE! This week we're talking about how to navigate those relationships that you know ain’t no good.     This episode is sponsored by Policygenius (www.policygenius.com) and Morgan & Morgan (www.forthepeople.com/deadass). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

All rise for the honorable Judge Mablean as she talks with Khadeen and Devale on why some might decide to get a prenuptial agreement and what it really means to think deep before you leap!     This episode is sponsored by Audible (www.audible.com/deadass or text DEADASS to 500-500), MyBookie (www.mybookie.ag code: DEADASS), and Lola (www.mylola.com code: DEADASS30). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's no secret that we're constantly trying to get on the same page as it relates to our sex life, so today we're chatting with sexologist Shan Boodram to help us figure how to keep things spicy after 17 years. Dead Ass is headed to Philly on November 21st and in Brooklyn on November 22nd! Click the link to get your tickets today: https://www.deadasspodcast.com/     This episode is sponsored by Zebit (www.zebit.com/DEADASS), MyBookie (www.mybookie.ag code: DEADASS), and Policygenius (www.policygenius.com). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Does the fairytale really end after you say, "I Do?" Kevin and Melissa Fredericks from the podcast The Love Hour join Khadeen and Devale to talk about how they've managed to keep their marriages strong as they constantly evolve and go through all of life's changes.Dead Ass has two live shows coming up in Philly on November 21st and in Brooklyn on November 22nd! Click the link to get your tickets now: https://www.deadasspodcast.com/     This episode is sponsored by MyBookie (www.mybookie.ag code: DEADASS), JustFab (www.justfab.com/deadass), and MVMT Watches (www.mvmt.com/DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Khadeen and Devale will have you saying FACTS FACTS FACTS when it comes to getting comfortable talking about the five taboo topics that can make or break your relationship. Dead Ass has two live shows coming up in Philly on November 21st and in Brooklyn on November 22nd! Click the link to get your tickets now: https://www.deadasspodcast.com/     This episode is sponsored by Policygenius (www.policygenius.com) MyBookie (www.mybookie.ag code: DEADASS) and Betterhelp (www.betterhelp.com/deadass  code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Talking about that real love, the kind that doesn’t feel like a chore...until it does. Khadeen and Devale talk about when they realized their intimacy stopped being a priority and how they got their love life back on track.  Dead Ass is doing a live show in Philly on November 21st and in Brooklyn on November 22nd! Click the link to get your tickets now: https://www.deadasspodcast.com/   This episode is sponsored by MyBookie (www.mybookie.ag code: DEADASS) and Betterhelp (www.betterhelp.com/deadass code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You’ve left comments, you’ve left reviews, the people have spoken. It’s true, Khadeen and Devale Ellis are BACK BABY with season two of Dead Ass starting September 25th! Your favorite millennial couple is serving Martin and Gina realness this season with new guests, new topics, but of course with the same K & D antics that will have you cracking up and wanting more. Make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the season finale, we're answering listener letters with candid examples from our biggest relationship struggles. We'll be back in September with new episodes.  This episode is sponsored by HBO - A Black Lady Sketch Show, Policygenius (www.policygenius.com), Care/of (www.takecareof.com code: DEADASS), and Betterhelp (www.betterhelp.com/deadass code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Khadeen & Devale discuss their reasons behind choosing a home birth as well as the high infant and mom mortality rates of Black women with midwife Takiya B. This episode is sponsored by HBO - A Black Lady Sketch Show, Betterhelp (www.betterhelp.com/deadass code: DEADASS), and SKYN. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The importance of understanding your S/O's culture and dissecting the tension between American & Caribbean blacks. This episode is sponsored by SKYN, HelloFresh (www.hellofresh.com/deadass80 code: DEADASS80), and Raycon (www.buyraycon.com/deadass). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Khadeen & Devale you don't get to see. If you don't know, now you know! This episode is sponsored by Policygenius (www.policygenius.com), Betterhelp (www.betterhelp.com/deadass code: DEADASS), and ButcherBox (www.butcherbox.com/deadass code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We discuss the stresses of fitness and body image in a relationship, as well as the benefits of working out w/ personal trailer Dolo. This episode is sponsored by Lola. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Here are our tips on how to argue respectfully.  This episode is sponsored by Skyn and Podswag (code: DEADASS). Come see Dead Ass LIVE at the Essence Festival on July 6! See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Children completely changed our relationship, we dive into exactly how.  This episode is sponsored by Freaknik: A Discourse On A Paradise Lost podcast, Raycon (www.buyraycon.com/deadass), Helix Sleep (www.helixsleep.com/deadass), and HelloFresh (www.hellofresh.com/deadass80 code: DEADASS80). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We share our story on how we used social media to fulfill our dreams and later in the show the creator and cast of the web series MakeUp to BreakUps join the conversation.  This episode is sponsored by Freaknik: A Discourse On A Paradise Lost podcast, Netflix - I Hate Talking About Myself podcast, Policygenius (www.policygenius.com), Turo, and BET Network Awards (www.bet.com). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Let's face it, expectations change when you're married -- especially when it comes to sex. We dive into how to work through those times when you're really not in the mood. This episode is sponsored by Turo. See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Can you really be boujee and broke? We talk with America's favorite financial educator Tiffany "The Budgetnista" Aliche, on how to create a budget and financially plan the life you really want. This episode is sponsored by Turo and BlueChew (www.bluechew.com code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How to navigate the world we live in, when all you wanna do is live your best life.  This episode is sponsored by Policygenius (www.policygenius.com), Away (www.awaytravel.com/deadass code: DEADASS), and BlueChew (www.bluechew.com code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We all have thoughts that make us doubtful, we're talking about how to deal with "ish" that makes us so insecure. This episode is sponsored by Turo and Lola (www.mylola.com code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why we got married and how it works for US! This episode is sponsored by Turo (www.turo.com code: DEADASS). See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Starting May 15th it's the podcast you never you knew you needed in your life! Join The Ellises as they have honest and raw conversations about relationships, parenting, family, work life balance and more! See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.