You Need Therapy

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives her thoughts on online therapy platforms like Better Help and Talk Space.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat dives into the lies that we tell ourselves. It’s something that we all do for one reason or another… we lie to stay comfortable, we lie to avoid, we lie because it can feel good, and we can lie to continue a narrative that we want ourselves and others to believe. The tricky part is, sometimes we lie so well that we can convince ourselves that we aren’t even lying anymore. So, in this episode, Kat dives into some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, why we might use them, and how they might be hurting us.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about a complicated, secret relationship that has suddenly come to light, leaving her to face painful fallout and deep self-doubt, as well as struggling with feelings of guilt, loss, and fear of judgment from those around her.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Who remembers their first time? This week, Kat, Josie, and Julia reminisce on the first time they ever went to therapy. And surprise! All of their experiences were a little bit different. Kat refused to speak in her session, Julia's may have told her therapist what she didn't like about her, and Josie was wishing her therapist was "cooler".  Kat wanted to have a conversation that talked about what it is like to go to therapy for the first time and what you may experience yourself because doing new things can be super intimidating. While we can't tell you exactly what it will be like- we can give you three perspectives from three different therapists. In this episode we answer listener questions including: What happens if I don't know what to talk about in session? How many sessions will it take to know if your therapist is the right fit? What kind of questions does a therapist ask during the first session? As a therapist, how do you prepare for a new client and what are some ways you try to ease the discomfort of a first timer? How do you get over the fear of embarrassment knowing you will cry the whole time?  AND MORE!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener who's feeling crushed after her therapist suddenly announced she’s leaving. Kat dives into why saying goodbye can feel so intense, whether it's normal to feel so attached, and how to keep going in therapy even when it feels hard to start over. Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is helping us differentiate between having a heated debate and having a respectful conversation. Every human is going to find themselves in a conversation where they do not agree with some of the other parties involved. While that may not be fun or ideal— it doesn’t mean you have to fight them! In this episode you will learn how reframing the goals of your “disagreements”  allows you to understand your peers, friends, and partners better and vice versa.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat replies to an email about someone who finds a box of their boyfriend’s ex’s things while cleaning his house.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, Kat recalls a haunting jail tour from years ago that left her feeling trapped in more ways than one. Though she isn’t a fan of scary attractions, the experience reminded her how real "stuckness" feels in relationships, jobs, finances, and more. Kat explores why making logical decisions can be difficult when emotions come into play, how our wiser selves often go missing in tough moments, and why the scariest thing is sometimes just feeling stuck. Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about how her long-term boyfriend asked for time alone to process stress but didn’t give a timeline for reconnecting, and how she's struggling with uncertainty and wondering how to respect his need for space while expressing her own needs.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kat welcomes Crystal Lunenschloss MS, RDN, LDN, CEDS-C back to the podcast for a conversation about digestion and some of the trends impacting it today. They explore the resurgence of laxatives and discuss why they can do more harm than good. Crystal breaks down the truth about supplements—why overloading on them often just results in wasted nutrients, and how diet teas may dehydrate your body, making digestion even more difficult. They also highlight the importance of staying hydrated and why flashy supplement packaging can sometimes mislead people into thinking they'll live longer by taking unnecessary products.   Visit Horizon Nutrition Counseling's website HERE! Find on Instagram: @horizon_nutritioncounseling   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat dives into Onsite's newest journal, exploring the seven types of rest and what each one means for our overall well-being. She breaks down the causes that might be making you feel like you need specific kinds of rest and helps you reflect on which type of rest might be missing from your routine. Whether you're feeling drained emotionally, mentally, or physically, Kat offers thoughtful guidance on how to find the rest you need most! Check out Onsite and the journal HERE!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat dives into the rise of golf with her husband Patrick, and its booming popularity in recent years. Is it the skill of the players or just luck that drives the excitement? Are golfers relatable, or is it all about the thrill of watching the pros in action? Kat also explores the question everyone’s been thinking: Is golf really a sport, or just an excuse for some much-needed time away from home? And out of all the sports, why has golf captured such a dedicated following? Plus, how does anyone even sit through a full game on TV? Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about how to confront someone without coming across as aggressive or blaming. Instead of turning into a bully during tough conversations, she explores how to handle conflicts in a way that actually works toward finding solutions. Whether it’s at home or at work, Kat shares tips on shifting your approach so you can communicate better and work things out in a more positive way.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat dives into the topic of burnout, exploring what it is and how it affects different areas of life. While burnout is commonly associated with work, she highlights that it can also arise from other sources. She helps listeners recognize the signs of burnout, from physical and emotional exhaustion to a sense of detachment. Kat also shares tips and strategies for alleviating burnout, focusing on how to prioritize self-care, set boundaries, and restore balance.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat dives into two thought-provoking questions that touch on the current climate: Can you be in a relationship with someone who has different political views? And as a therapist, how do you navigate your own beliefs when working with clients who hold opposing views? Kat explores different perspectives and provides helpful insights to consider, to help gain a deeper understanding of these complex topics and reflect on how they might show up in your own life and relationships.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat dives into the concept of "normal" and how certain behaviors or trends become normalized over time, even if they aren't always what's best for us. Why do we start wanting to wear or do something just because we see it everywhere? Kat unpacks the idea of fitting in and questions whether we've begun to use the word "normal" to justify things that maybe shouldn't be. She explores how, when the abnormal becomes normal, things can take a turn for the worse. With the help of listener submissions, Kat also highlights some everyday habits that seem normal to us now, but we might not have thought that a few years ago. Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat answers a question about handling conflict before a big celebration. After a fight with a friend, the listener is torn between addressing the issue right away or waiting to cool down, which ultimately affected their experience at the event. Kat explores how to balance processing emotions with minimizing impact on others, offering insight on navigating tricky situations like this in the future.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat brings back licensed marriage and family therapist Staci Buford from Three Cords Therapy to tackle an insightful question from a listener about self-education. The listener asks how to navigate learning about sensitive topics—such as race, sexuality, and the experiences of war veterans—without placing the burden on those who live these experiences. Kat and Staci dive into the complexities of this issue, focusing particularly on racial dynamics. Staci shares her journey of learning during her therapy training, and the two provide practical resources and advice for those who want to educate themselves on these important topics.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener question about staying present during stressful moments. She shares her favorite technique to help when feelings of overwhelm or anxiety start to creep in—the 5 Senses Technique (Something you can Taste, See, Hear, Feel & Smell). Whether you're struggling with anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, or just need a break from it all, this simple yet effective exercise can bring you back to the present. Kat explains how you can use this method in everyday life and even create a go-to "sensory kit" to keep on hand when things get tough.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here to visit the website, or check it out on Instagram: @threecordstherapy   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat sits down with Amy Brown to talk about life after divorce. Amy shares how her marriage came together quickly, and how she once believed she was ready for it but hadn’t taken the time to understand her own wants and needs. Now after personal reflection and growth, Amy opens up about her dating life and how she discovered she had been living by others’ expectations. They break down that through therapy and self-reflection, she’s implementing the "both/and" mindset—grateful for her past relationship, even though it ended, and is ready for what’s next.   Follow Amy on Instagram: @RadioAmy Visit RadioAmy.com for links to her Favorite Things & more! Amy's Podcast: 4 Things with Amy Brown HAVE THE DAY YOU NEED TO HAVE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat takes a break from the usual Q&A style to explore our obsession with finding meaning in everything. She reflects on the idea that constantly trying to explain or justify every experience might disconnect us from living fully in the present. She encourages embracing uncertainty and letting go of the pressure to "connect the dots." Sometimes, things just are—and that's perfectly okay. Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Join us this week as we sit down with Emma McCallie, founder and CEO of Folx Table—a unique platform creating real-world connections through spontaneous, in-person experiences. Known as 'The Sit Down Social Network,' Folx Table has sparked hundreds of authentic interactions across Nashville and at SXSW 2024. It’s not a members-only club, dinner party, or dating app; it’s a fresh way for people to come together. In this episode, Kat and Emma discuss the inspiration behind Folx Table, Emma’s journey in launching the platform, and the driving force to address the lack of meaningful connection in today’s world.   Follow Folx Table on Instagram: @folx.table Visit their website by clicking HERE!     Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives some advice to a listener who is asking for some help on how to best support their friend who is on their journey to being sober.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is extra fun because we are literally talking about… fun. In this episode, Kat introduces us to “The Fun Scale” which helps to widen our view on fun so we can have more of it! Sometimes the fun of an experience isn’t in the experience at all- which may sound confusing to you but we promise once you listen to this epsiode it will all start making sense!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat expands on the listener question a bit, and talks about working at a private practice vs. why she created a group practice, valuing making money compared to having time outside of work, and how she has structured her business to make everyone as happy as she can.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat talks with Cait West, author of Rift: A Memoir of Breaking Away From Christian Patriarchy. Cait shares about her childhood growing up in the Christian patriarchy and how she found the strength to escape a life of serving the men around her. She was homeschooled and expected to live at home as a stay-at-home daughter until her father allowed her to marry a man he chose for her. No college and definitely no career. As she grew older something deep inside Cait told her this wasn’t how life was supposed to be – and in her 20s she did the most brave thing, she left to build a life of her own, getting a real job for the first time and eventually graduating college and starting a career as an editor. Follow Cait on Instagram: @caitwestwrites   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives some advice about how to have constructive and professional conversations at work with fellow employees and managers if their actions are triggering and bringing up wounds from childhood.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we revisit the chat Kat had with Justin Baldoni (@justinbaldoni) because she mentioned it on last weeks episode, and they talk about some of the harmful messages that our culture's idea of masculinity creates. Justin came out with a book, titled Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity, and started the Man Enough Podcast in 2021 in an effort to further undefine masculinity and offer freedom to those who have been hurt by the current popular beliefs of what being a man looks like. In this episode you will hear about some of those beliefs and gain a better understanding of why we need to start shifting how we view masculinity.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about the differences in the degrees you can get to become a therapist and how to choose the best route for YOU.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kat’s back with another conversation about the confusing nature of vulnerability on the interwebs. In this episode Kat discusses the differences between emotional oversharing and true vulnerability and gives some tips from Brene Brown on how to know when its time to share.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Click HERE to see the You Need Therapy merch! Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat answers a question about what to do if you run into your therapist outside of the therapy office (and what therapists are allowed to do if they run into a client outside of the office).   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This Is For The Therapists is a series created to highlight and dive into topics that impact therapists specifically. This week, Julia Langner joins us again to talk about the pressures of social media therapists may feel while trying to build their practice.  Click the link HERE to contact Bridget! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives some tips on how to make friends as an adult!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This Is For The Therapists is a series created to highlight and dive into topics that impact therapists specifically. This week, we talk about what happens when you mess up at work.  Click the link HERE to contact Bridget! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus epsiode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives feedback to a listener who is wondering if she should get a new gym after her and her boyfriend broke up.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat talks about Third Places and why they are so hard to come by these days.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus epsiode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives feedback to a listener around how to have a healthy conversation with her fiancé about politics when they do not share the same beliefs.    Episode Mentioned: Be There in Five: Democracy in Retrograde Book Mentioned: Democracy in Retrograde   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is indroducing her new series: This One’s For The Therapists. In this series Kat will discuss a topic relevant to the experience of being a therapist. Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about how to shift perspectives around feeling obligated to spend time with in-laws! Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week licensed marriage and family therapist, Staci Buford, joins us to talk about what we are learning from reading Esther Perel’s book: The State of Affairs. In this episode we discuss the history of marriage and how they have shifted as society and culture has evolved and in turn, how that has affected our expectations and satisfaction in our relationships today.  The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity   Follow Kat on Instagram: @KatVanburen Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat answers questions that were sent to her on Instagram! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has Three Cords Therapy’s newest team member, Bridget Morris Krantz on to talk about one of her areas of speciality: perinatal mental health. This episode discusses some specific mental health concerns that arise before during and after the birthing process. Click the link HERE to contact Bridget! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your boss a narcissist or are they just a jerk? If you’re asking yourself this question than this week’s episode is calling your name. Honestly, these days the word narcissist is thrown around so much that it is almost losing it’s true me meaning. The good news: Kat is on a mission to help us understand what is just mean and harmful behavior and what it actually looks like to be in a relationship (specifically at work) with someone who might fit the criteria for malignant narcissism.  disclaimer: This podcast is not a replacement for mental health services and does not have the ability to diagnose or treat any person for mental health needs. This episode specifically does not and can not serve as means to help listeners diagnose or treat others or themselves with narcissistic personality disorder or any mental illness.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about healing a relationship after having a rough patch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has Josie Oldham on to talk about the unique challenges of eating disorder recovery.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Theray where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat processes a listener’s email about dating for the first time after getting divorced from an emotionally toxic partner. What does it mean when we aren’t OBSESSING over someone when we aren’t with them? Do we not like them OR maybe we like them a healthy amount? Kat talks about some of the unrealistic expectations we have for our partners and ways to decipher if we want to move forward in a relationship or pump the breaks. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is back discussing her internal dialogue involving cults and the power of brainwashing. After watching a recent Netflix documentary about a so called "dance management TikTok cult" Kat wanted to create a conversation around how and why we label people involved in these spaces as delusional, brainwashed, and incapable of making rational decisions. The questions left for you to answer is, are those assumptions fair or true? Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener who wonders if her disordered eating behaviors should be addressed with a therapist.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is taking some time to talk about a subject she is super compassionate about: Eating Disorders. Eating disorders have the second highest mortality rate of all mental health disorders -- yet sometimes their symptoms are actually prescribed by health professionals. Listen to this episode to hear things Kat thinks are important to consider when talking about these disorders! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kat answers a listener’s question about compassion fatigue and talks about burn out in helping professions.   Our listener has been having a difficult time coping with work lately – she works with cancer patients trying to help them engage in meaningful leisure activities. The job is so rewarding but she is feeling drained. She’s finding a lack of motivation in motivating others and asks Kat for advice because compassion fatigue is real! Most jobs come with their struggles, you can have gratitude for the specific brand of “hard” that you get to deal with but also acknowledge that things are difficult, frustrating and there will be times when you are “over it”.   Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat dives into **friendship** with Laura Tremaine. Laura is an OG blogger turned author who's latest book, the Life Council, is available now... and trust us, you want to get your hands on this book. Her book describes the 10 kinds of friends that every human needs and gives an in depth look at what Laura has learned about friendship though both the ups and downs of her own.  In this episode, Laura and Kat talk about Laura's "Friendship Philosophies" that have helped ground and protect the friendships she currently has in her life. Listen to the full episode to find out what philosophy made Kat have to puttee book down, take a break, and do some serious self reflection. Laura is full of both wisdom and light hearted fun conversation and we are SO GRATEFUL to now call her a friend of You Need Therapy!!! Follow Laura: @Laura.tremaine Laura's Book: The Life Council   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about ways you can get to know yourself after spending years being the person you thought other people wanted you to be! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last week, some college grads were handed the short hand of the stick when it came to their graduation ceremony. Sooo, this week Kat is reflecting on some things that could have been helpful to hear as she graduated college. In this episode, she offers some thoughts that may feel more inspiring to hear as all the recent graduates celebrate their meaningful and important accomplishment. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener email about wanting to buy her own engagement ring because her partner can’t afford the one she wants.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Troubled Teen Industry has some explaining to do and this week Caroline Cole and Rebecca Mellinger Grone are here to tell us why. They are the co-hosts of the podcast Trapped in Treatment (produced by Paris Hilton & Warner Brothers) that weaves together personal accounts with historical detail and expert opinions to shine a light on what really happens at teen behavior modification centers and how this billion-dollar industry has flourished for so long. The industry that promises hope and help to parents struggling with making the best decisions for their kids... is actually handing out more trauma than actual therapy. As Kat, Caroline, and Rebecca talk about these programs, in which some have ZERO licensed clinical staff & are run by teams focussed on dollar signs, this episode will leave you not just shocked, but pissed off.  Caroline Cole is an entrepreneur, policy advocate, and Special Advisor to the International Coalition Against Restraint and Seclusion. After 2 ½ years in a “troubled teen” program, she knew she needed to change the system. In her work, Caroline draws from her own experiences with trauma to drive social change. Caroline, alongside Paris Hilton, penned the federal bill, The Stop Institutional Child Abuse Act, and has successfully passed laws across the country to prevent youth from being abused in institutional settings.  Rebecca Mellinger Grone harnesses the power of entertainment and media platforms to drive social change. Head of Impact at Paris Hilton’s media company 11:11 Media, she is reforming the "Troubled Teen Industry" through policy change, public awareness, and providing direct assistance for institutional abuse survivors.   Trapped In Treatment  www.stopinstitutionalchildabuse.com    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com You Need Therapy (find our merch here!) Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives feedback to a listener who is afraid she is going to resent her partner who is in the military for his work obligations.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has best selling author, Amanda Montell on YNT to talk about her new book, The Age of Magical Overthinking. In this episode, they talk about some of the cognitive biases that we all use to try and make sense of the information overload we love these days.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat tells a story from her recent trip to Chicago and a lesson she learned from the grace her husband gave her for booking the wrong days for their hotel room!    Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is joined by the amazing Jonathan Merritt, who is about to release his first children's book, My Guncle And Me. Jonathan is an award-winning columnist and commentator on politics, spirituality, and culture. He is a contributing editor for The Week and has been featured on prominent national outlets including The New York Times, USA Today, The Washington Post, The Atlantic, and CNN. He is also a profoundly kind, caring, and inspiring soul who helped create a space for a conversation about safety, love, & inclusivity. Listen to this episode to hear about what Jonathan calls the difference between "A Thing" and "A Version of a Thing" and learn how he went from experiencing a malicious public outing to feeling more loved & celebrated for who he is than ever before.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat replies to a listener who is wondering what will give her worth and value if she stops performing for others.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is talking about Performative vulnerability again. Performative vulnerability is what happens when we use sharing (or oversharing) parts of our lives in order to gain something in return, such as attention or feelings of superiority. It can look like an example of altruism on the outside; risking judgment for the greater good of others feeling less alone or more connected. However, the intentions of those who engage in this are far from selfless. And although it is super frustrating when we see this displayed around us, this episode is less about how we can call others behavior out and more about how we can learn to pay better  attention to our intentions and our actions.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener writes in about not knowing how to respond to clients as a new counselor/therapist. Kat talks about how to handle situations when you don’t know the right thing to say and how to build confidence as a therapist.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Julia Langer is back again to talk all things deconstruction. This episode breaks down what deconstruction is, what inspires someone to deconstruct something, and what are some common misunderstandings surrounding the experience.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, fellow Three Cords Therapy therapist Julia Langer joins us again to talk about challenging relationships.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Josie Oldham LMSW, joins Kat to talk about Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Josie walks us through the components that are present in OCD and gives us a sneak peak into some strategies that can help manage some of the distress invooved within the disorder.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bo us episode of YNT that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week a listener writes in about some questionable text messages that she found on her partners phone.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat gets a new couch. During this episode Kat takes some time to process how our tendency to fix our emotional discomfort might be getting in the way of us actually getting what we need and living the lives we truly long for. In a world where we are obsessed with feeling good ALL of the time - it may be in our best interest to identify for ourselves if feeling “better” is really what we are searching for.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener asks Kat for input on navigating the relationship she has with her mom. Creating boundaries as an adult when you leave your family of origin and begin to create your own adult family can be one of the most confusing experiences that sends messages that we are doing things wrong when we are not. Listen to this episode to hear some of Kat’s perspective on what happens when our parent’s needs become our responsibility.  Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Ally Fallon is back for round two of YNT, right ahead of the release of her new book, Write Your Story. Her core message for readers is that they already have the magic to be the hero in their own lives – and the number one way to harness your main character energy is to write down your stories. Using her proven 8-step framework, Ally expertly guides readers to tell a more interesting story and begin to make meaning and live with more purpose. In this conversation, Ally and Kat talk about the importance (and discomfort) of doing things they aren't good at, how we are making meaning regardless of if we want to or not, and what it's like to have a therapist as a parent (possible foreshadowing for Kat's future).  Learn more about Ally HERE.  Follow Ally on Instagram HERE. Listen to the Write Your Story podcast HERE.  Click HERE to see the new YNT merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat shares her favorite and least favorite parts of being a therapist and what advice she would have given herself before she decided to go into this field! Click HERE to see the new merch! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has her friend and licensed aesthetician, Hannah Ellis, back again to dive into the confusing world of skin care, anti aging, and the beauty industry. Have you heard of Frownies? Well, Kat had not and was surprised to find out it wasn’t a nickname for the wrinkles you get when you frown. They are in fact, one more of the products being marketed to us to “slow down the aging process” and Hannah gives us the 411 on if they really work AND if we really need them. And in the biggest plot twist of the podcast this year, Kat and Hannah go from laughing about Frownies to processing the fact that we are all going to die someday…  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week Kat shares a FUN announcement and then tells a personal story (plus a lesson she learned from said story) from her honeymoon.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has one of the Three Cords Therapy therapists, Julia Langer, to teach us about something that applies to all of us! During this episode Julia talks about the universal needs of a child (that apply to all humans!) and what happens when these needs do not get met.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answered questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about ways to respond to friends and family when they want to talk about things you no longer want to talk about in recovery.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we are back talking about one of our favorite topics with the help of fellow licensed mental health counselor, Jessica Baum. Jessica is the founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and her work is focused on developing a meaningful connection with oneself and in understanding our own core patterns so that we can better understand how we relate in our relationships. She recently came out with a new book Anxiously Attached to offer a roadmap to help you go from anxiously attached to building strong, secure relationships. In this episode we hear Jessica's take on Attachment Theory, talk about the "anxious avoidant dance",  and discuss how one's insecure attachment can be affected by using dating apps.  Learn more about Jessica HERE. Follow Jessica on Instagram HERE.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   This week, however, Kat is taking time to celebrate National Eating Disorder Awareness (NEDA) Week by talking about a form of disordered eating that gets overlooked very easily. Orthorexia is a type of disordered eating where someone becomes obsessed with the health of foods. It is not yet recognized in the DSM (diagnostic statistical manual for mental health disorders) but regardless this type of obsession with food/health can lead to an official diagnosis of an eating disorder a couple of different ways.   Resources for eating disorders - Books: Life Without Ed Feed Yourself Body Image Workbook   Social Media Accounts: @meanttoeat @Yrfatfriend @Victoriabrowne Full Orthorexia Episode: Orthorexia + Whole30   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is joined by not one but two guests, Jolenta Greenberg and Kristen Meinzer. Jolenta and Kristen both consider themselves advice critics. They spent years living by and critiquing advice from self-help books for their podcast By The Book and now they’re ready to discuss wellness-related questions and help debunk all the self-help myths and promises in their new podcast, How To Be Fine which premiered on February 23rd. In this episode, Kat, Jolenta, & Kristen talk about their experiences- what they thought was all BS, what they learned, what worked, and what was just weird.  Follow Jolenta: @jolenta_g Follow Kristen: @k10meinzer Check out How To Be Fine: @howtobefinepod Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives some quick things to consider to help differentiate between what things that are being sold to us on social media are legit and what ones are not as necessary as they look. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker is back for another installment of “The Difference Between,” a series where we break down the difference between a mental health related topic and how it shows up in pop culture. This week we rolled it back to the basics and talked about what therapy really is versuses how some popular tv shows portray it. Spoiler: It isn’t just us nodding our heads and asking you how you feel and it also isn’t us telling you what to do!   Then we breakdown why sometimes “No” is a complete sentence and why sometimes its helpful to offer more information when setting a boundary. It all goes back to the grey nuanced reality of what relationships really are- and there isn’t a right way that works all of the time! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week a listener writes in about the triggering content around diet and exercise that is constantly being brought up in her family’s group chat. Kat talks about ways to confront or “carefront” the issue and things to consider when struggling to feel confident sticking up for yourself! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The conversation that has been living rent free in Kat's head for months is now here. And she is THRILLED to have Registered Dietitian AND Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, Caroline Shermer, here to process it all with her. In this episode Kat and Caroline talk about their frustration felt while watching vulnerable populations who are desperate for help be taken advantage of by creative social media marketing tactics. You'll also hear about the latest buzzwords that are being co-opted by influencers (hello gut microbiome) to catch your attention and sell you anything and everything you don't need. Lastly, they discuss how they individually have learned to maintain their own moral and ethical guidelines while engaging in social media in their respective businesses.    More about Caroline: Caroline provides nutrition counseling empowering her clients to discover all they are meant to be and meant to eat apart from their eating disorder. She sees clients virtually nationwide and in person in Nashville TN at her private practice, Meant To Eat Nutrition Counseling. You can find her on meanttoeat.com and @meanttoeat on Instagram! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about the importance of allowing individuals to identify and describe their own experiences, especially when it comes to trauma.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is diving into the type of trauma that tends to get lost, ignored, and easily overlooked. There is a kind of trauma often labeled as "little t" that doesn't look like the typical large scale events you can easily pin point. When this type of trauma is experienced, usually, you'll be able to see the effects of the experience before you recognize the significance. Which is why so many people walk into therapy for the first time looking for relief from a symptom but assuming the problem is them— not something they went through. Listen this week to gain a better understanding of what types of things CAN be traumatic for individuals. Our hope is having a broader idea of the things that can alter the way we respond to the world, can offer both empathy and compassion for our struggles AND opportunities for healing.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about ways to address comments from friends, co-workers etc. that feel hurtful or passive aggressive.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat invites her friend and registered dietitian, Crystal Lunenshloss, back to the show. In this episode you will find both Crystal and Kat differentiating between diet culture and the truth of health.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat reads a listener e-mail responding to a recent episode about culture norms around women and marriage. This episode serves as a reminder that we all can experience life in our own unique way without needing to invalidate someone else's beliefs, experiences, or choices. And, as we do this, we can continue to build each other up and help each other develop our own truth and narrative to our own stories!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is talking about something that she has become more acutely aware of in the recent years-- her age. The process of growing up and "getting old" can be a weird one- and feel like a sudden one. In this episode, Kat takes listeners through the journey she has found herself on as she realizes that millennials are no longer the future and also no longer the problem child of a generation. We hope this conversation can serve as a fun and interesting listen that maybe doesn't teach you anything new but validates something you might be going through as well. After all, things just tend to feel better when we do them together.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat is talking about a lesson she was reminded of by the current snow day(s) she is experiencing!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you heard of a marriage pact? You know, the deal you make with one of your best friends that says, if you aren't married by a certain age, you'll marry each other. Why would anyone do this, you ask? That is one of the questions Kat is asking this week as she dives into the pressure many women experience in finding a partner in early adulthood. Maybe it has to do with the fact single men have historically been swooned over as "eligible bachelors" while women are labeled "old maids" and "spinsters. Or maybe it is because they were scarred by the plot of "My Best Friends Wedding." This episode invites you into the current conversation Kat is having with herself as she reevaluates the way her younger self idealized finding a husband.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat answers a listener question about her and her partners level of physical intimacy.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is diving into the world of shame and secrecy. In this episode you will get a refresh on what shame is, where it comes from, and what it feeds off of. Then Kat walks us through the role secrecy plays in our own shame.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week on Couch Talks Kat answers a listener e-mail asking for help navigating the diet culture ambush that comes at the beginning of each year.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy New Year!!!!!!! And on this New Year’s Day Kat is challenging us with a new way to approach New Year’s resolutions. Imagine walking into 2024 with the goal of becoming more of who you actually are versus trying to be who others expect you to be… sound enticing? Well, listen to this week’s episode to find out why this might be more beneficial than you may imagine and more important than you think!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that’s listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com This week, Kat answers a question a listener sent in after listening to Monday’s episode. If people accept the love they think they can get, how do I start to believe I can get more? This turns into a conversation about the difference between self esteem and self worth and why we need to spend more time teaching others about self worth versus how to get self esteem. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is a special week because Patrick, AKA Big P, AKA Kat's boyfriend joins the podcast for the FIRST TIME (and hopefully not the last). Have you ever found yourself crying over something like mustard being put on your burger when you asked for ketchup or getting tots instead of fries? How about getting cream cheese on your bagel when you asked for butter? Chances are- you know exactly what we are talking about and this week Kat is walking listeners through the most recent time she cried over getting the wrong food order. Why do small inconveniences sometimes take away our ability to utilizes rational thinking and drive us to make these mountains out of molehills? What is underneath our inability to regulate our emotions in the moment? Kat talks about how she processed her "dramatic" moment and brings Patrick on to give his take on what he saw going on as it was happening. Learn how to gain information about your needs during experiences when it feels like your disappointment is someone else's fault.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode if You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.This week, Kat is ending the year with a round of rapid fire questions: 1. Process for setting new year goals?2. Dating advice for someone having no luck? 3. Favorite Harry Potter book & movie? 4. One daily non negotiable to live a healthy life?   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week y'all are in for A TREAT with our guest, Courtney Grimes, LCSW.  Courtney’s passion for helping others is something you will feel in the first 3 seconds of this episode. You will also probably laugh in the first few seconds because she is as hilarious as she is passionate and smart. This particular conversation was inspired by a comment that Courtney made on a work trip that she and Kat went on together when they were talking about the gaps and holes in the treatment and recovery process. Courtney said, "No one else cares about your recovery." This may at first sound off putting and harsh. But when you dig into it, this sentence offers up a huge serving of empowerment to take ownership and control of one's own life. What makes it so hard for people to maintain recovery at home when in treatment? Why do triggers pop up everywhere? What are we supposed to do with said triggers? How am I supposed to heal and be healthy if the world is so F*ed up??? You will find about 1 million reasons to take notes during this episode, so grab a pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). One of Kat's favorite Courtney takeaways was, "Everything boils down to two things things: love and fear. Fear is made up of what if, versus what is. And what if isn’t real." So good, right??  Courtney co-founded a group therapy practice in Nashville called Symmetry Counseling. She serves as the Clinical Director for non-profit Renewed, and more recently founded The Collective. The Collective is an Extended Outpatient program, designed to bridge the gap between IOP and OP services, while providing a welcoming community for clients.  Follow The Collective on Instagram: @thecollectivenashville Follow Symmetry counting on Instagram: @symmertrycounselingnashville Follow Renewed on Instagram: @renewedsupport Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode if You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat responds to a listener who doesn’t want to spend her last Christmas before she gets engaged with her partner’s family.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat discusses how and when humor fits into how we process trauma.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week a listener writes in about a difficult decision she recently made after discovering she was pregnant.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gift giving analysis paralysis is a real thing, and this week, Kat is talking about why the season of giving can be so stressful sometimes. Then, she shares a special mental health minded gift guide to help promote simple gift ideas that anyone can benefit and find joy from!   Kat’s Amazon Mental Health Minded Gift Guide Giving Keys Bombas Socks Able   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, a listener writes to Kat about wanting to leave her current job but feeling stuck because of the guilt she has around what it would mean for her boss and co-workers if she left. Kat shares an impactful conversation she had with her boss when she left her job in 2016 and how it helped her to not take on unnecessary guilt and shame.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever decided just to go rogue and things actually turned out better than you could have planned for? Well this week, Kat is talking about a recent last minute (really last second) decision to change plans that worked out in everyone's favor. In this episode you will hear Kat talk about the importance of being flexible with plans and a small mindset change that has started to make a BIG difference in her life. In his book, The Infinite Game, Simon Sinek details the importance in playing to stay in the game versus to beat an opponent. And being that our current culture is obsessed with competition and comparison- Kat thought it may be helpful to talk about some of the brilliance she gathered from Simon's book and viral motivational talks.  Watch the viral TikTok Get The Infinite Game by Simon Sinek Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week however, instead of answering a question, Kat offers 5 important reminders to consider before walking into your family Thanksgiving Dinner.    You do not need to starve yourself in order to earn a Thanksgiving meal.  Just because someone says something it doesn’t mean you have to accept it. If your stomach looks like you ate after you ate- it’s because you ate.  If you get overwhelmed you can ask for what you need.  Your Mother in laws comments about food/ bodies/ exercise etc are about her not you.     Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is bringing Amy Brown to You Need Therapy to talk about bachelorette party culture. It seems like the parties get more extravagant, expensive, and instagram worthy each year and in this episode we are discussing why that might be happening. Together, Kat & Amy reminisce on their own bachelorette parties and how to distinguish what is important when it comes to celebrating both yourself and your friends during these special events. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is talking to the founders of Willows Health and Recovery, Selena Phillips & Rhonda Bartine. During this episode they discuss how Ketamine is now being used to help those who struggle with Treatment Resistant Depression. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week a listener writes in with a crisis involving the intersection of therapy and religion.  "How do we know if the things going on in our heads are due to the “battle of good and evil” or just a matter of chemical imbalance and how can we both work on our mental health and surrender to a higher power." The good news here is that believing in the power of prayer doesn’t mean you don’t believe in therapy and going to therapy doesn’t mean you can't trust that a God exists. In this episode Kat discusses how both can fit and work together versus against!    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is helping us differentiate between having a heated debate and having a respectful conversation. Every human is going to find themselves in a conversation where they do not agree with some of the other parties involved. While that may not be fun or ideal— it doesn’t mean you have to fight them! In this episode you will learn how reframing the goals of your “disagreements”  allows you to understand your peers, friends, and partners better and vice versa. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week we get an update from a previous listener and Kat offers feedback on getting back in the dating scene after going through a break up.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is inspired by the insanity that is, student loan debt in America. However, this episode isn’t realllyyy about student loan debt. This week is really about those moments where someone offers to help you but their goal isn’t really to help you, it’s to protect themselves. We are clearing up the space between only taking care of our own needs and ignoring our own needs to care for other people— the space where when we give we find that we also receive! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat responds to a e-mail about a listener who is feeling low after riding the high of her engagement and wedding season.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat talks about the power of our most painful moments. Inspired by her Spotify playlist: This is For Crying, Kat breaks down why and how sad songs (written by others) have been healing agents in her own life. When we feel connected versus isolated on our darkest days- we gain the opportunity to find hope. And when we heal from from our wounds we enter a cycle to be able to help others through similar moments in their lives. If you're in a storm right now. we hope this episode allows you to be present while knowing you don’t have to be there alone. And always remember: Our experiences are unique to us and also connected to others.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives her feedback to someone who witnessed their friend cheat on their fiancé on her bachelorette party.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week CEO and founder of Ready Nest Counseling, Emily Pardy, joins Kat to talk all things body image and pregnancy! Ready Nest Counseling is a practice that specializes in working alongside clients in the life stages of conception, pregnancy, postpartum, parenthood, infertility and loss. So much can come up around our bodies and how we view and perceive them as we move through some of these stages. Emily does a wonderful job in describing what is realistic to expect throughout the pregnancy process and how to show up for your unique experience as it unfolds (even if we don’t love how it’s unfolding!).   Learn more about Ready Nest Counseling Follow Ready Nest on Instagram: @Readynestcounseling Follow Emily Pardy on Instagram: @EmilyPardy   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com.  This week Kat replies to an email about someone who finds a box of their boyfriend’s ex’s things while cleaning his house. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week’s episode is one that Kat tried to avoid making… but eventually she had to join the conversation. For about the past year,  drugs containing semiglutide (like ozempic) have been gaining popularity in doctor’s offices and in the media. So, is this what we have all been looking for? Did someone finally discover the cure for the “so called” disease that doctors are labeling as “Obesity.” In this episode, Kat invites her long time friend and colleague, Jamison Worley, to the show to talk about what semiglutide is, how it works, and what the current research actually says. Jamison is the founder of Worley Nutrition Group and is a licensed and registered dietitian that specializes in eating disorders, diabetes, and sports nutrition. This conversation is meant to offer more accurate information to listeners— not to tell them what to do— but to give them the opportunity to make accurate and informed decisions for themselves. Work with Jamison: Worley Nutrition Group (https://worleynutritiongroup.com/) Follow Worley Nutrition Group: @worleynutritiongroup Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives her thoughts on online therapy platforms like Better Help and Talk Space.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is going solo to talk about self compassion. Self compassion is something that has been heavily researched, defined, and broken down by Kristen NEFF Ph.D. In her research she discovered the three elements of self compassion and in this episode you will hear all about those three elements and how inviting them into your life can create healthier relationships not just with others but with yourself.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat takes a DEEP dive into the ever popular meditation and “health” guru, Joe Dispenza. In this episode, Kat talks about what separates real science from pseudoscience (fake science that tries to pass as science). The tricky part is, pseudoscience mimics real science by co-opting their terms and using them in a way that sets you up to want to believe it’s true. Here we will discuss how we can keep an eye out for the red flags that scream “SCAM”. And what does Joe Dispenza have to do with all of this? You’ll just have to listen to find out. 😉 Articles: Drawing the line between science and pseudo-science Eat, Pray, Lie: Hollistic Wellness Scams in the Age of Social Media  From workplaces to politics to Instagram influencers, "cultish" language is everywhere The Rise is Fake Science What is Pseudoscience   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listens send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat gives a tiny Harry Potter journey update, gives a sneak into a highly anticipated episode she is working on, and gives feedback to a counseling student who can’t seem to land an internship. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Who remembers their first time? This week, Kat, Josie, and Julia reminisce on the first time they ever went to therapy. And surprise! All of their experiences were a little bit different. Kat refused to speak in her session, Julia's may have told her therapist what she didn't like about her, and Josie was wishing her therapist was "cooler".  Kat wanted to have a conversation that talked about what it is like to go to therapy for the first time and what you may experience yourself because doing new things can be super intimidating. While we can't tell you exactly what it will be like- we can give you three perspectives from three different therapists. In this episode we answer listener questions including: What happens if I don't know what to talk about in session? How many sessions will it take to know if your therapist is the right fit? What kind of questions does a therapist ask during the first session? As a therapist, how do you prepare for a new client and what are some ways you try to ease the discomfort of a first timer? How do you get over the fear of embarrassment knowing you will cry the whole time?  AND MORE!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat is doing something a little different because September is National Suicide Prevention Month. Death by suicide has increased by 36% between 2001and 2021 and is the second leading cause of death for people ages 10-14 and 20-34 in the United States.  Kat brings Julia Langner (@theselfcompassioncounselor) on the podcast this week to talk about a recent instagram post she made that addressed one of the biggest misconceptions of suicide: That talking about it increases the likelihood of it happening. It is surprisingly the opposite! Listen to this episode to hear some tips about how you can start these conversations and more about why they are so crucial to have within our communities right now! Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: 988 Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, licensed dietitian, Leslie Schilling, joins Kat on the podcast to talk about the sneaky ways Diet Culture infiltrates our most sacred and safest places (think school and even our places of worship!!!). Leslie Schilling is a Master’s level registered dietitian who specializes in disordered eating, sports nutrition, family nutrition, and weight concerns. She is a wealth of knowledge and you are going to have your mind BLOWN when you hear about some of the myths she is busting in her brand new book, Feed Yourself. In Feed Yourself, Leslie shares her expertise with the masses, guiding readers as they uncover the lies we’ve been told about our bodies. We are so grateful for people like Leslie who continue to fight the uphill battle in order to help those who get caught in the webs of disordered eating + eating disorders. There is hope and this episode is a great place to start.  Order Feed Yourself  Follow Leslie on Instagram Learn more about Leslie HERE Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat brings you the science behind why Pumpkin Spice Lattes are alllll the rage during the fall. What makes people want this $7+ coffee drink so bad?? Listen this week to find out!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is breaking down The Karpman Triangle, also known as the Drama Triangle. The Karpman Triangle, developed by Stephan Karpman, is a way to explain a very common pattern of dysfunctional relationship dynamics that includes three roles: persecutor, rescuer, and victim. This dynamic describes how people who were taught that it was unsafe to directly ask for what they needed to operate in order to still get their needs in some way.  In this episode you will learn about the roles and how they play out and also find out how to get out of the cyclical pattern that playing these roles creates.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com This week, Kat talks about the difficulty in doing what feels right and wanting to please others around you. A listener writes in about a friendship dilemma. She asks Kat if she should tell her friend that she did something to support another mutual friend that she believes she will be upset about.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever had a consequence thrown at you for refusing to turn a blind eye? Or have you ever been punished for telling a secret that you never should have been asked to keep? If you answered yes to either of these questions you may have experienced being "scapegoated". This can happen when someone tries to bring order to a dysfunctional system. Doing so can throw off the sense of "order" within that system (even thought it's disordered). Having a scapegoat is a form of protection for that system. It allows them to push blame onto someone else so they can create the delusion that the system is healthier than it is. In this episode, we explore what that can look and feel like and what to do if you find yourself getting the shaft for telling the truth.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has one of her best friends on to talk about both of them watching each other develop unhealthy relationships with food and exercise. In this candid conversation both Kat and Kellie share what it was like to see the others behavior change. They talk about what was helpful about how the other responded and what they wish they would have known and said to their friend who was struggling. This episode is a GREAT resource for anyone who has wondered what to say and how to approach a friend or loved one that they think may also be struggling!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathrynyouneedtheapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about why we tend to rush into “defining the relationship” and what we can do to help slow the process down and be more present in the moment!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we are rounding out our 3 part series on addiction. We started talking about it from a clinical/therapist perspective, then moved to the perspective of a loved one, and now we have a human who has actually walked through the throes of addiction themselves here to share part of their own story.  Mathias John is someone I met years ago through his wife–who actually happens to be a therapist. Through his recovery journey he decided to offer the community something that he wished he had, a story he could relate to; a story about a high functioning addict who hid from himself and others really well. So, he took his ACTUAL PERSONAL JOURNALS and created a book out of them. Yep. He is welcoming us into his real mind- his most personal thoughts- and sharing what it was like for him to move through his life as someone struggling with addiction and someone working towards recovery.  AND to top it off, he actually writes this book alongside his own therapist, Ashley Boyd.   In our conversation we talk about a lot. What I hope you hear in this is something we can all relate to, a story about someone who tried their hardest to run from the truth and eventually found out that telling the truth would set them free.  AND a story about that being really freaking hard and possible at the same time.  Mathias’ book comes out September 14th and you can learn more about it HERE!   Follow Mathias: @mathiasjohn__   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about how to survive when you dread going to your job everyday AND you can’t just go get a new one. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is round two of our addiction series. In this episode, Tara Booker and Kat talk about how to live an addict well, what it’s like to be in relationship with someone who struggles with addiction, and where healthy boundaries lie in these scenarios. Nothing is black and white here, which may make things more difficult and less confusing at the same time.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to handle roommate drama… when the drama involves your bff that you’ve been dreaming of living with! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker comes back to help Kat break down the basics of addiction. Which, you might be laughing at because there is nothing basic about explaining and understanding addiction. If you’ve ever struggled with addiction or loved someone who has, you’ll resonate with the fact that it’s a very confusing experience to have and watch. The behavior often makes zero sense when looking at it with just our naked eyes. This is largely due to the fact that a lot of the dysfunction is tied to what’s happening in our brains. So, join Tara and Kat today as they begin to help us all gain a little more understanding so we can all bring more compassion and hopefully healing to those that struggle with this disease affects.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, Kat takes a break from the questions and gives her two cents on all the drama and controversy surrounding the new Barbie Movie.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is diving into the space we enter when relationships don't work out. Have you ever wondered what you could have done differently to make your partner stay? Or have you spent hours analyzing your ex partners imperfections to deflect from the pain you feel after the relationship is over? Chances are- you've been there. The term "red flag" has become a term you hear everywhere and all the time and in this episode we are talking about why that is. Plus, we are giving you something better to focus on in order to heal from those past relationships.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com.   This week, a listener asks Kat for tips on how to talk to the man she has been seeing for two years about commitment.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is joined by another Three Cords Therapy therapist, Josie Oldham, LMSW. Josie specializes in body image, disordered eating, and eating disorders so Kat thought she would be the perfect guest to come on and talk about something that has been on her mind for a while now: The pressure to fit into certain "recovery minded" boxes perfectly. Recovery isn't linear, there isn't one way to do it. There isn't one belief system you have to have to live a life of freedom from diet culture. And whatever belief system fits with you- doesn't have to be perfect. We are so thankful that there are humans out there fighting the toxic beauty and wellness culture. . . AND we think it might be time that we start shifting the conversation so everyone just stops talking about our bodies :)  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, fellow Three Cords Therapy therapist joins Kat to talk about why sometimes what we see in the mirror when we look at ourselves isn’t actually reality.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever wondered where to draw the line between striving to be your best self and accepting who you are? This debate can seem quite confusing because they seem to be contradictory yet struggle to remain as healthy guides when standing alone. Limitless thinking can be super helpful at times, AND we have to be careful because it can lead us into muddy waters with no boundaries. And this unboundried idea that we can be anything we want starts to sound like we should be everything. On the other hand, when we soley grab onto self acceptance, this lackadaisical almost surrender to our potential shows up that can move us to a state of not trying and thus not even being our true selves. So, join Kat this week as she walks through ways to hold both self improvement and acceptance at the same time.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   This week Kat reads an email from a listener about her struggle in deciding if she should reconnect with her estranged father after discovering he has been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. She shares an excerpt from Lori Gotlieb’s book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, where Lori discusses the ability to separate forgiveness from compassion. In times like these, we often look to find the “right” answers. We focus on what we feel like we should do rather than what we believe is right for us. And Kat leaves us with some questions and thoughts to help move listeners into a space where we can discern those things better!    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has New York Times best-selling author, Shauna Niequist on the show. Ever call yourself dumb or stupid when you learn something new for the first time? Well, despite what a lot of us have been taught, kindness and grace is a wayyy more effective motivator than shame- and Shauna is here in this episode to share how a simple shift in language has helped her family during difficult transitions in their lives. In this conversation you will also hear Shauna and Kat talk about the complexities of setting boundaries for and with yourself so you can live the life you actually want rather than a life that may look "impressive" to others. Follow Shauna on Instagram: @sniequist Order Shauna's new book: I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com  this week Kat answers a question about what kind of professional to turn to when struggling with disordered eating.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our nervous system needs to be activated in order to become resilient. We cannot become strong without first being tested. We have to have experience to gain experience. This truth is a wakeup call for all of us protective types, the people pleasers, and those who are afraid of the people they love experiencing pain.  If we remove challenge from our lives and the lives of those around us- we also remove opportunity for them to grow strong, resilient and courageous. This week, Kat walks us through how some recent challenges and inconveniences have become opportunities for her to grow in a purposeful way.    Shoutout to Kat’s: Wedding Photographer: @glenaigilbertphoto Wedding Coordinators: @simplyGoldenNashville Hair Stylist: @MargaretJaneBeauty Bagel Episode   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listener’s send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.  This week a listener writes in and asks how to start to acknowledge something that was traumatic when there is a part of them that doesn’t want to admit it was harmful.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we have one of Three Cords Therapy’s newest team members, Julia Langner, on to talk about something she is passionate about helping others heal through. Religious and spiritual trauma are two phrases that are being talked about now more than ever… and it’s not because it just now became a thing. It’s because we are finally opening up space for individuals to realize that it’s a thing. In this episode Julia helps us understand what religious trauma is, how to know if you’ve experienced it, and what to do if you have. And just like any other topic we cover here- it’s not as black and white as we all hope it to be… so we hope this episode serves as a starting place for you to create more agency in your life.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week a listener is asking Kat how to get out of a relationship with a narcissist when you feel like you’re already in too deep.   Listen to Kat’s full episodes on Narcissism: Narcissism Narcissism at Work   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve learned that there is enough compassion for us all to validate and feel our own experiences. So, why then… are so many of us experiencing “compassion fatigue”? If compassion is an infinite resource then how do you run out of it? Well, this week Kat is trying to find an answer to that mystery. And it turns out… maybe it’s not compassion that we are exhausted of… If you are someone who has ever experienced compassion fatigue check out this episode to better understand what is really going on when caring for others starts to feel icky.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kat answers a listener’s question about compassion fatigue and talks about burn out in helping professions.   Our listener has been having a difficult time coping with work lately – she works with cancer patients trying to help them engage in meaningful leisure activities. The job is so rewarding but she is feeling drained. She’s finding a lack of motivation in motivating others and asks Kat for advice because compassion fatigue is real! Most jobs come with their struggles, you can have gratitude for the specific brand of “hard” that you get to deal with but also acknowledge that things are difficult, frustrating and there will be times when you are “over it”.   Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is extra fun because we are literally talking about… fun. In this episode, Kat introduces us to “The Fun Scale” which helps to widen our view on fun so we can have more of it! Sometimes the fun of an experience isn’t in the experience at all- which may sound confusing to you but we promise once you listen to this epsiode it will all start making sense!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Kat talks about going on a little Memorial Day vacation, but she decided to keep the trend alive by getting sick right before the fun started. She realized that she might be working herself up about something, that someone else might not even mind. She also dives into a listener question about 'breaking up' with their current therapist. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like there is something wrong with you because you can't figure out that one great passion that lights your soul on fire? Or do you find yourself feeling directionless and purposeless as you walk in and out of work each day? Well, this week, Kat, (@kat.defatta) is taking us down a road that many drive around in circles inside our heads. She is talking about passion and purpose and how we can confuse them sometimes and also put too much emphasis on one or the other. She also shares her take aways from one of the very best podcasts she has ever listened to. It was an Oprah Super Soul Conversation with Elizabeth Gilbert and she brings in a third contender to the passion & purpose conversation... curiosity. Listen this week to find out why this may just be the secret we have all been looking for in our lives.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week however, instead of answering a question Kat is bringing you some interesting information. In this episode, Kat walks us through a recent Psychology Today article that addresses 10 common beliefs that often hold people back from reaching their goals at work.    You can read the full article HERE   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

On May 1st of this year the surgeon general issued an advisory on our nation’s loneliness epidemic. In it, he states that the mortality impact of being socially disconnected is similar to that caused by smoking up to 15 cigarettes a day. AKA… this is a big deal and we need to do something about it STAT. So, this week this is what we are talking about. Kat shares some of the shocking revelations from the advisory and shares some of her personal struggles with developing meaningful connection due to distractions like social media. Even if you are not someone who personally struggles with loneliness, this crisis of disconnection is finding its way to impact all of our lives… and not in a good way. This episode is a You Need Therapy community call to band together and work on small changes that can make a huge impact. If you want to share your ideas send them to Kat and she will share on a future episode: kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Surgeon General Advisory Social Causes of Loneliness   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answeres questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat makes a special announcement about her practice and gives feedback to a wife and mother who is contemplating when and if it's ok to leave her husband who has been struggling with substance abuse.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Y’all are in for a treat today! Mike Foster is joining Kat on the podcast, and if you’re an avid listener of You Need Therapy, you have heard him being referenced a time or two… or three or four. Mike is a counselor, a coach, a former podcast host, speaker, author and all-around amazing human. This week he is spoiling us with the knowledge and powerful insight he gained after the over 4 years of research that led him to writing his new book: The Seven Primal Questions.  “The Seven Primal Questions” is described as a simple way of seeing your hidden programming, emotional needs, and supernatural gifts in a transparent way. With it you can stop being controlled by old wounds and patterns that sabotage your story. Think attachment theory mixed with the enneagram topped off with a big warm hug. This interview is going to leave you connecting so many dots and wanting to ask so many questions and we are SO excited to get to share it with you!   Follow Mike on instagram: @Mikefoster2000 The Seven Primal Questions Learn more about Mike: Mikefoster.tv   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat shares 5 tips to help cultivate hope!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat welcomes back Luke Durham, CEO of Dream4, to talk all things leadership. In this episode, Luke talks to us about what all great leaders must possess, how to develop the skills that are crucial to leading a healthy team, and how ego gets in the way of the potential of great leadership.  Follow Dream4 on Instagram: @dream4.co Work with Luke and learn more about Dream4: Dream4.co   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener writes in to ask for help in managing conflict with their current partner who they are in a long distance relationship with. Kat talks about conflicting insecure attachments and the difference in feeling safe and comfortable in relationships.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Research tell us that living together before marriage increases the probability of a couple getting divorced by 50%. Yea, you read that correctly... you are MORE likely to get divorced if you live with you partner before you get married. So, does that mean you shouldn't do it? Kat isn't quite convinced that that should be the main takeaway from this information...  This week, Kat dives into cohabitation before marriage... Should couples do it? And wait- what if someone doesn't want to get married ever- are they allowed to live with their partners? Apparently millennials are getting married later in life and realizing that life isn't just about creating the nuclear family we grew up watching on tv. . . so how is this effecting divorce rates? You'll hear about this PLUS Kat and her fiancé, Patrick Van Buren, talk about how their views on living with a partner before marriage have shifted throughout both their lives.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we get to have two guests! One you are familiar with and one you haven’t met yet, Tara and Omari Booker. Omari is Tara's partner and an artist who currently has a solo exhibit showing at Elephant Gallery In Nashville titled, Fifteen. (Showing through May 20, 2023) Fifteen marks a very important part of Omari's story, the end of his parole following a 15 year prison sentence. In this episode, we talk candidly about Omari and Tara's emotional, mental, and spiritual experience during this time. Within the last 15 years, Omari found both relationships and art to be two of the most valuable resources and healing agents in his story. Our conversation walks us through how he accessed hope in unimaginable circumstances and how he specifically used art to find freedom and liberation from prisons constructed both personally and socially.  Learn about Omari and his work HERE Follow Omari on Instagram: @omaribooker Visit Fifteen at Elephant Gallery  Read about Fifteen in Nashville Scene  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week: How do I address the future of my relationship with my boyfriend of three years without sounding pushy or like I am giving an ultimatum?     Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the fourth and final installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are digging into stonewalling today. This week you will learn what stonewalling looks like, why it pops up, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com   Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Financial Feminist, Tori Dunlap, is joining the podcast this week!! After successfully saving $100,000 at age 25, Tori quit her corporate job in marketing to fight for women’s financial rights. She now runs a multi million dollar company, hosts a top charting podcast, and is the author of a New York Times best Selling book, Financial Feminist. If you’re wondering... "Wait, what does money have to do with therapy?" Well the answer is very simple, literally everything. There are tons of emotions, narratives and plenty of trauma that shapes and directs how we view, talk about, and spend our money. In This episode Tori tells us how she is using her financial knowledge to help empower and elevate the voices of women around the world. If you are someone who thinks: "Oh, I'll never understand investing" "Money is for the men to handle" "I shouldn't spend money on expensive things I don't need." Or anything else of the sort - this episode is made for you! Follow Tori: Buy Tori's book: Financial Feminist Listen to Lori's podcast: Financial Feminist Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the third installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are digging into defensiveness today… and it’s pretty safe to say— we’ve all been defensive a time or two. This week you will learn what being defensive sounds like, what it does, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat dives into **friendship** with Laura Tremaine. Laura is an OG blogger turned author who's latest book, the Life Council, is coming out on April 4th... and trust us, you want to get your hands on this book. Her book describes the 10 kinds of friends that every human needs and gives an in depth look at what Laura has learned about friendship though both the ups and downs of her own.  In this episode, Laura and Kat talk about Laura's "Friendship Philosophies" that have helped ground and protect the friendships she currently has in her life. Listen to the full episode to find out what philosophy made Kat have to puttee book down, take a break, and do some serious self reflection. Laura is full of both wisdom and light hearted fun conversation and we are SO GRATEFUL to now call her a friend of You Need Therapy!!! Follow Laura: @Laura.tremaine Order The Life Council Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about tips to help when recovery seems to be getting harder when you think it should be getting easier, AND if you can still be a therapist if you struggle you your own mental health issues.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is joined by not one but two guests, Jolenta Greenberg and Kristen Meinzer. Jolenta and Kristen both consider themselves advice critics. They spent years living by and critiquing advice from self-help books for their podcast By The Book and now they’re ready to discuss wellness-related questions and help debunk all the self-help myths and promises in their new podcast, How To Be Fine which premiered on February 23rd. In this episode, Kat, Jolenta, & Kristen talk about their experiences- what they thought was all BS, what they learned, what worked, and what was just weird.  Follow Jolenta: @jolenta_g Follow Kristen: @k10meinzer Check out How To Be Fine: @howtobefinepod Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.    This week, Kat gives a Harry Potter update, shares helpful feedback from listeners about her recent less than satisfactory trip to the doctor, and answers a listener's question about doctor office waiting room etiquette.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the second installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are digging into contempt. Contempt is often referred to as relational poison. And this is because there is no way for contempt to be helpful. This week you will learn what contempt sounds like, what it does, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the beginning of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, & Stonewalling. We are starting our series with Criticism, which is usually the horseman that shows up first when there is an issue in a relationship and sets the tone for how the conversation plays out. It can have the power to turn a bid for connection into an argument, which pushes us further from each other. The good news is that Dr. Gottman not only provided us with language for the problems, he offered us solutions or “antidotes” for each horseman. Listen this week to hear how to move from Criticizing your partner and creating more chaos to expressing healthy complaints and creating space to lean into our relationships. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week in honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, Kat answers 3 questions about eating disorders: 1. How can I handle the ups and downs between good recovery days and days I feel obsessed with food? 2. How do I express my concern to someone who I think might have an eating disorder? 3. What is the difference between an eating disorder and disordered eating?  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, a week to spread awareness, hope and resources for and about eating disorders. Most people who learn that eating disorders are the second deadliest mental health disorder are surprised, so the reason there has been so much uproar in the last couple of years about diet culture and the harm it causes goes wildly misunderstood. In honor of NEDA week, Kat explores and describes the polarizing experience happening now between diet culture and the more recent anti diet culture movement. And because this week is about hope- she talks about a position on this spectrum that might be more helpful than the options it feels like people have today.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answeres questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.    This week on Couch Talks: Why all anxiety is not bad + Kat shares an experience she had recently at the doctor’s office when she asked not to see her weight.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Tara Booker is back for another installment of “The Difference Between,” a series where we break down the difference between a mental health related topic and how it shows up in pop culture. This week we rolled it back to the basics and talked about what therapy really is versuses how some popular tv shows portray it. Spoiler: It isn’t just us nodding our heads and asking you how you feel and it also isn’t us telling you what to do!   Then we breakdown why sometimes “No” is a complete sentence and why sometimes its helpful to offer more information when setting a boundary. It all goes back to the grey nuanced reality of what relationships really are- and there isn’t a right way that works all of the time!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   This week’s question: My roommate has a partner that I really dislike for many reasons. I love my roommate individually but when they are together, it feels like my roommate is a different person which has caused me to put more distance between us. How do you suggest tackling a tricky area like this?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is going solo to talk about one of those things that comes up in therapy all the timeeee. Motivation, and the possible lack of it. In this episode Kat explains why when people are searching for “motivation” they are often searching for the wrong thing. Plus, she gives 4 tips to help conjure up the energy that we may need to do that thing that we want to do!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where listeners send questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week we have a more specific follow up to last week's question about therapists finding closure when clients terminate the therapeutic relationship.  The three more detailed questions explored in this episode are:  1. How do you find a sense of closure when there is no final conversation to process ending a therapist-client relationship? 2. What is the best way to respond to an email when a client wishes to discontinue therapy for the time being? 3. Is there a way for early therapists to communicate that therapy is not only used to process negative thoughts and events, but also maintenance and process positive thoughts and events?  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week y'all are in for A TREAT with our guest, Courtney Grimes, LCSW.  Courtney’s passion for helping others is something you will feel in the first 3 seconds of this episode. You will also probably laugh in the first few seconds because she is as hilarious as she is passionate and smart. This particular conversation was inspired by a comment that Courtney made on a work trip that she and Kat went on together when they were talking about the gaps and holes in the treatment and recovery process. Courtney said, "No one else cares about your recovery." This may at first sound off putting and harsh. But when you dig into it, this sentence offers up a huge serving of empowerment to take ownership and control of one's own life. What makes it so hard for people to maintain recovery at home when in treatment? Why do triggers pop up everywhere? What are we supposed to do with said triggers? How am I supposed to heal and be healthy if the world is so F*ed up??? You will find about 1 million reasons to take notes during this episode, so grab a pen and paper (or your notes app on your phone). One of Kat's favorite Courtney takeaways was, "Everything boils down to two things things: love and fear. Fear is made up of what if, versus what is. And what if isn’t real." So good, right??  Courtney co-founded a group therapy practice in Nashville called Symmetry Counseling. She serves as the Clinical Director for non-profit Renewed, and more recently founded The Collective. The Collective is an Extended Outpatient program, designed to bridge the gap between IOP and OP services, while providing a welcoming community for clients.  Follow The Collective on Instagram: @thecollectivenashville Follow Symmetry counting on Instagram: @symmertrycounselingnashville Follow Renewed on Instagram: @renewedsupport Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where listeners send questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.    This week’s question is: “As a studying therapist, I am finding terminations extremely difficult. What guidance can you give to me to not take it so personally and to find closure on my part?” Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is joined by a returning guest and fellow therapist, Katie Gustafson. Katie is back to talk to us about the enneagram AND how it can have a positive influence on identifying the self care practices that are right for each of us individually. Self care doesn’t just have to be getting a massage or going for a walk. Katie teaches us in this episode that self care is less about escaping and indulging and more about restoring us back to who we truly are.    If you loved what you heard from Katie and want to learn more about her you can find her in instagram HERE and on her website HERE.  To sign up for the self care workshop click HERE.   Ally Fallon: @allyfallon Koula: @Koulacal   To learn more about Tara Booker's group: https://www.hazelhouse.net/groups Email to register: healing@hazelhouse.net   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of Yoh Need Therapy where listeners send questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives a Harry Potter update, talks about a recent trip to the movie theater, and gives feedback to a listener who was recently put in a very uncomfortable situation by a friend.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is talking all things AFFIRMATIONS with Tiania Haneline.  In March 2020, Tiania Haneline wanted her 3-year-old daughter Scarlett to build her self-confidence and embrace the beauty of her skin, her curls, her kindness and every trait in between. In the wake of George Floyd’s murder, and rise of the Black Lives Matter movement, she started using daily affirmations with her daughter. Scarlett would repeat positive affirmations back to herself in the mirror while Tiania did her hair. I am beautiful. I am strong. I am brave. I am kind. I am doing my best. Tiania started posting the videos on TikTok and wasn’t prepared for the response. Nine months later the mother-daughter duo from Myrtle Beach had more than a million social media followers and have now topped 8 million. Through the unexpected social media success, Tiania (who had been laid off from her job in 2021) went from being a single mom living from paycheck to paycheck, to being able to fully support her family.  In their new children’s book, I’m Going to Have a Good Day!, the main character Scarlett practices daily affirmations as she goes about her day, inspiring readers to incorporate similar affirmations into their own lives. In this episode you will hear Kat and Tiania talk about building self worth and how a foundation of knowing you are GOOD lays a foundation for making it through tough times with other's opinions of us don't align with what we know to be true.  Scarlett & Tiania on TikTok Scarlett and Tiania on YouTube Scarlett and Tiania on Instagram Scarlett and Tiania on Facebook Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here! Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that’s listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com This week, Kat answers a question a listener sent in after listening to Monday’s episode. If people accept the love they think they can get, how do I start to believe I can get more? This turns into a conversation about the difference between self esteem and self worth and why we need to spend more time teaching others about self worth versus how to get self esteem. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is bringing back one of her favorite things to talk about… training people how to treat you! Have you ever asked yourself why all the people around you suck? Or maybe, why do people take advantage of you over and over again? Well… it might have to do more with how you model to others how you want to be treated and less about the other person. In this episode you’ll hear more about why this is important and how to start modeling the behavior you want to experience from others.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that lister a send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week Kat answers a question about an alarming letter that a listener received from a family member and discusses what could be helpful when you are worried about behavior that feels peculiar, “wacky”, and crazy. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is a special week because Patrick, AKA Big P, AKA Kat's boyfriend joins the podcast for the FIRST TIME (and hopefully not the last). Have you ever found yourself crying over something like mustard being put on your burger when you asked for ketchup or getting tots instead of fries? How about getting cream cheese on your bagel when you asked for butter? Chances are- you know exactly what we are talking about and this week Kat is walking listeners through the most recent time she cried over getting the wrong food order. Why do small inconveniences sometimes take away our ability to utilizes rational thinking and drive us to make these mountains out of molehills? What is underneath our inability to regulate our emotions in the moment? Kat talks about how she processed her "dramatic" moment and brings Patrick on to give his take on what he saw going on as it was happening. Learn how to gain information about your needs during experiences when it feels like your disappointment is someone else's fault.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives us an update on her Harry Potter journey (IYKYK) and answers a question a listener asked about whether we should allow ourselves to regret things or not.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to You Need Therapy and welcome to 2023!!! This week, Kat is talking all about the new year and how to walk into it with an attitude that sets you up to actually find what it is you are looking for. Whether you make New Year’s resolutions every year or you hate them… this week’s episode will offer you a perspective on goal setting that offers you a way to take advantage of the power you can have over your own life.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about the risks of dating someone with an anxious or avoidant attachment style!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat, takes a drive down memory lane to reflect on some of the most valuable lessons she has learned through her journey of becoming and being a therapist. In this episode, you will hear 15 of Kat’s favorite lessons that have not only shaped how she views humanity and relationships, but how she lives her own life.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat, answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week she talks about ways to help alleviate competition fueled by comparisons. She also spends some time explaining why envy & jealousy really aren't so bad. . . and how being jealous can actually be helpful. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kat is back and excited to talk about one of her all time favorite topics: Body Image. This week she has her good friend, Crystal Lunenschloss (@Horizon_nutritioncounseling) on to go all in on the subject. Crystal gives us the inside scoop on what it was like for her to combat her own eating disorder and why we need to create new experiences with our body in order to find lasting recovery. Ever heard of the Allocentric Lock Theory? Well, good news, you're about find out what that is! :) Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus epsiiode of You need Therapy where Kat answeres questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youeedtherapodcast.com. And today is special because YOU NEED THERAPY IS THREE!!!!! To celebrate, Kat answers 4 questions from her stash of Rapid Fire(ish) questions listeners have sent throughout the year… and we say rapid fire(ish) because we aren’t known for being concise around here :)    What made you want to be a therapist? What is something you can’t live without? Barefoot Dreams Robe Stainless Steel Tumbler Dior Lip Maximizer Bobbi Brown Extra Lip Tint Laneige Sleep Mask   If you weren’t a therapist what would you want to do? What advice would you give to someone who is single, in their 30s, tired of dating apps, but wants a relationship? Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to the last new Monday episode of YNT for 2022. To celebrate the end of a new year Kat decided to break down her favorite podcast moments of 2022. Kat picked 3 clips from 3 different episodes that impacted her in 3 different ways. One gave her a reality check, one gave her validation that she didn’t know she needed, and one just gave her something to smile about. In this episode you will hear a little behind the scenes of what Kat took from each of these moments and how she hopes it may offer something to you as well!   To listen to the full episodes Kat talks about: Kindness is More Effective Than Shame with Shauna Neiquest Flipping the  Motherhood Scripts with Erin Lane  Red Flags, Green Flags, and Everything in Between with Jessie Green   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat spices things up with some holiday cheer by creating a gift guide full of meaningful gifts that give back for everyone on your list!    1. Able Able’s mission is to create go-to wardrobe pieces that empower both the women who wear them and the women who make them.  2. Affirmators  These affirmation cards were created by comedian Suzi Barrett and are sad to Providing the fun of a horoscope with a little less woo-woo which  3. F%^ck Meditation  For the loved one in your life is who going through some stuff and finds relief by throwing out a couple of F bombs every now and then.  4. How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed  A journal written by Megan Devine that “contains no clichés, timetables, or checklists of stages to get through; it won’t help you “move on” or put your loss behind you. Instead, you’ll find encouragement, self-care exercises, and daily tools to help you manage and explore your grief.” 5. ArtbySharyl Custom water color paintings! 6. Propagated Plant  7. Musee  Musee makes handcrafted, natural bath products in Madison County, Mississippi with the mission of restoring lives by providing dignified work for vulnerable people in our community. Musee partners with a local organization called Crossroads to help provide jobs for women coming out of spending time in prison, treatment centers or abusive situations AND Schools of Haiti to provide teacher salaries, new books, new desks, uniforms and one meal every day for the students. 8. Nashville Blanket Project For every blanket purchased a blanket is donated to someone in need!  9. 4 Things Gratitude Journal & I’m Fine Puzzle Perfect gift to offer someone who is going through some tough stuff and doesnt want to be so serious all of the time OR for someone you love who wants to count their blessings with a little more intention- all while helping support organizations in Haiti! 10. Cuddle And Kind  A company started by a family of 5 that’s mission is to help provide meals for children in need. They sell dolls hand knit by women in Peru and Nepal that are ADORABLE and while you are giving the cutest gift to someone you are helping sustain jobs for women and supplying 10 meals to a child in need!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is bringing you 10 truths that helped her move through the highs and lows of 2022.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy Podcast where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener writes in asking how to cope with her emotions in a healthy way while moving through the grief of a recent break up.    Kat’s Spotify playlist: This is for crying   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is Part 4 of an ongoing series that Kat and her friend, fellow licensed therapist, Tara Booker LCSW,  created called “The Difference Between.” In this series Kat & Tara discuss different terms, diagnosis, and concepts that originated from the mental health field and how they have been bent and twisted in meaning in pop culture. This week’s topics include triggers, therapy, and things that are/can be therapeutic.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat is answering some questions about stressful parts of the holiday season. Question number one is about how to find a way to fairly split time between families, in laws, and people you love during the holidays. Question number 2 is about how to handle and prepare for harmful comments about food, body image, and weight during a season heavily influenced by food!    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is Part 3 of an ongoing series that Kat and her friend, fellow licensed therapist, Tara Booker LCSW, created called “The Difference Between.” In this series Kat & Tara discuss different terms, diagnosis, and concepts that originated from the mental health field and how they have been bent and twisted in meaning in pop culture. This week’s topics include trauma, PTSD, and panic attacks and dissociation.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are back for round 2 with JP Saxe! Kat has Grammy nominated singer/songwriter JP Saxe on the show to talk about relationships from a slightly different perspective for a second week in a row. This week, Kat and JP dive more into masculinity and how to embrace the parts that fit and find freedom from the types chains and expectations that toxic masculinity attempts to lock people in.  Don't forget to listen to JP's new song When You Think of Me and presave The Good Parts! Follow JP on Instagram HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyPodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has Grammy nominated singer/songwriter JP Saxe on the show to talk about relationships from a slightly different perspective. Can love still be meaningful after a something ends? According to JP... it most definitely can. He shares with us what he has learned about love after having two different experiences in how his own relationships have ended. And the best news . . . Kat's interview with JP is two parts so stay tuned for MORE from JP next week! Don't forget to listen to JP's new song When You Think of Me and presave The Good Parts! Follow JP on Instagram HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episodes of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast. This week, Kat answers a couple questions centered around the holiday seasons and family. You will hear about learning how to not accept guilt when it is offered to you, how to enjoy the season while single, & when the right time to choose yourself is… enjoy :)  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is Part 2 of an ongoing series that Kat and her friend, fellow licensed therapist, Tara Booker created called “The Difference Between.” In this series Kat & Tara discuss different terms, diagnosis, and concepts that originated from the mental health field and how they have been bent and twisted in meaning in pop culture. This week, they deep dive into the meaning of self care & Bipolar Disorder. We hope that this series offers more detailed language in hopes that we can all identify, understand, and process our unique experiences in ways that feel validating to ourselves. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the Special Bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat takes a little turn to talk about the importance of our words and the responsibility we hold in choosing them, using them, and not using them.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is Part 1 of an ongoing series that Kat and her friend, fellow licensed therapist, Tara Booker created called “The Difference Between.” In this series Kat & Tara discuss different terms, diagnosis, and concepts that originated from the mental health field and how they have been bent and twisted in meaning in pop culture. This week, they deep dive into the meaning of abuse and abandonment. We hope that this series offers more detailed language in hopes that we can all identify, understand, and process our unique experiences in ways that feel validating to ourselves.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

LINK TO Amy’s LIVE Podcast Event HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is bringing you one of the most fun people to talk to....ever. (Well at least she thinks so!) Toni Collier, the founder of an international women’s ministry called Broken Crayons Still Color, which helps women process through brokenness and get to hope. She is also the host of the podcast, Still Coloring and author of her new book, Brave Enough to Be Broken. In this week's episode, Toni talks with Kat about some of the trauma she has experienced (including toxic relationships & a toxic church environment) and how she found the courage and strength to build a life of joy and freedom through it all. And surprise... Therapy was a huge part of this process. Toni speaks about how she was able to include both therapy and God in her healing and process and why both of them were pivotal in her own story of redemption. OHHH we LOVED this conversation and we hope you do to! Follow Toni on Instagram: @Tonijcollier Pre order Brave Enough To Be Broken Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week kat shares two announcements PLUS talks about what to do when it feels like a friend has stolen your dream wedding ideas from you.  tickets to 4 Things with Amy Brown live show: https://selectaseat.com/amy Vote for YNT and Kat DeFatta in the 2022 Nashville Fit Magazine Best of Nashville Awards: https://nashvillefitmagazine.com/ Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is joined by fellow podcaster and producer, Lauren Ober. Lauren describes herself as someone who had a hard time fitting into the mold that most people her age naturally did. During the pandemic, as the distractions that previously allowed her to ignore the challenges she faced faded away, she decided to seek a clear understanding of why she felt different than her peers. In her early 40s, Lauren was diagnosed with autism. She soon found herself working on a new project, The Loudest Girl in the World, a podcast detailing what life is like for her as a newly diagnosed autistic person. In this episode, Lauren talks about common myths the world tends to believe about autism in general and ways in which she has personally been misunderstood by others. One of Kat’s favorite take always from this episode is the reminder that, if you know one person with autism then you know one person with autism.  As you listen you might learn a little about autism but you definitively will learn a lot about Lauren Ober.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, however, Kat takes a detour to talk about an Instagram post about grief that @mikefoster2000 posted thag she loveddddd.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is going solo to talk about self compassion. Self compassion is something that has been heavily researched, defined, and broken down by Kristen NEFF Ph.D. In her research she discovered the three elements of self compassion and in this episode you will hear all about those three elements and how inviting them into your life can create healthier relationships not just with others but with yourself.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talk is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat answers a question about dating apps. In a world where it feels like apps cannot be escaped, we start to ask questions around what or who is to blame for the mess of the dating landscape around us. In this episode Kat will talk about how we have power over how we view dating… which might be the secret sauce in finding a fulfilling and less exhausting dating life.  Article mentioned in this epiosde: How Online Dating Apps Can Lead To Burnout (NYT Article)   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has one of her friends, Taylor McLeod, LMSW, on to help educate us on intellectual and developmental disabilities (IDD). Taylor is the manager of a crisis team for individuals with IDD and has a heart for helping populations that are underserved and misunderstood. Kat’s hope is that the more we can help educate each other the more we can become available, compassionate, and caring neighbors for people in our communities that may be struggling. Thank you Taylor for all that you do!!!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is joined by Liz Plank (@femistabulous) to shake things up a bit. This episode went in a totally different direction than Kat had hoped-- in the BEST way!  Liz is a filmmaker, award-winning journalist, international bestselling author, producer, podcast host and more. She’s the CEO of Liz Plank Productions and is a columnist for MSNBC and has been listed as one of Forbes’ 30 Under 30, Mediaite’s Most Influential in News Media, and Marie Claire’s Most Powerful Women, and was named one of the World’s Most Influential People in Gender Policy by Apolitical. She is a force and someone Kat has been dying to have on the show. In this episode you will hear a genuine conversation with two people who are processing the possibility that we've been flooded with too much content.  Why does everything seem hard, bad, scary, and exhausting these days? Have we taken "it's ok to not be ok" too far? Are our boundaries becoming too rigid and are we losing the ability to find grace within our human relationships? These are all things Kat and Liz discuss and things that could be the missing piece to the puzzle that you keep looking for in the next self-help influencer, wellness coach, or tiktok therapist. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, however, Kat has a special guest on with her to ask his question directly. Houston Tilley (@houstontilley), who is the producer behind You Need Therapy, brings up an experience he recently had while scrolling on social media. Together they talk about the difference between calling someone out and calling someone in, how to manage expectations when you offer feedback, and the power of speaking up when you notice a friend struggling. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Woahhhh. You are in for a TREAT this week with Kat's (@kat.defatta) guest, Nabiha Syed (@nabihasyed). Nabiha is the President of The Markup (@themarkup), a nonprofit newsroom committed to giving power back to people by uncovering inequities put in place by Big Tech through quantitative investigative journalism and developing audience assessment tools, analytics exploration products, and other privacy-protecting tools. In this episode Kat and Nabiha talk about social media and how it's changed how we live in both good and not so good ways and how we can reclaim power over the things that aren't serving us on these platforms. Nabiha is an incredible human and this episode will make you both laugh and think hard.    To earn more about The Markup click HERE.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtheraoy.com.. This week Kat talks about what to do when two people you love don’t get along. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has the one and only Megan Repass on the show to talk all things adventure therapy. Megan is the program director at Milestones a trauma focussed residential treatment center. She holds her Master's in psychology and is a certified equine, wilderness, and adventure therapist. Regardless of all of that though, she is one of the most loving and spirited humans in the world. Listen this week to hear about experiential therapy, the power of metaphor, and how nature can be our natural healing agent.   If you want to connect with Megan you can contact her by e-mailing thewindinfo@gmail.com   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat dives into the lies that we tell ourselves. It’s something that we all do for one reason or another… we lie to stay comfortable, we lie to avoid, we lie because it can feel good, and we can lie to continue a narrative that we want ourselves and others to believe. The tricky part is, sometimes we lie so well that we can convince ourselves that we aren’t even lying anymore. So, in this episode, Kat dives into some of the most common lies we tell ourselves, why we might use them, and how they might be hurting us.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about how to prepare and what to expect for your first therapy session with a new therapist.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you know if you should move forward or run far far away to that guy or girl you’ve been talking to? This week, Kat has one of her best friends on the podcast to talk about what makes a res flag when it comes to dating. Surprisingly, it’s more complicated than you think, or should we say- personal. Listen to the full episode to see where your questions lie within our red, yellow, and green flag scale.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat welcomes a fellow therapist and colleague, Blake Blankenbecler. Blake is a psychodynamic therapist specializing in anxiety, trauma, and eating disorders. She has a private practice called Fig Holistic Psychotherapy in Charleston, South Carolina where she gets to help folks come into greater compassion and integration with their story, their body, and their emotions. Out of her work emerged a desire to study some of the most foundational and pivotal relationships that hardly get anytime in the spotlight: our friendships. She believes that life is meant to be lived in connection and helps friends have more meaningful conversations and create more sustainable friendships. Blake is releasing The Friendship Deck, a game for friends to play to help them navigate modern friendships as an adult on August 19th and can be purchased at www.thefriendshipdeck.com. You can also find her on instagram: @blakeblankenbecler. In celebration of The Friendship Deck launch Blake and Kat discuss 5 stories we are taught about friendship that just aren’t always true :)   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat answers a question about how to best approach talking to a parent about behaviors that you don't think are appropriate around their kids.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is diving into how being authentic and being vulnerable became more than just a road toward freedom within our own stories. These days, authenticity and vulnerability for some people... are marketing strategies. How did we get here and how do we tell the difference between what is actually authentic authenticity versus performative... well this week's episode is a good place to start.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @Kat.DeFatta answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about why people make such a big deal about age difference in relationships how and how approach people who make judgmental comments about them.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Is your boss a narcissist or are they just a jerk? If you’re asking yourself this question than this week’s episode is calling your name. Honestly, these days the word narcissist is thrown around so much that it is almost losing it’s true me meaning. The good news: Kat is on a mission to help us understand what is just mean and harmful behavior and what it actually looks like to be in a relationship (specifically at work) with someone who might fit the criteria for malignant narcissism.  disclaimer: This podcast is not a replacement for mental health services and does not have the ability to diagnose or treat any person for mental health needs. This episode specifically does not and can not serve as means to help listeners diagnose or treat others or themselves with narcissistic personality disorder or any mental illness.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat answers a question regarding what to do when a parent continues to react in irrational ways when you spend time with them.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has Justin Baldoni (@justinbaldoni) on the show to talk about some of the harmful messages that our culture's idea of masculinity creates. Justin recently came out with a book titled, Man Enough and has started the Man Enough Podcast in an effort to further undefine masculinity and offer freedom to those who have been hurt by the current popular beliefs of what being a man looks like. In this episode you will hear about some of those beliefs and gain a better understanding of why we need to start shifting how we view masculinity.   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.  This week Kat reads an email from a listener asking how to approach a friend who has been giving feedback that feels invalidating.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode Dylan Murphy RD, LDN joins Kat for the second time! Dylan Murphy is a registered dietitian and founder of The Free Method. She also happens to be one of Kat's friends :)  In this episode Kat and Dylan talk about the 75 Hard challenge and why it really isn't that different than all the other "challenges" aka undercover diets. They also talk about some of the weird social media trends that made Dylan do a little eye roll as a dietitian.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.   This week Kat reads an email from a listener about her struggle in deciding if she should reconnect with her estranged father after discovering he has been diagnosed with cancer for the second time. She shares an excerpt from Lori Gotlieb’s book, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, where Lori discusses the ability to separate forgiveness from compassion. In times like these, we often look to find the “right” answers. We focus on what we feel like we should do rather than what we believe is right for us. And Kat leaves us with some questions and thoughts to help move listeners into a space where we can discern those things better!    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

​​Today’s guest is Erin S. Lane. Erin is a writer, theologian, and someone other than a mother; which is also the title of her new book. Erin holds a bachelor’s degree from Davidson College and a master’s degree from Duke Divinity School, both with a focus on gender studies. And she is freaking amazing. In this episode we are decoupling a woman’s purpose from her reproductive role. Any woman who even hints she is maybe questioning if she wants to have kids has heard some form of these cultural scripts we discuss in this epsiode. In Someone Other Than a Mother: Flipping the Scripts on a Woman’s Purpose and Making Meaning Beyond Motherhood, Erin S. Lane asks if it is it possible to do something more meaningful than mothering? We always hope that You Need Therapy Podcast continues to provide an opportunity for listeners to discover more than just one way to live a desirable and good life - and this conversation does just that.  Follow Erin on Instagram: @heyerinlane Erins website: https://www.erinslane.com/ Purchase Erins Book HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

  Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about some new boundaries she is setting for herself when it comes to instagram, and answers a listener question around how therapists maintain their ability to be good at their job when they are also going through personal issues themselves.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today on the show Dr. Shona Datta-Thomas and Kat talk about the importance of acknowledging our hormone health as the inevitable aging process happens. In our culture - we try to do anything but age- but when it comes down to it… it’s happening every second. So, what do we need to know and why? How do sleep and exercise playing a role in hormone balance and how does that change as we age? Shoma is a kind soul with a heart to have informative conversations with the patients she works with. It can be tough to find enough time to talk to your doctor about some of these issues in the normal 15 minute windows we are given during appointments so… let this be a starting off point to get you thinking about the questions you may want answers to as you age. Moushumi Shoma Datta-Thomas, MD is a Johns Hopkins trained board-certified aesthetic gynecologist with fellowship specialization in advanced pelvic and vaginal surgery. More than 10 years of experience treating complex GYN conditions has shaped her philosophy to tailor treatment to your individual needs as a woman, combining cosmetic appearance with optimal genital, urinary, and sexual function. she currently serves as the head of Wellness Medicine at Modern Age. Disclaimer: Everyone’s health journey is different so by no means does this podcast serve as medical recommendations for listeners.  ●  LinkedIn: Shoma Datta - Thomas ●  Instagram: @shomadattamd ●  Twitter: @dattamd3   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat addresses a instagram reel/tiktok video that a listener sent in and asked her opinion of. The video stated that therapists are unable to remain neutral when in comes to their work and that you should not only ask your therapist her views but also leave them if your views aren't the same or they won't share their views. Sound controversial? Well, listen to this episode to see just how Kat feels. . .    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Did you ever write a 10 page paper in college just to have your computer crash as you were clicking save? Well, we had the equivalent happen while recording this week's episode... 59 minutes of content (QUALITY CONTENT) gone in a fLaSh!! So, we are pivoting and using this space to practice asking the question, "What does this make possible." Listen to Kat and Amy Brown talk about how they are learning to make the best out of shitty situations!   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat is talking about where the ”line” is when it comes to aesthetic things we do to our bodies.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is answering all those questions that you really wannnntttt to ask your therapist but you’re just a little bit too scared to. Do they like you? What are you writing down? Would you care about me if I wasn’t paying you??? We know you want to know so listen this week and find out!  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat addresses why it’s not as easy as it sounds to go from restricting foods to eating them normally with ease.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is taking a break from all things serious and talking seriously about finding pleasure! A life well lived includes a balance of both meaning AND fun. However, often we feel guilty engaging in things just for the heck of it or we can’t even identify what things we like to do just for the sake of doing them. How do we find pleasure? How do we make it a priority? Listen to this week’s episode and grab some of the tips Kat throws in at the end!    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions you send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat answers 5 different questions with the help of her colleague, Staci Buford.  1. What growth made you most proud of a client? 2. Do any of your clients listen to the podcast? 3. How do you feel about all of the online therapy options? 4. Should you see your therapist for your couples therapist? 5. How much should you be talking in a therapy session vs your therapist?  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is breaking down the 4 reasons she believes diets are not helpful and also just flat out dangerous. There is so much conflicting information in the world about what is healthy, what is unhealthy, and what you should do in order to live the most optimal life you can. So much information, that it is hard to know who to believe. Because of this, Kat is giving you front row tickets to the perspective of an eating disorder therapist. And the truth is, there are many ways that you can choose to "love your optimal life" but we don't think going on a diet will be one of them.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat shares an email from a listener that reminded her of Monday’s episode: Orthorexia + The Whole30. Then Kat talks about how you know when it is time to end therapy or start going less frequently! Breaking Up with People Pleasing Purpose, Passion, and Curiosity    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Orthorexia in its simplest terms means an obsession with healthy eating, and for people who are not immersed in this field, that may not sound like a bad thing because eating healthy isn’t bad. So, this week, Kat is diving into the topic to bring light to what becoming obsessed with the health and quality of the food we consume can do to our mental health. Someone who develops orthorexia most likely doesn’t start out being obsessed but things can take a turn pretty fast not just due to reasons associated with the individual. This issue is very much connected to our culture and the messaging companies and brands use to attract and illicit business and the manipulation involved in how diet culture sells their ideals and products. So, sit tight and get ready to hear how some of the most popular diets and diet buzz words have created a rise in some of the most stealth disordered eating patterns we are currently seeing today.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about appropriate ways to share feedback and or observations with others and when if ever it is appropriate to tell someone that they have an insecure attachment style.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat has a VERY special guest on the show to help dip our toes into the world of open conversations about sex. Nicoletta Heideggar, LMFT is here to teach us why talking about it matters, what we gain when we feel permission to learn about our bodies and our sexuality, and how not talking about these things produces unnecessary shame. Nicoletta is a licensed therapist who specializes in sex therapy (what is that? Well we answer that question don't worry!), has a masters in human sexuality, and is pursuing her Ph.D in human sexuality as well! She's about as expert as they come when it comes to this topic… and after this conversation we couldn't be more excited to get her back here for round two!  Follow Nicoletta on instagram: @therapywithnicoletta & @slutsandscholars Learn more about her HERE! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions you send into Kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, Kat answers a question about how to best best approach exercise when you are trying to find recovery from an exercise addiction and an eating disorder.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What makes something a cult? And wait a second... are cults all bad? Also, how does someone decide to join a cult? The coerced...are they brainwashed? These were the questions that Kat has been asking the past couple of months and this week, they are the questions she is answering on this episode.  To learn more, check out the articles below Kat used for this episode PLUS Cultish By Amanda Montell Does Brainwashing Exist? What is a cult? What Makes a Cult a Cult?   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat continues the conversation that was started on this past Monday’s episode: Single Adults Aren’t Second Class Citizens. She reads some of the worst dating advice that listeners reported receiving and then offers an alternative approach to supporting someone who is struggling in the dating/relationship realm.     Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Most content available around singleness involves either tips and feedback around how to find a relationship, or how to find satisfaction in your life until you find a relationship. It sends the message that your time as a single person is just a waiting period to the life you want. Well, with the continual steady increase of single adults,  Kat thought it was time to create content that postured the idea that – singleness may in fact be a desirable way to live for people.  Single Nation: Why Americans Are Turning Away from Marriage The escalating costs of being single in America The American economy punishes single people. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mother’s Day is supposed to be a positive day that helps us celebrate the women who have raised us and loved us well. And while there is nothing wrong with that, not everyone feels celebratory on Mother’s Day. Some people are grieving, some are hurting; and even if you are a mom who is being celebrated, this day can still be tough. Mother’s Day can be especially challenging when you have a mom who has been neglectful, abusive, or toxic. So this week, we are offering 8 ways to cope with Mother’s Day if you have struggled with an abusive or toxic mother. These tips come from an article written by Peg Streep in which you can find HERE.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've all heard the term, “defense mechanisms” before. You have probably even used this term before. The question is, do we really know what they are and why they even exist? This week, Kat is going to help us figure that out. In this episode, you will learn about the development of defense mechanisms in the field of psychology and get a deeper look into some of the most common ones we see today.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat reads a listener email expressing gratitude for how the podcast helped her feel less alone in a tough part of her life. Then, Kat answered one of her most popular questions: How do you know if your therapist is right for you? And, spoiler alert that should not surprise any of you: the answer isn’t as black and white as we all probably hope.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Are millennials lazy? Or are they branded with the toxic hustle culture mentality? Is it true that no one wants to work anymore or is the system we’ve been encouraged to work in, not working? These are the questions, and this week, Kat is trying to find some answers. There has been an increasing negative reputation associated with the work ethic and general mindset of millennials over the past couple of years and as a millennial herself, Kat has started to get tired and confused by it. If we are lazy, she wants to know why and if we aren’t, she wants to know where this conclusion came from. So this week we are diving straight in with some help from two articles that we HIGHLY suggest you read:   Why Are People Pretending to Love to Work by Erin Griffith  How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation by Helen Anne Peterson   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special Q&A episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every wednesday where listeners can send in questions to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat tackles the highly debated hot topic: What is the difference between a therapist and a coach. With so many self proclaimed “experts” on the internet these days it's hard to tell who to go to for help. It’s confusing, the answer to this question is confusing, AND there is a difference - we promise. Both can be good, both can be helpful, and they are NOT the same.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat is breaking down The Karpman Triangle, also known as the Drama Triangle. The Karpman Triangle, developed by Stephan Karpman, is a way to explain a very common pattern of dysfunctional relationship dynamics that includes three roles: persecutor, rescuer, and victim. This dynamic describes how people who were taught that it was unsafe to directly ask for what they needed to operate in order to still get their needs in some way.  In this episode you will learn about the roles and how they play out and also find out how to get out of the cyclical pattern that playing these roles creates.    Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch aTalks is the special bonus epsiode of You need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about  why she is stepping away from teaching indoor cycling and what the hardest part about becoming a therapist was for her! Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilleySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever heard someone (in particular a therapist) say something like, "Well, what if both could be true at the same time?" For example, you can be both joyful and angry all in the same moment; or you can be grieving the loss of something and be looking forward to a new experience in unison. This week, Kat is breaking down the beliefs behind both/and thinking. This language tool is derived from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy which is based on dialectics or the idea that two opposing thoughts or feelings can be true at the same time. Listen this week to learn how something that doesn't make sense can help you make better sense of your experiences, relationships, and feelings.  Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks a listener through her fears around going back to school and "starting over" in a new field of work after already establishing a successful career in a field she lacks enjoyment in. If you are someone who is on the fence in any kind of situation that might involve "restarting" this episode is one you will want to listen to ... maybe more than once :)  Work Life Blend with Jonathon Fields   Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has New York Times best-selling author, Shauna Niequist on the show. Ever call yourself dumb or stupid when you learn something new for the first time? Well, despite what a lot of us have been taught, kindness and grace is a wayyy more effective motivator than shame- and Shauna is here in this episode to share how a simple shift in language has helped her family during difficult transitions in their lives. In this conversation you will also hear Shauna and Kat talk about the complexities of setting boundaries for and with yourself so you can live the life you actually want rather than a life that may look "impressive" to others.Follow Shauna on Instagram: @sniequistOrder Shauna's new book: I Guess I Haven't Learned That YetFollow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, a listener asks if Kat's thoughts on getting therapeutic "advice" from TikTok. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat has Heartbreak expert Guy Winch on the show to talk about why broken hearts hurt so freaking much. Guy is a licensed psychologist, author of multiple self help books, cohost of Dear Therapist Podcast, and a keynote speaker with 3 viral Ted Talks. In this conversation, you will hear what happens in your brain as you move through a break up and what Dr. Winch believes is the most effective way to heal the pain of heartbreak. You can learn more about Guy Winch HERE Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.Defatta Follow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcast Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!   Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about when the appropriate time is to share vulnerable details about yourself to someone you are dating. And she offers a little trick she recently used in her own life to help build some of the foundation needed to create a safe space for intimacy to grow. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is is diving into the ins and outs of closure. Have you ever heard someone say the only person that can give you closure is you? Do we believe this...? Maybe. Or does having concrete answers help us find peace and move on. That is what we are trying to figure out this week. And there may or may not be a plot twist at the end...Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to deal with toxic coworkers that make work often, unbearable. She also dives into the difference between comfort and safety and how to use intentional dialogue to engage in healthy confrontations. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, we are back talking about attachment styles. A listener wonders if her avoidant attachment style may have led her to a relationship where emotional intimacy is hard to come by.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we are spending some time with two Kat's friends and fellow fitness instructors, Shawna Neel (@shawnaneel) and Rose Coppola (@rosebudbody). A couple weeks ago Kat posted something on instagram that caught the attention of A LOT of people in the fitness world. So, she decided it needed to be a conversation. Kat, Shawna, and Rose together discuss what being a fitness instructor really means, how to find empowerment vs. shame and fear in the fitness community, and what to look for when trying to find safe spaces to exercise. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks this week is a bit different. Kat takes a moment to sit in the reality of what is going on in Ukraine and feel the emotions attached. For some of us, that may feel unbearable because of the helpless feelings that tend to come alongside. However, Kat offers a different perspective and ways in which you can help in these very tragic times. Kat's Ukranian friend nailsbykatya.tn, offers ways in which we can help support those being affected by the brutality at play right now. We also suggest giving her a follow on instagram as she is constantly posting reliable news sources so we can stay informed and updates on how we can continue to help... even in ways that may seem small to you!“Stand with Ukraine” general info:https://ukraine.ua/news/stand-with-ukraine/https://how-to-help-ukraine-now.super.site/Fundraiser to help Ukrainians, wounded civilians, and children:http://tvoya-opora.org/help-ukraine-no-warUNICEF helping children and families in Ukrainehttps://www.unicef.org/emergencies/conflict-ukraine-pose-immediate-threat-children?utm_source=instagram-stories&utm_medium=general&utm_campaign=ukraine_crisisAdditional fundraiser: https://fundly.com/m2/help-ukraine-Humanitarian care packages to Ukraine:https://us.meest.com/news/company-news/escalation-of-war-in-ukraine-operational-updateUkrainian army:https://bank.gov.ua/en/about/support-the-armed-forcesIf you'd like to directly donate to Katya to add to her donations to friends, family, and volunteers in Ukraine you can send that to @Katya-Osadcha on Venmo and type "Stand with Ukraine" in the note! Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

this week @kat.defatta has Dr. Emily Anhalt on the show to talk about emotional fitness. Dr. Emily Anhalt, Psy.D is a psychologist, emotional fitness consultant, and the Co-Founder and Chief Clinical Officer of Coa, an online gym for mental health. She is the leading researcher into the 7 traits of emotional fitness and in this episode you will find out what those are along with how to start doing “push ups” for your mental health. Dr. Anhalt goal is to make going to an emotional fitness class as accessible and normal as going to the gym … and we couldn’t love this mission more! learn more about Coa HERE. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat welcomes Scott Erickson to the show to talk about how the death of a dream lead him to a meaningful life. Scott is a touring painter, performance artist and creative curate who mixes autobiography, aesthetics, and comedic narrative to create experiences that speak to our deepest stories. He is the author of Say Yes: Discovering the Surprising Life Beyond the Death of a Dream. Together, Kat and Scott take a little walk through some of the messiness that life throws at you in order to shed some light on what it really is that feeds our souls. P.S. If you make it to the end of the episode you make get a chance to hear what it really sounds like behind the scenes of the making of this podcast...Learn more about Scott HERE. Follow Scott on Instagram HERE. Get your copy of Say Yes HERE. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Happy Valentine’s Dayyyyyyy! To celebrate, Kat is sharing with you 10 things she has learned about romantic relationships through being a therapist. Some may surprise you, some may confuse you, and some may let you breathe a little more calmly next time you go on a date. This day can be exciting, it can be hard, or it can just be like any other day but with more chocolate. Wherever this day lands for you- we hope you get to have the Valentine's Day you need to have!Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the spciela bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat usually answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, however, Kat is taking some time to talk about something that has been bubbling up in her psyche for some time now. After beginning to read the book, Cultish, by Amanda Montell– Kat started thinking more about how the language we hear on social media from “professionals” shapes the way we view our own health, well being, and experiences. THEN- she got hit with a new article from The New York Times that you can read HERE. In this episode you will hear Kat wrestle through some thoughts she has around the dangers (?) that exist when therapeutic information is shared in an attention grabbing curated way on social media.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

And it is week number three of the Attachment series! This week Kat is tackling the insecure anxious attachment style in adults. Where does it come from? Are they actually anxious? What are they afraid of? Oh and whyyyyy in the world do they seem to be attracted to people with avoidant attachment styles? These are the questions and Kat has the answers. Listen this week to hear all the juicy details as we wrap up our series!REMEMBER: If you have questions send them in ASAP Kat will be answering them on the 2/16/22 episode of Couch Talks.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to the second installment of our Attachment Theory Series. This week, we are talking a deep dive into the insecure avoidant attachment style in adults. Kat describes how this gets formed, what it feels like and what it can look like from the outside. Don't worry- she also gave some insight into how to move towards a more secure attachment (but you have to get all the way to the end for that 🤪). This attachment style stems from experiences that lead to a continuous loss of hope relationally. The repetitive nature of their feelings of rejection and abandonment encourage them to form behaviors to detach them from their need for attachment. But we already know that we are a connection based species so these eventually start to backfire and keep us from getting what we all ultimately innately strive for: love and belonging. Listen this week to get the full scoop on how this all works. And remember, if you come up with questions while listening to this weeks show (or any week really) feel free to send them over to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat answers some quick questions sent in on Instagram and shouts out her favorite Crumbl cookie flavor. Then, she talks about how to return to your normal movement routine after having Covid .Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are taking it all the way back to the beginning and doing some freshening up on Attachment Theory. Kat (@kat.defatta) thought it was time to do a mini series on attachment theory so here we are. What is this thing that everyone seems to be talking about these days and how do I figure out what it all means? We are going to tell you. This week, Kat is starting with the basics. She will describe what Attachment Theory is and why it is important not just as a child but as an adult. Then in the next few weeks Kat will roll out an episode on each of the insecure attachment styles. Stay tuned :)Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast. This week, Kat talks about narcissism and gives some feedback to a listener struggling with a family member that they believe has narcissistic traits.Also, for those wanting tips on how to find a therapist click HERE.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is bringing one of her oldest and best friends on the show, Hannah Johnson (@hanfran5). Hannah is someone who has always just gone for it- whether it be a job, relationship, or just a new experience. She left a stable and (what appeared to be) predictable life after college for a box full of unknowns and moved to L.A. without a job or a clue how she would get one. She's someone who has learned how to appreciate the goodness of what she has even in the midst of not getting what she thinks she wants. Together, Kat and Hannah talk about how to just "do the thing" and leave behind what is expected of you and what society says about "doing it right". And hey, maybe you don't need to quit your stable job and move to Bali. . . but you may need to change up your schedule or reevaluate if the things you feel like you're missing out on are really things you care about.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. However, this week Kat is bringing the question. She has been recovering from finally (after two years) getting Covid and has struggled with needing time to recover. In this episode you will hear her talk about the hardest part of being sick and why she believes it is so hard to REST.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We are THRILLED to have the one and only Hannah Brencher (@hannahbrencher) on the show. Hannah is an author and speaker who sheds light on the tough realities of life while also spreading hope into what can and will be when we face those realities. I’ve been a big fan of Hannah for awhile now and I am excited for y’all to get a taste into the real life magic she creates just by being who she is! We talk about all the things but really dive into what depression felt like for Hannah and how she found her way out of one of the hardest fights she’s ever been a part of. Depression is real, tough, and scary; but depression does not define who you are and what you’re allowed to do with your life. How Hannah lives and speaks into so many human souls is a beautiful example of what it means to know that, you are not your depression.You can learn more about Hannah and find her new book HERE.You can learn more about the podcast HERE and also follow us on instagram at @youneedtherapypodcast & @kat.defattaThis podcast was produced by Houston Tilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where @kat.defatta answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat addresses question from a concerned mom. What do you do when you see your kid struggling and it sounds like therapy might be making things worse and are therapists supposed to give "tough love"? Kat also addresses the idea of building self esteem from outside sources and how it can end up hurting the majority of humans out there.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Hannah Ellis (@thenashvilleaesthetician) is back again for round two! This time Kat and Hannah tackle the woes of the beauty standards humans are faced with today and how they affect our overall mental health. You'll hear Kat process in real time how she really feels about Botox and Hannah gives us all the real deal details on what real non filtered healthy skin looks like. As you move into 2022 we want to encourage you to embrace the authentic you- not the curated, perfected, and manufactured versions that we feel pressure to present. ICYMI: influencers and celebrities didn't wake up like that, everyone's skin changes as they age, and everyone in the whole entire world has had a pimple . . . Our New Year's Resolution is to stop rationalizing things that are already rational. Wanna join us?Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that you all email in each week! This week on Couch Talks, Kat talks about how to open up and become vulnerable with your new therapist. Kat also answers a question regarding alternatives to numbing emotions due to realizing the world is so messed up sometimes. Book recommendations are also shared at the end and Kat tells us where to find her top books when it comes to all things therapy! If you want Kat to answer your question email her at kathryn@youneedtehrapypodcast.com. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat (@Kat.Defatta) & Megan (@Meganmoir) take a deeper look into the two organized insecure attachment styles: avoidant & anxious. You'll get a brief overview of attachment as a whole & then together they break down the ins and outs of what makes someone's attachment insecure, how it actually helped at one point, & how to move toward an earned secure attachment (Spoiler: it takes more than just listening to our podcast☺️).Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that you all email in each week! This week on Couch Talks, Kat gives an answer to the most popular question she gets, how to find a therapist. She also talks about how to navigate working in environments that are triggering or not supportive of your recovery process.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

FINALLYYYYYYY. The episode we have all been waiting for! This week we are all about the Enneagram!! Kat (@kat.defatta) brings on Katie Gustafson (@katiegustafson.co), a licensed therapist AND Enneagram expert. Katie walked us through sooo many wonderful things. We started with what personality is and then went into an overview of the Enneagram itself. Katie then offered us a brief description of each of the 9 types. It’s so good y’all. Katie is a WEALTHHHH of knowledge and this was an episode where light bulbs were going off in Kat’s head the entire time.To connect with Katie and schedule your own enneagram interview head to: https://katiegustafson.coTo learn more about the podcast visit www.youneedtherapypodcast.com Follow us on instagram at @youneedtherapypodcastEnneagram tests Katie recommends: RHETI:https://tests.enneagraminstitute.com/orders/create#rhetiiEQ9:https://www.integrative9.com/getyourtype/selection/?product=Std&currency=USD(standard version is fine) Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

WOAH!!! We are two years old today!!!!!! To celebrate Kat (@kat.defatta) is bringing you three of her favorite moments from the podcast this year! Justin Baldoni tailing about the responsibility women have in helping to break down the toxic masculinity stigmas. Kaisa Kernanen Saying ALL the right things about leaving women's bodies alone and focussing on what we do rather than what we look like. Tara Booker breaking down the difference between religion, spirituality, and faith. Thank you to every single soul who listened to the podcast this year- you mean the WHOLE WORLD to us! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is taking us on a pre New Year goal setting journey. Before you start looking at what you want to change, fix, start doing, or stop doing Kat wants you to realize something very important: There is enough of what you desire to go around. Often, when we start looking at what we want in life we get trapped in what is called "Scarcity Mindset". And when this happens- we rush through our lives in order to achieve and then usually end back at square one because of this rush. When we do this- we don't gain time, we kind of lose it. So Kat wants to introduce us to a new way of looking at how to get to where we want efficiently. . . listen to this episode to find out just what that is!Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of YNT where Kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about the process of going to grad school to become a therapist. Then, she discusses her thoughts around if someone can help individuals heal through things they haven’t gone through themselves.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta), takes a drive down memory lane to reflect on some of the most valuable lessons she has learned through her journey of becoming and being a therapist. In this episode, you will hear 15 of Kat’s favorite lessons that have not only shaped how she views humanity and relationships but how she lives her own life. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtheraoy.com.. This week Kat talks about what to do when you want more from your therapist.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week we are deep diving into this term that is popping up everywhere, Gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation that attempts to make individuals question their own reality in order to gain power and control over them. And, the scary thing is- it can happen to anyone. There is good news though and Kat (@kat.defatta) is going solo this week to make sure we all know that there is a way to get out of these kinds of tangled webs. Listen this week to gain a better understanding of what Gaslighting actually is, how to spot it, and what to do when you feel like you are being gas lit. Links for episodes and articles that were talked about:11 Red Flags of Gaslighting in a RelationshipStephanie Sarkis, Ph.D. BookNarcissism EpisodeLove Addiction Episode Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode where Kat answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodacast.com. However, this week Kat takes a break from the questions are talks about the difficulty that the holidays can bring when it comes to grief. Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kat had a serious question she wanted answers to: Why is money so hard to talk about?? Much like the world of mental health- financial literacy is not regularly found on the to do lists of education systems. Therefore. we tend to find a lot of shame around not knowing bests the practices of financial success. We are here to let you know- it's not your fault that you're confused. So, this week, Kat (@kat.defatta) brought her friend, Nathan Greene, CFP®️, on the show to help us start to figure this all out. Nathan is Certified Financial Planner AND the owner of Cairn Financial Group. Together, Kat and Nathan develop a couple of ideas around why we are so afraid to talk about all things finances. Then, as a fun bonus, Nathan helps make some very confusing things much less confusing. We break down everything from 401ks to if student loans are a bad idea. Ever been in a conversation where someone says the word "mutual fund" and you just nod your head and pretend like you know what they are talking about? Well, after listening to this episode- you won't have to pretend anymore.Follow Cairn Financial on Twitter: @cairnfinancialFind Nathan here: Cairn Financial Group OR here: Cairn Education GroupFollow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtheraoy.com.. This week Kat talks about what to do when two people you love don’t get along.Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilleyLearn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is helping is figure out how and when positivity became something that is often described as toxic. If you have been confused about the term toxic positivity, don't worry, we are breaking it all down in this episode. With all the mess that the last couple of years has brought - it only makes sense that we all want to feel better and look toward a brighter side. However. our attempts at alleviating discomfort through positivity can often lead to the invalidation and minimization of someone's authentic experience. You can be optimistic and positive AND hold the present truth all at the same time. . . listen to the episode to figure out how! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat(@kat.defatta), answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week she talks about ways to help alleviate competition fueled by comparisons. She also spends some time explaining why Envy & Jealousy really aren't so bad. . . and how being jealous can actually be helpful. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It has finally arrived! Kat's summary of her Instagram experiment! Kat (@kat.defatta) unfollowed everyone on her Instagram page for 30 days and this episode talks about what she learned along the way. Very often it can feel like we are working for our social media accounts rather than they are tools that work for us... and Kat wanted to figure out how to help us take our power back. If you are someone who struggles with comparison, losing time scrolling social media, and struggling to stay present in your life then this episode may have a lightbulb moment or two for you. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Follow Kat on Instagram: @Kat.DefattaFollow the podcast Instagram: @YouNeedTherapyPodcastHave a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.comHeard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? Click here!Produced by: @HoustonTilley Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week, Kat (@kat.defatta), has licensed therapist turned mental health coach, Caitlin Olsen (@therapywithcaitlin) on the show to talk about Betrayal Trauma. Learning about Betrayal Trauma has helped Caitlin's clients (and herself) make sense of the confusion and disempowerment that so many of us have experienced throughout much of our lives. For women, BIPOC, queer, and other marginalized communities, using the Betrayal Trauma lens can offer soothing validation and motivate some necessary righteous indignation.  Caitlin specializes in Betrayal Trauma and Progressive Mormon womanhood. She's currently in her own path in learning to let her freak flag fly and loves helping other women create and wave their own.  Learn more about Caitlin: Courses + Blog Here's the Cut article about badass Jennifer Freyd Caitlin mentioned in the episode.   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where kat answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtheraoy.com.. This week Kat addresses how to keep a body neutral outlook when you body changes during eating disorder recovery. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) invites Jen Kirkman (@jenkirkman) on the podcast to have a candid conversation about. . . anxiety. Jen is an internationally touring comedian known for her Netflix specials “I’m Gonna Die Alone (and I Feel Fine)” and “Just Keep Livin.” and New York Times Best Selling author who now also hosts a new podcast called, Anxiety Bites. Jen has had life-long Panic and Generalized Anxiety Disorder and brings her life-lessons, humor, and hope to the podcast in an attempt to reduce the stigma of one of the most prevalent mental health disorders in our society. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about the risks of dating someone with an anxious or avoidant attachment style! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat invites her friend and certified eating disorder registered dietician back, Crystal Lunenschloss. Together they discuss the parts of intuitive eating that are not talked about as much. Because of how easy information is distributive and absorbed theses days, sometimes we can miss things and or get confused. Crystal helps us come back to the truth of what intuitive eating is, how is works, and why it's not as easy as that influencer makes your think it is. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, Kat talks about how to create social media boundaries. This question came to Kay’s inbox after a listener heard Kat on Lisa Hayim’s (@lisahayim) podcast, The Truthiest Life. In this episode, Kat talked about how she shifted her view of herself after shifting how she allowed the opinion’s of others to affect her (you should listen to the whole episode linked HERE). Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is going solo again to talk about why breakups suck so bad. Kat breaks down what we go through behind the scenes of heartbreak. The obvious grief of losing the normalcy of a relationships makes sense. . . But what else do we lose and have to reorganize when we are learning how to “move on”? Kat can’t tell you exactly how to heal or give you steps follow in order to get over your ex, however she does offer some insight that may help you choose the tools and behaviors that will allow you to find the sense of peace that you are looking for. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week, however, Kat has a special guest on with her to ask his question directly. Houston Tilley (@houstontilley), who is the producer behind You Need Therapy, brings up an experience he recently had while scrolling on social media. Together they talk about the difference between calling someone out and calling someone in, how to manage expectations when you offer feedback, and the power of speaking up when you notice a friend struggling. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is going solo for a conversation about the juxtaposition of joy. If you have ever been someone who becomes anxious when things start to align in your life, this one is for you. Kat explains why joy is surprisingly the most terrifying feeling that humans experience. And thanks to Brene Brown, we have some ways to combat this reflex in order to savor the goodness in our lives. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week Kat talks about what to do when your ex is friends with your community AFTER the breakup. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Woahhhh. You are in for a TREAT this week with Kat's (@kat.defatta) guest, Nabiha Syed (@nabihasyed). Nabiha is the President of The Markup (@themarkup), a nonprofit newsroom committed to giving power back to people by uncovering inequities put in place by Big Tech through quantitative investigative journalism and developing audience assessment tools, analytics exploration products, and other privacy-protecting tools. In this episode Kat and Nabiha talk about social media and how it's changed how we live in both good and not so good ways and how we can reclaim power over the things that aren't serving us on these platforms. Nabiha is an incredible human and this episode will make you both laugh and think hard. To earn more about The Markup click HERE. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week Kat talks about what to look for and think about when your parent/family member does not like your significant other/partner. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is helping you jump start the transition from work life balance to work life blend. Jonathan Fields join's the podcast to have a conversation around finding how to maximize how you interact at work in a way that maximizes how you show up in your life. Johnathon is the host of The Good Life Project and his new book Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint For Work that Makes You Come Alive comes out TOMORROW. Jonathan teaches us about a unique work assessment tool he created called, Sparketype which can help you understand what fills you up and empties you out on an entirely different level. By learning about your Sparketype you can become better equipped to find jobs, companies, projects, and craft a career that energizes and inspires you. To take the FREE Sparketype assessment and get your copy of Sparked click HERE. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about the way Diet Culture hijacks things we need to live healthy and balanced lives and makes it hard for us to differentiate between what we need Vs. what diet culture tells us we need. (We know- it's confusing). Then Kat answers a listener question about how to tell her parents that she doesn’t want to raise her family religiously the same way she was raised. And- this turns into a conversation about our old pal: people pleasing.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat(@kat.defatta) is bringing back one of our FAVORITE people for round 2… Amy Brown (@radioamy). Together they talk about narrative therapy and how changing the screens we filter our life experiences through can change how you respond to the toughness we feel in the world right now. They both share how they’ve been having some set backs and hard days- yet they still are able to get excited to be in their own lives. Amy also shares her experience as a client in therapy and how she didn’t just find the right therapist right away. Oh . . . and Amy shares with us a little coffee trick she has been using to get the most bang for her buck at Starbucks.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat talks about being authentic versus gaining popularity & approval. Then Kat answers a listener question about what exactly a therapist can help with. Spoiler alert: it's more than you think. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

September is Suicide Prevention and Awareness Month. So, this week Kat (@kat.defatta) had one of her very best friends, Taylor McLeod, on the show to talk about how we can support all of our friends during these hard times - even the ones we may not know are struggling. Taylor works in crisis prevention & intervention and has a HUGE heart for those who feel alone, misunderstood, and looked over. In this episode you will hear us talk about why it is important for EVERYONE to be a part of these conversations. You may not realize it but suicide effects ALL of us. Please listen and share this episode so we can continue to fight the stigma attached to suicide and mental health and help our friends get the support that they need.If you or someone you know is struggling with suicide or suicidal thoughts and ideation please call the national suicide prevention hotline: 800-273-8255 Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about the inappropriate ways men can approach and find humor in how they speak to women. Then, Kat answers a question about the longevity of friendships. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has fellow licensed therapist and author Lori Gotlieb on the show. Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold over a million copies and is currently being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast executive produced by Katie Couric and writes The Atlantic’s weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column. Learn more at LoriGottlieb.com or by following her on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram @lorigottlieb_author. Together Lori & Kat talk about taking charge in your own life, grief & loss, and the difference between wise and idiot compassion. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week's first question is about how to accept grief and find motivation to do something about what you're grieving at the same time. Then Kat talks about the difficulties of finding a therapist and offers some helpful tips! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has Justin Baldoni (@justinbaldoni) on the show to talk about some of the harmful messages that our culture's idea of masculinity creates. Justin recently came out with a book titled, Man Enough and has started the Man Enough Podcast in an effort to further undefine masculinity and offer freedom to those who have been hurt by the current popular beliefs of what being a man looks like. In this episode you will hear about some of those beliefs and gain a better understanding of why we need to start shifting how we view masculinity. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives a description of what trauma is. There has been an influx of information lately on social media outlets that sometimes makes understanding what trauma is confusing. In this episode you’ll hear Kat break down the truth. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has the one and only Megan Repass on the show to talk all things adventure therapy. Megan is the program director at Milestones a trauma focussed residential treatment center. She holds her Master's in psychology and is a certified equine, wilderness, and adventure therapist. Regardless of all of that though, she is one of the most loving and spirited humans in the world. Listen this week to hear about experiential therapy, the power of metaphor, and how nature can be our natural healing agent.If you want to connect with Megan you can contact her by e-mailing thewindinfo@gmail.com Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat gives some tips on how to get out of feeling stuck when it comes to your goals. Then she talks about a recent Instagram post she saw (and loved) that addressed the over generalizations that are all over social media when it comes to trauma. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

FINALLY! Amy Brown (@radioamy) joins Kat (@kat.defatta) for the first time on You Need Therapy! You may know Amy as the cohost of The Bobby Bones Show, creator of Pimpin' Joy, host of 4 Things with Amy Brown, or cohost of Outweigh- Kat knows Amy as one of the most genuine humans around. Together, Kat and Amy talk about what grief is and how it has shown up in thier own lives. They talk about anticipatory grief, comparative grief, the stages of grief, and finding meaning in their grief. They kind of cover it all. Grief is something that every human being will experience more than one time during their lives, yet it is also something many of us avoid. Join in on this conversation to hear some honesty about what it's like to get honest and present with it.   Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the bonus Q&A episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about weight loss competitions within friends, families, and at fitness studios. Kat explains why these kinds of things are dangerous and also how to talk to friends and family who are engaging in them. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week is an exciting week at You Need Therapy. Kat (@kat.defatta) has an eye opening conversation with Kaisa Keranen (@kaisafit) who founded Just move (@justmove). Kaisa is a personal trainer, fitness educator and social media influencer known for her fun and innovative ways to get people moving. She graduated from the University of Washington where she was a member of the Track and Field team and later went on to get her Masters in Exercise Science, Sports Performance and Injury Prevention.The confusion around body positivity and what it really means and looks like has been something Kat has been wanting to address for a while now and Kaisa was the PERFECT human to broach this topic with. Your eyes will be open and your heart with be thankful when you hear what Kaisa has to say about how self love and body positivity is postured in our current culture.Throughout this conversation Kaisa and Kat also talk about how movement saved and changed Kaisa’s life and how her dream of being a social worker transformed into her teaching people how to move and care for themselves well at any and all levels. To learn more about Kaisa visit: https://kaisafit.com Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

WHATTTTTT????? Woah! 100 episodes You Need Therapy! Today is a day to celebrate and also a day to express so much gratitude. As of today, we have produced 100 episodes of content to help generate shifts, growth, and change within our communities. To ring in the big day, Kat (@kat.defatta), decided to take it ALLL the way back to episode one by having her very first guest on, Kelly Fox. Kelly is one of Kat's best and oldest friends... and it is easy to see why when you get a taste of her energy and spirit. In this episode you will hear how the podcast has helped Kelly in her own life and Kat helps Kelly come to a deeper understanding of her own behavior in her current relationships. THANK YOU for being in this with us. Cheers to 100! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) brought Derrick Billups (@bodybybillups) back to the show for round 2! Derrick is the owner and founder of CityFit Concierge (@cityfitconcierge) and one of Kat's good friends and personal trainer. Together they talk about perspectives and how PMA (positive mental attitude) changes the way you see and experience life. Derrick also tells us how to cultivate motivation and then asks Kat what area of our health (physical, mental spiritual) she thinks is the most important and why. Spoiler: It is kind of a trick question. Click HERE for the PMA episode Kat did on 4 Things with Amy Brown. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the Bonus Q&A Episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to know if it's time to break up with your partner. Then she dives into why it is so hard to let go of the past. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Has the fear of failure been keeping you from going out and doing something you have been longing to do? Are you someone who has held yourself back from the things you desire life because you're afraid of it not working out the way you want? Ok well, then you're in for a treat because this week Kat (@kat.defatta) is diving into the very scary (but you'll learn it doesn't have to be scary) world of being afraid to fail. Kat gives the 411 on what success is, what failure is, and how to live a life where failure doesn't actually exist. Success is something most people want and failure is something most people don't... but should success really be the goal? Maybe, maybe not... listen this week to find out! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about Factitious disorder (sometimes known as Munchausen's) and gives the 411 on what goes on when you run into your therapist outside of their office. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has her good friend Blair Falconello back on the show! Blair is a licensed marriage and family therapist and has great insight and knowledge when it comes to confrontation and creating intimacy through tough conversations. So, Kat thought it would be a good idea to have her come discuss how to fight fair in relationships. In this episode you'll learn more about boundaries.. PLUS some helpful tips on how to not just get through disagreements but grow though them as well! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat offers resources for a mom who is wanting to learn how to better understand and care for her child who recently expressed that she identifies as nonbinary. She had her friend Aubree Henderson (@ahhhhbree) help answer this question and offer reputable resources she trusts! Then Kat talks about being the scapegoat in the family and how that role gets chosen! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It is the one we have been waiting for! The episode all about boundaries! This week. Kat (@kat.defatta) welcomes Terri Cole (@terricole) to the podcast. And y'all, she is not just a licensed psychotherapist she is a boundaries expert who recently came out with a new book called Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free. Terri’s mission is help women stop living out learned boundary behaviors that don’t serve them and this episode is the perfect way to start looking at where you may need to adjust the boundaries in your life. Get ready... you're going to want to take notes during this one! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus Q&A episode of You Need Therapy that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners e-mail to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to handle comments abut your body from your boss. Then Kat talks about how therapists are humans too and how to balance your own struggles while showing up for clients. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is bringing on a friend and fellow therapist, Dr. Gina Crean LCSW, CCTS. Gina walks us through what therapy looks like with kids and why it is helpful. Kat and Gina also dive into the nervous system and how to hep resource and soothe a little one who may be struggling with feeling safe. You can follow Gina on Instagram at @solidrootstherapy and learn more about her practice at www.solidrootstherapy.com. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. On this episode Kat first talks about our skin and how they way we approach Instagram filters (even when just on our faces) can have an impact on our body image. Then Kat reads an e-mail a listener sent in that mentions a resource for free therapy. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has a very powerful conversation to share that she had with her friend Chase. Chase Locke (@chaselocke_) sat down with Kat to talk about his story and the freedom he has experienced through processing the shame he has picked up throughout his life. Too often we make what happened to us about us and not about the brokenness there is in the world. However. when you allow yourself to face the hard and uncomfortable stuff you also allow yourself to see the truth. And when you allow yourself to see the truth there is an opportunity to not only write but to live out of a new narrative. In this episode you will hear the unraveling of false narratives and the hope and healing that happens when permission is given to see the truth of our stories. We are not only grateful for Chase, we are grateful for his courage to share the most real and authentic parts of him in this conversation. Chase, you're a gem. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions listeners send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat reminds listeners what book she was referring to in Monday's Episode. She then talks about the difference between relapsing in your exercise addiction and finding a healthy relationship with movement. Next, Kat talks about how to make friends as an adult! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is FREAKING PUMPED to have her friend Max Barry (@maxtbarry) on the show to talk about some things that have been ON HER MIND the past couple of weeks. Kat started reading the book, Man Enough, by Justin Baldoni and has had a couple revelations about the normative culture we are surrounded by. In this episode, Kat sits down and has a very real and raw conversation about how societal norms encourage some individuals to not choose themselves. Max walks us through his story of self discovery when it comes to his sexuality, shares with us a very important perspective on what it feels like to try to fit in as a "man" in our culture today, and discusses what he believes needs to change in order to allow more humans to find full freedom to be who they are. And TBH the timing is impeccable because... HAPPY PRIDE MONTH.Kat also shares about a charity event that is happening in Nashville on June, 20, 2021: Songs to End ALZ: an evening benefiting The Longest Day & the Alzheimer’s AssocationBelow are the links to find more information!VIP ticket link: songstoendalz.eventbrite.com Donation link: https://act.alz.org/goto/jayallenFacebook event: https://fb.me/e/Dahz6O8e Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special BONUS Q&A episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about a recent "mistake" she made and gives some tips on how to cope and respond to shame when you mess up. Then Kat answers a listener question about how to talk about sex with your therapist. We know, thank God someone finally asked... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) sits down with Tanya Rad (@tanyarad) to talk about Imposter Syndrome. As the co-host of On Air with Ryan Seacrest, and her own award winning podcast, Scrubbing In, it is pretty safe to say that Tanya is an accomplished and successful human. However, as someone who struggles with Imposter Syndrome herself, Tanya often finds herself attributing her accomplishments to luck and questioning whether she is deserving of her success. In this episode, Tanya & Kat process the voices in their heads that tell them that they aren’t good enough to be where they are in life. You will hear how Tanya fights back against these voices and how sometimes the voices can actually help her grow.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat explains the difference between self care and self maintenance. Then, Kat answers a question from a listener about feeling stuck in her job because she is "successful" and "good" at what she does. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) takes us through a history lesson as she talks us through how the diagnosis of PTSD (post traumatic stress syndrome) in war veterans used to be looked at and how far we have come in understanding the effects of psychological trauma on the human experience. Both women and men suffering from this diagnosis used to be seen as morally flawed humans thus resulting in a poor prognosis of recovery. Kat has a lot of feelings in this episode and expresses why it is sooo important to meet victims of abuse with empathy rather than blame. You will also learn the difference between PTSD and complex PTSD. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is the special bonus Q&A episode of you need therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send to her via kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat tells you her professional and personal opinion of fitness trackers and talks about things to consider when healing your relationship with exercise. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) sat down with Holly Christine Hayes to talk about a subject that she admittedly doesn’t know a lot about: sex trafficking. Together they talk about some of the myths that are floating around about what sex trafficking is and who it effects. Holly also shares her story and how she went from crying on the floor of a public bathroom to starting a non profit that helps to employ women who are coming out of addiction and sex trafficking themselves. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a bonus Q&A episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat compiled a list of questions that have been sent in about taking psychiatric medication for mental health. In this episode you will hear 1. What Kat thinks about psychiatric medication in general 2. What to say to a doctor who appears to be pushing medication you don’t want to take or are hesitant to try 3. How approach friends who appear to be mismanaging their medication. Disclaimer: Kat is not a medical doctor and if you are struggling with your mental health or need medical advice please contact your medical provider. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is creating a conversation around exercise. In this episode you will learn how exercise helps with our mental health AND also how to know when we are taking it too far. If you are someone who struggles with moving your body too much or not enough... this conversation will walk you through ways to combat some of this struggle. Far too often we forget the real purpose of movement: to offer kindness and care for our bodies well. We hope this episode helps bring this back to all of us! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a bonus Q&A episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to recommend a friend or family member go to therapy & the exhaustion some of us feel as the world starts to open back up again. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ever feel like there is something wrong with you because you can't figure out that one great passion that lights your soul on fire? Or do you find yourself feeling directionless and purposeless as you walk in and out of work each day? Well, this week, Kat, (@kat.defatta) is taking us down a road that many drive around in circles inside our heads. She is talking about passion and purpose and how we can confuse them sometimes and also put too much emphasis on one or the other. She also shares her take aways from one of the very best podcasts she has ever listened to. It was an Oprah Super Soul Conversation with Elizabeth Gilbert and she brings in a third contender to the passion & purpose conversation... curiosity. Listen this week to find out why this may just be the secret we have all been looking for in our lives. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat, (@kat.defatta) answer questions you send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about Christian guilt and how to move away from trying to be the "perfect" Christian. (P.s. this doesn't exist). Then Kat discusses the phrase "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" and gives her take on how it can be both helpful and hurtful. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta), is diving head first into the world of dating apps. Dating apps have been gaining popularity for the past 8 years and in this episode Kat breaks down how that is changing more than just how we date. Whether you're single, married, dating, love dating apps, or never been on one, this episode will offer helpful insight and understanding into the virtual world of the search for love. This episode doesn't classify them as good or bad but it does offer some thought provoking insight that can help us maintain emotional growth as our world continues to engage in the dating app scene. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about something a friend sent her that she saw on Tik Tok about anxious attachment and relationships. In this episode Kat talks about why we need to be mindful about who and what we follow online. These days anyone can be an expert if they want to say they are, it's our job to fact check the overflow of information we consume daily. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@Kat.defatta) is sharing her somewhat unpopular opinion about forgiveness. In this episode you will hear Kat talk about why she doesn't believe that you NEED to forgive someone to heal emotional wounds. Many of us have grown up experiencing and participating in something called "forced forgiveness". In this episode you will learn what exactly that means and how you can find healing without doing something that doesn't feel authentic or right. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is the special bonus Q&A episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you send in to kathryn@youneedtherapy.com. This week Kat talks about how to know if you're done with therapy and how to talk to your therapist about this. Then Kat talks about self disclosure and how she navigates having a public podcast and maintaining boundaries with clients. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is taking you on a little journey with her. What started out as an episode about revenge seeking behavior naturally turned into an open conversation about call out and cancel culture. This week you will hear Kat talk honestly and uncensored about her thoughts and feelings in hopes that we all will start thinking about our behavior and motivations more when it comes to this subject. Kat also invited her friend and former guest, Paul Gaiter, on to give another perspective and help walk her through allllll of the things. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special Q&A episode where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about a popular "body positivity" trend and how while the intention may be great, is causing more harm than good. Then Kat answers a question regarding cancel culture and how to handle conflicting feelings when music and tv shows you like support racial injustice. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has one of her VERY favorite humans on the show, Janet Heilbronn. Janet was actually Kat's first supervisor as an intern when she was in graduate school. This week they talk about what Kat was like 9 years ago and what helped move her along her path to becoming a therapist. Kat also invites Janet to talk about her own journey as a healer, what modalities she likes to use and why. Together they talk about somatics, experiential therapy, and what the term resourcing means.To learn more about Janet, click HERE.To learn more about the podcast, click HERE. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a bonus Q&A episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all send to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat goes a little rogue and talks about kindness and the problems she is seeing on social media right now. She came up with a little challenge for us all to help spark more positivity into the world. Then she Answers one of the most popular questions she gets, How did you become a therapist and start your own practice? Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has fellow therapist, author, and exceptional human John Eldredge on the show. John wrote the amazing book, Wild at Heart which is a BEAUTIFUL invitation for men to heal from some of the wounds of generalized "masculinity." In this conversation John and Kat talk about the differences men and woman have experienced as they have both attempted to survive the pandemic. John agues that "though a woman’s need for social connection and relationship is often considered greater than their male counterpart’s, the loss of traditional male-to-male support systems due to the pandemic is playing a major role in the loss of heart and mental health in men today." Check out this conversation to hear the inside scoop on how men are really doing right now and how we can all support each other through this time. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special bonus Q&A episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions listeners send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat first talks about how to know if it’s time to leave your relationship. Then, she addresses how therapists manage their own beliefs (specifically around faith and religion) and show up without bias with their clients. To follow us on Instagram click HERE. To learn more about the podcast click HERE.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has one of her FAVORITE local therapists, Melanie Reese, LMFT, CCTP (@traumatherapynashville), on the show to talk all things LOVE addiction. Wait, you can be addicted to love? Yup. It is a thing. This episode walks you through what love addiction is, where it comes from, and what to do if you relate to this content. We know you love attachment theory and this episode has no shortage of attachment talk so grab a pen and paper and prepare to take some notes this week!Melanie is a board-certified, psychotherapist and owner of Trauma Therapy of Nashville located on Music Row in Nashville, Tennessee. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She also supervises therapists working towards licensure. Melanie’s education and professional background in both the mind and body gives her a unique and effective approach to therapy. Melanie is amazing- what a TREAT this week is!Want to learn more about Melanie?Trauma Therapy of Nashville Website: www.traumatherapynashville.com Contact: Info@IntegrativeTherapyNashville.com  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is a special bonus episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that listeners send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about grieving the loss of a relationship that you never had and how to take care of yourself so your empathetic side doesn’t suck the life out of you. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has Self Worth Coach, Aubree Henderson (@ahhhhbree), back to talk about how to break up with people pleasing. So many of you all resonated with the codependency episode that Kat decided to zone in on one of the characteristics of codependency. People pleasing is something that happens when we put the needs, expectations, and feelings of others above our own. In this episode you will hear us talk about why we do this and how we can start to untangle ourselves from this behavior. You can learn more about Aubree HERE. You can learn more about You Need Therapy HERE and follow us on Instagram HERE. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is a special bonus episode of You Need Therapy where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions you send in to her at kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to get the most out of your therapy sessions when you aren't someone who talks a lot. Then Kat talks about how to know if its time to take a break from "self development" work. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has entrepreneur, author, mom, and all around good human Caitlin Crosby (@Caitlincrosby) on the show. Caitlin is the founder of an incredible company called The Giving Keys. In this episode you get to hear how The Giving Keys came to be and also what it was like to find success in something that was not part of your actual plan. Kat and Caitlin talk about the grief that comes along with change, even when it is good change. Caitlin also opens up about a more recent change that she is going though currently as her and her husband navigate their separation. Often in our lives we are met with unexpected twists that appear to be scary and painful. Here, Caitlin talks to us about how she has managed to find hope though this experience. To get your copy of Caitlin’s new book click HERE.To learn more about The Giving Keys click HERE.To learn more about You Need Therapy Podcast click HERE. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week Kat talks about how to approach a loved one with concerns about their alcohol consumption and how to know if you yourself should consider sobriety. Kat also takes some time to talk about the importance of maintaining your own values and standards in relationships especially when you become afraid that the relationship won’t last if you do.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) brings on her friend Savannah (@savannah.stein) to talk about a somewhat touchy subject. This episode is all about the grey area of drinking. The truth is, you don't have to meet all of the DSM V’s criteria for Substance Use Disorder to make a decision to stop drinking alcohol. Likewise, making the decision to stop drinking alcohol doesn't mean you are an addict or an alcoholic. Savannah walks us through her decision to enter a lifestyle where drinking isn’t a thing she does and how it is helping her uncover who she is truly made to be. My job isn’t to put labels on you or make you think everything you are doing is wrong or bad, it is to make you think. This episode is something I hope will encourage some to really look into how alcohol is used to cope with the discomfort of just being human at times; and if it’s helping or hurting.  Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a bonus Q&A episode where Kat answers questions that you all send in to kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. This week, Kat addresses more on body image and if getting things like hair and eyelash extensions negatively impacts how we view ourselves. Kat then talks about setting boundaries with friends when you are struggling with their success in an area you are envious of. Lastly, Kat talks about how to find a therapist in your area. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) is coming to you solo once again to break down the basic ins and outs of codependency. In this episode you’ll hear about where it comes from, how to spot it, consequences, and how to start to make healthy changes. If you are someone who constantly is making sure others feel good and are happy so you can feel happy, this episode is probably for you. Also, if you constantly find your own needs on the bottom of your priority list, this is probably for you. In this episode, Kat kindly offers an explanation to why some of us focus on others more than ourselves and gives tips to the beginning stages of breaking the codependency cycle. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch talks is a bonus Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions you all send in to kathryn@youneedtherqpypodcast.com. This week Kat keeps NEDA Week as the theme as she answers questions specifically about eating disorders. In this episode you’ll hear how long it takes to get your “set point” weight, if it’s possible to ever not constantly think about food and how “healthy” it is, and how to know if you’re working out to feel good or working out to burn calories. As always, we like to remind listeners that this podcast is not therapy, but a way to jump start your own journey of finding who you were truly made to be! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat is coming to you solo to talk about NEDA week (National Eating Disorder Awareness Week). This episode brought up a lot of anxiety for Kat because of the pressure she created around making sure it was good enough for such an important week. Then, as she was processing her feelings with a friend she remembered something very important, we are always raising awareness for this kind of stuff at You Need Therapy AND when you’re being authentic there is no fight you have to battle for something to be good enough, it just is. In this episode Kat talks about how eating disorders are more complex a podcast has the ability to explain but when it comes down to it, they all tangle up our true identifies. Listen to this episode to hear Kat’s take on why how we show up is more important than who we show up as. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that you all email in each week! This week on Couch Talks, Kat (@kat.defatta) sits down with Kenzie Todd (@kenzietodd) again to answer questions listeners sent in specifically for her! Kenzie gives us advice on how to start your dream business, shares what body image pressures she feels while working in the fitness industry, and how she reminds herself to stay in therapy when it gets hard!If you want Kat to answer your question email her at kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Learn more about Kat and the podcast at Youneedtherapypodcast.com. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has her friend, Kenzie Todd (@kenzietodd) on the show to talk about how she survived a global pandemic with her small business and mental health in tack. Kenzie is the owner and founder of the cycling studio Kat just started teaching at, Full Ride Cycling (@fullridecycling). Somehow, she managed to keep it running through what most of us would call, the weirdest and most challenging year of our lives. Kenzie allows herself to lean into some vulnerability with Kat, as she shares the things she learned about herself, what she needs, and how to accept her limitations as a human over the past year. Kat and Kenzie also process how to navigate competition and comparison in different areas of life. Plus, Kenzie shares her views on social media and how she has learned to use it in a way that feels authentic.Learn more about YNT at Youneedtherapypodcast.com & @youneedtherapypodcast on instagram. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat answers questions that you all email in each week! This week on Couch Talks, Kat talks about some of the answers she received from an instagram poll about listeners thoughts around fitness culture. She breaks down the 3 most popular reasons you all said you don’t feel comfortable in gym settings and gave some feedback on what to do about them! If you want Kat to answer your question email her at kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Learn more about Kat and the podcast at Youneedtherapypodcast.com. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) has Anne Marie Turan (@fitcitypearl) on the show to talk about the fitness industry. Anne Marie is a veteran when it comes to the fitness community in Nashville. She is a former Titans Cheerleader, Barry’s Bootcamp and Studio Novo instructor, and Sculpt House lead trainer. Recently, she has moved to creating her own virtual at home workouts that you can access by clicking HERE. Together, Kat and Anne Marie discuss how she got into the fitness world, how it’s helped her, what she doesn’t like about it, and how to feel supported and safe in an environment that can often be toxic. If you want to connect with Anne Marie you can follow her at @fitcitypearl on instagram or visit fitcityworld.com. Learn more about YNT at Youneedtherapypodcast.com & @youneedtherapypodcast on instagram. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all email in each week! This week on Couch Talks, Kat talks about how to support someone who may have borderline personality disorder. Kat also offers insight into how to approach a friend who always tells you to talk to your therapist when you just want to vent.  If you want Kat to answer your question email her at kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Learn more about Kat and the podcast at www.Youneedtherapypodcast.com. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) invites Tara Booker, LCSW back to the show to talk about spirituality and how it relates to religion and faith. Tara gives a run down on how she views spirituality and how she experiences a higher power daily. Together they talk through how spirituality can be such an important part of therapy and the healing process. Please remember that this podcast is not therapy, however it is a great way to learn about things you may want to process with a professional on your own. If you want to connect with Tara you can follow her at @pearlsofrecovery instagram or visit pearlsofrecovery.com. Learn more about YNT at Youneedtherapypodcast.com & @youneedtherapypodcast on instagram. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Couch Talks is a special Q&A episode that comes out every Wednesday where Kat (@kat.defatta) answers questions that you all email in each week! This week on Couch Talks, Kat answers a question about how to handle it when you don’t like someone a friend is dating. Then Kat talks about how to approach a friend who you think may be struggling with an eating disorder If you want Kat to answer your question email her at kathryn@youneedtherapypodcast.com. Learn more about Kat and the podcast at www.Youneedtherapypodcast.com Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week Kat (@kat.defatta) invites fellow therapist, Staci Buford on to the show to talk about her experience as a black woman working in mental health. Staci is a therapist at Kat’s practice, Three Cords Therapy and works alongside Kat everyday. Together they talk about the representation of cultural diversity in the therapy world, or the lack thereof, and where and how we may need to make some changes.If you want to work with Staci and you live in TN you can learn more about her HERE.Learn more about YNT at Youneedtherapypodcast.com & @youneedtherapypodcast Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.