In All Honesty

It's one of the most stressful decisions in modern dating: When should you hard launch your partner on social media? On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by content creator and podcaster Chiara King. Michelle and Chiara launched both of their boyfriends on social media at different stages of the relationship... and there's a lot to learn from the outcomes!Michelle and Chiara discuss their shared journeys through their break-ups, the dilemmas of 'hard launching' vs. 'soft launching' partners online and the high stakes of maintaining private relationships amidst public scrutiny. They also emphasise the importance of setting boundaries and not allowing external opinions to dictate your private life. Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow & Subscribe to Chiara King's podcast King of Hearts, wherever you get your podcasts: https://chiaraking.lnk.to/kingofheartsFollow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Finding professional opportunities stressful? Need some advice on which career path to take? On this week’s episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is sharing her tips on being successful, the importance of career values and embracing educational rejection.Michelle speaks on her experience of being rejected from Oxford University and how this led her to where she is today. Michelle is on a mission to help steer you into the right path by prioritising your values first before taking a leap into that new opportunity. Don’t forget to subscribe and don’t miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you find yourself opting out of photo opportunities? Always offering to be the person taking the photo... rather than being the one in it? On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is sharing her journey of overcoming body confidence struggles and learning to embrace photos as valuable memories.With practical advice on how to view photos positively (as well as a reality check on how other people see photos of you vs your own self-criticism), Michelle is on a mission to help you embrace spontaneity, learn to love your body... and ultimately, make sure that you get in the photo next time!Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ready to get back on the dating scene? Or, is it all a bit too soon? On this weeks episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is joined by writer, campaigner and podcast host Reel Talk Honey Ross as they reflect on both leaving long-term relationships at the same time, and where they find themselves in the healing and recovery process.Honey and Michelle leant on each other during their respective break-ups; in this conversation they share how they navigated entering new chapters in their dating lives, emphasising the importance of a supportive network. They also share the questions you should ask yourself before re-entering the dating pool, sharing their experiences with first dates and knowing when to give yourself the TLC you deserve.Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Texting your ex... a useful healing device or a one-way ticket to the pits of emotional hell? That's the topic of debate on this weeks episode of In All Honesty as Michelle is joined by author, podcaster and comedian Sofie Hagen to explore what happens when we 'give in' to the devil on our shoulder and send that first "Hey, what you up to?".Sofie, whose latest book "Will I Ever Have Sex Again?" is out now, believes in confronting the urge head-on... if you want to text your ex, then do it! Michelle couldn't feel any differently, preferring to protect yourself from what may lay on the other side. Along the way, they uncover post break-up coping mechanisms for managing emotional connections.Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You've been through the biggest break-up of your life... where do you go from here? On this week's episode of In All Honesty, Michelle is sharing the details of her post-break-up healing process including the techniques she has used to deal with the intense emotions that come with heartbreak.From the practical methods for emotional release (including somatic processing) to the importance of setting boundaries with friends, how to identify grief and knowing the places to reach out for support, Michelle is opening up her tool-kit for recovery.Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's the first guest episode of the new era of In All Honesty - and we're joined by the man who divided the nation: Love Is Blind UK's Tom Stroud.Tom split the internet on the Netflix reality show over a debate about splitting the bill on the first date, but now he's sharing the details of his life after the dating show including his experiences using dating apps. Michelle and Tom explore the pros and cons of the apps and along the way we hear an unbelievable story about catfishing and come face-to-face with the pressures of modern masculinity. Plus, Michelle comes to a new realisation about her cheating ex...Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's the first episode of this brand new era for In All Honesty... and Michelle is getting more honest than ever before and revealing the truth behind the headlines about her post-engagement break-up.She's opening up her diary and spilling it all: from the proposal all the way to the Instagram DM that changed her life. Michelle tells the true story of wedding bells to nightmare as she discovers her partner had cheated on her and how she navigated the days, weeks and months since.Don't forget to subscribe and don't miss new episodes every Tuesday!Follow In All Honesty with Michelle ElmanInstagram: @michellelelmanTikTok: @michellelelmanYouTube: @inallhonestypodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you criticise others a lot?Do you find it difficult to have intimacy?Do you tend to see the bad before the good?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about why criticism is so destructive for your personal relationships and why it breaks both trust and intimacy. She discusses why criticism is a habit and share with you how to break that habit. She talks you through how to focus on the bigger picture in order to ignore unnecessary conflict and shows you how to comment on someone's behaviour without making it personal or embedding shame.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you get nervous before a job interview?Would you love to be more confident public speaking?Do you wish you had more control over your mood?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares her top secret way she prepares for public speaking, live TV interviews and any big work moments. It's a technique which can calm your nerves and boost your confidence and minutes and she takes you through it step by step. Alongside the impact it has had before big work moments, she also uses it in her personal life when there are potential volatile situations and she shows you how you can use your past experiences to make sure you can draw on the best version of you when you need it.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you have a big temper?Do you find it difficult to stay calm in conflict?Do you get heated really quickly?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares three quick tips that you can use in the moment when you lose your temper. She talks about how our relationship with anger is warped and the way we discuss it in society isn't helpful. She discusses how you can give yourself permission to feel angry and how you can slow down so you can choose your reaction.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you find it hard to let yourself rest?Do you struggle to stop working?Are you guilty of doing one small task on your day off?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares a workplace boundary that her friend told her about and why it's such a brilliant company policy. She shares with you her policy on 100% work and 100% rest and how watching 6 hours of TV allowed her to have the most productive day she's had in a while. She talks about how different methods of numbing serve the same purpose and what being a workaholic really says about you.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you feel forced to be more positive?Do you feel pressure to make meaning out of trauma?Do you find it hard to see the good?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about the phrase she hates most in the world and how it's laced with toxic positivity. She discusses how toxic positivity doesn't help use especially in the context of trauma and shares the phrase that she hates most and why it's unhelpful to say to people going through a tough time. She shares the alternative to toxic positivity and an alternative phrase that is more helpful.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you find it hard to do something new?Do you worry about asking for favours?Do you want to feel more confident in work?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares with you one question she used to help her do the scariest part of being an author. She talks you through how embodying someone else can be a really useful tool and discusses how other people can help drive that motivation. She shows you how you can use comparison to your benefit and shares the concept of a future memory that can help you to get more things done.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you worry about what you look like?Have you been told you've let yourself go?Do you feel sad for no reason?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about what 'letting yourself go really means'. She talks about how your external appearance can reflect how you are feeling internally and how that can actually liberate you. She discusses what to do when you feel sad for no reason and how to sink into that feeling and stop worrying about how you are perceived by others. She talks you through her own sad week and discusses why putting a deadline on emotions doesn't workFor more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you get too intimidated to go to the gym?Do you worry people are judging you when exercising?Do you struggle to know how gym machines work?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about an experience in the gym where someone laughed at her while she was trying to figure out how the machine works. She discusses how gym intimidation leads to people not entering the gym for the first time and she shows you how she fueled it into her workout and how you shouldn't let that person win. She talks about how she reframed the incident in order to motivate herself.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you make friendships really quicky?Do you find they rarely last?Do you want to know how to make friendships more sustainably?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how fast friendships are a recipe for disaster and why intensity plays a key role. She talks about how to build relationships more sustainably and shares Brené Brown's theory about the marble jar. She discusses why you might feel a need to overshare and where the desire to form friendships quickly stems from and why it's not a good idea.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you want to feel happier in life?Do you worry that others have a happier life than you do?Do you feel guilty if you don't feel grateful?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about happiness and why believing we deserve to be happy can have a downside. She talks about how the pressure to be happy can actually mean you ignore other emotions and why we need to allow ourselves access to all emotions. She discusses how toxic positivity can have a negative impact and why telling people they should be happy doesn't work.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you stop texting your friends to see if they will notice?Do you have difficulty asking your partner for what you need directly?Do you often think 'the grass is greener' when in a relationship?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about why testing your relationships doesn't work. She talks about how shows like Love Island and The Ultimatum are not good demonstrations of commitment and that it is not indicative of the real world in terms of loyalty and fidelity. She discusses how running tests and seeing whether people notice is an inaccurate way of getting a solution to your problems and shows you the alternative.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you think your friends are making the wrong decision?Do you find it hard to keep your opinions to yourself?Do you want to know how to set boundaries around repeating the same conversation?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how we need to let the people in our lives make their own mistakes. She talks about how repeating your opinion over and over again is bad boundaries and shows you a better approach so that you can support the people in your life without feeling judged. She discusses how you can set a boundary around someone coming to you for advice but never listening and reminds us we have all been wrong before.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you believe setting a boundary is a threat?Do you give ultimatums when you don't get your way?Do you struggle to compromise?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about ultimatums and what the difference is between giving an ultimatum and setting a boundary. Michelle talks about how compromises often leave both parties unsatisfied and gives you a better option. She also discusses how you can get your needs met by looking under the surface level need.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you rely on external validation a lot?Do you need compliments to feel secure?Do you think you are needy to ask for reassurance?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how external validation and internal validation affect us. She discusses how you can do both and why external validation isn't a bad thing. She talks you through her personal experiences of learning how to build internal validation and why external validation isn't as reliable.For more information, follow Michelle at @MichelleLElman on Instagram, Twitter and TikTokSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you get bored easily?Do you take your boredom as a sign that you are dissatisfied with life?Do you struggle to finish what you've started?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how boredom creates room for creativity and why it's necessary in order to be successful in life, relationships and your goals. She discusses how boredom is an emotion and if you aren't able to utilise it, you will be tempted to leave a good thing. She talks through personal experiences and why boredom is not necessarily an indication of something wrong in your life.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok or Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you feel disappointed when someone does react the way you want?Do you find yourself getting annoyed at people for things you used to love in them?Do you assume people don't care about you?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how your reactions aren't always a good indicator of what you are feeling inside. She discusses the differences in how people express themselves and why it's important to understand this difference to not take it personally. She talks through personal experiences and why intense reactions will be intense in both a positive and negative way.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok or Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you still worry about letitng down your parents?Do you find it hard to make decisions without other people's inputDo you struggle to see your own opinion as important?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about waiting for your parents' approval will limit you and how it can impact your life if you aren't conscious of the fact that you are still searching for it. She discusses the importance of trying to not change people and gives tips on how to place your own opinion of higher importance than anyone else. She also gives you direct examples on how to boundary unwanted opinions.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you a perfectionist?Do you worry about looking silly?Do you feel guilty if you aren't being productiveThen this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle makes a case for why you need a hobby you are bad at and why it changed her life in so many ways. She talks about the different hobbies she has found and why being intentional about not improving your skill or trying to progress in any way is the key to it. She discusses how it changes your mentality around productivity and fun and shares how it has impacted her life more broadly to make it one of the best pieces of advice she gives out.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you wish you were more fearless?Do you find yourself declining opportunities because you are scared?Would you like to know the secret to managing fear?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how there is a myth around fearlessness that doesn't serve us and creates an unrealistic goal. She talks about how she overcomes fear herself and the tools and mentalities she used in order to do scary things like her TedX talk. She discusses how she has natvigated fear in her own career and why she doesn't let those feelings make the decisions or decide how the situation is going to go. She talks about how to gain control of your thoughts and why you might be making the fear worse than it needs to be. She also provides a book recommendation and a music playlist to help you in those scary moments.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you have days where you struggle to get out of bed?Does your self-care go out the window when you have bad mental health?Do you need a way to simplify looking after your basic needs?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how Honey Ross introduced to a really basic way to look after your self-care when life gets hard and how taking a tip from The Sims helped her cope in the pandemic. She talks about how Sims in the perfect example of taking care of each need and the importance of seeing fun needs as important as the bare essentials like hunger and sleep. She discusses how society places a hierachy of needs and why that doesn't work and why we should all live more like Sims.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you think you are a bad writer?Would you like to be an author someday?Are you curious about how you get a book deal?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how she got book deals for Am I Ugly? and The Joy of Being Selfish and how the writing process differs when you submit a book on proposal vs. a full manuscript. She talks about what she does when she feels she is creatively stuck and how she prevents writer's block and how wanting to delete your whole book is part of the process. She gives you quick tips to get started and demonstrates how writing a book is repeated commitment to sitting down and continue writing no matter what.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you want an alternative to New Years resolutions?Do you dread staying up for NYE?Do you want to know how to make the most of 2022Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about what she does at the end of every year to take all the lessons and learning from this year into the next. She shares why yearly reviews have become a lovely ritual for her and why she places less importance on being awake at midnight and that the mentality that how you spend your NYE determines the rest of your year is rubbish.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you believe there are good or bad people?Do you think you aren't judgemental?Have you been saying this is a bad year?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how the labels 'good' and 'bad' could be negatively impacting your perceptions. She discusses how these are judgements and why we have a system in our brain that will prevent us from seeing the whole picture. She gives you a quick exercise to broaden your awareness and shows how these snap decisions start in childhood.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you dread Christmas?Do you compare your family to others?Does your Christmas meal always end in a fight?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle reassures you that you aren't alone if Christmas isn't your thing and the holiday period is tough for you to get through. She talks about how you can make this weekend a more peaceful time of the year and shows you ways to redefine this time of year to make it work for you.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you currently going through a rough time?Have you ever wondered if you will ever stop crying?Are you finding it really hard to keep the faith that life will get better?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares the beliefs and mindsets she uses in her own life when life is throwing you hurdles one after another and you don't know how you are going to survive it. She talks about how these mentalities are things she accumulated over years in life coaching herself and how she used them in lockdown when her mental health wobbled. She also discusses the fact that these beliefs aren't necessarily accurate but convenient when it's hard to imagine life getting any easier.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram @ScarredNotScaredSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you want to exercise without hating your body?Is it hard to understand how someone can actually love exercise?Can body positivity and fitness co-exist?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how she went from hating movement to loving exercise. She gives you practical tips to change your relationship with exercise from one of punishment, compensating calories and self-hatred to moving from a place of fun and genuine enjoyment. She talks about her pivotal mindset shift as well as the things she had to unlearn in order to give herself permission to enjoy exercise. She discusses the impact diet culture has on your view of exercise and how you can eradicate that so movement can return to something that you can enjoy.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you struggle to build intimacy?Is it hard for you to show appreciation?Have you found that you feel less connected to the people in your life?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle shares the three things that she is unlearning in her own life that leads to intimacy and connection being broken in all relationship. She discusses how people in your life can either be positive motivation to repeat similar behaviours or negative motivation to choose something different and shares three specific ways you can choose to be different if you lacked intimacy and connection in your childhoodFor more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you wish you were body confidence?Do you think body positivity means being positive about your body?Do you think body neutrality is a more realistic goal?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about the difference between body confidence and body positivity and why labels can often confuse your own body image. She discusses how she is often held up as the 'end result' of body positivity and why this is flawed in so many ways. She talks about what the goal of body confidence practically looks like in day-to-day life and how you can make changes to your own life and how she went through the process herselfFor more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is telling people how you feel about them a scary prospect?Do you struggle to know how to compliment people?Would you like the people in your life to feel more appreciated?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about how a funeral made her evaluate whether she'd told the people she cares that she loves them. She talks about how to give a compliment and why specific compliments have a different impact. She shares her two ethos in life around telling people about the parts of themselves they don't notice and gives you texts that you should send yourself.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Did you hear the phrase 'I'm only telling you for your own good' as a child?Were you told 'if I can't tell you, who will'?Do you find it hard to make mistakes without shaming yourself?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle talks about criticism and how it affects your self-esteem. She talks about why when a parent specifically criticises us, we are unable to separate it from our behaviour and see it as our behaviour. Michelle also talks about how being constantly criticised will affect how you relate to people and your future friendships and romantic relationships with others. She discusses how to do the inner work to heal it and why your inner critic is not yours.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you a big procrastinator?Do you just believe you are lazy?Were you taught that never quitting was the key to success?Then this episode is for you.In this episode, Michelle explains why the podcast is undergoing a little bit of a change and adapting to a more casual approach. She talks about how procrastination is a word often used to distract from the real problem and the four actual reasons someone might procrastinate. She talks about how to get out of creative slump and why quitting is an essential life skill that is integral to success.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram @ScarredNotScaredSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do I not believe people when they apologize?How do I forgive myself and know I won't do it again?Should I continue to persist when someone doesn't accept your apology?How do I ask for an apology for something that happened ages ago?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on apologies and explains what a good apology involves. She discusses apology languages and why she doesn't completely agree with this model but how it is helpful to construct your own apologies. She talks about the phrase "if they were really sorry, they wouldn't have done it in the first place" and how some people need time to realise when they've done something wrong and some people realise instantly. She discusses the difference between real apologies and when apologies are just words. She also gives tips for people who hate apologising and how to move your ego out of the way. She also discusses a scene in Ginny and Georgia about how jealousy between parents and children can arise and how to process that jealousy.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is it a red flag if they never ask about me?What are the warning signs for emotional unavailability?Are there any clues that someone is going to ghost?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on red flags and defines what a red flag is. She explains the actual meaning of red flags and why this word should not be used to describe everything. She discusses how the idea of foreseeing every red flag is flawed and why we need to have a balance of being aware of red flags and not being too overanalytical. She explores the concept of conscious dating and why this is the key to a healthy balance. Within this episode, she also gives you tips on how to be conscious enough to spot red flags. She also discusses a scene in Real Housewives of New York and how our fantasies create contradictions in the words we say when we aren't being honest with ourselves.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can you still stay friends if one person likes the other and it's not reciprocated?Should you end it if they don't want kids and you do?How do you know your breakup was the right decision?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on breakups and discusses the importance of making sure breakups are clean breaks. She talks about whether you actually should stay friends after a break-up and why it really doesn't matter who breaks up with who. She discusses why breakups should be a discussion and not a finite conversation and whether you are too young to make a decision about kids. Within the episode, she also gives tips on how to heal from a breakup and why you need to take time to grieve the future you once had. She also discusses an episode of Ugly Betty and why boundaries are so necessary for breakups and why it is unfair to force a friendship when both people are not invested.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If I cut family out, will I regret it when they die?What can you do when family treat me like I'm stupid?Is it OK to set boundaries over emails and text?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on family relationships and discusses how we should hold the same standards of treatment in our familal relationships than any other relationship in our life. She talks about how the media has perpetuated this idea of "perfect families" and how Christmas enhances this idea. She shows how to set boundaries within family relationship and talks about how we learn boundaries most from our parents. She unpicks whether you can be good at setting boundaries if you are not good at receiving it and also questions how the idealised view of parents means we tend to romanticise our childhoods.Within the episode, she also gives tips on how to improve communication within your family and why you shouldnt' accept 'how things have always been' for future communication. She also discusses an episode of Station 19 that highlights how we can talk about the intersections of race and the racism that the Asian community are facing due to Corona Virus.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do you have a consent conversation without turning them off?What do you do when penetration just doesn't work?Can you have a casual relationship without moving too quickly?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on sex and discusses how we focus too much on the penis and penetration in sex. She talks about how we need to prioritise female pleasure more and why the consent conversation is simply boundary setting. She talks about why so many women find penetration uncomfortable and why the normalisation of sex hurting for women stems from the idea that a woman's first time is going to hurt. She gives you tips on how to be more in your body during sex and why it's important to stay out of your head. Within the episode, she also shares how to get into a casual relationship and why unsolicited dick pics don't ever need to be tolerated. She also discusses a scene in One Tree Hill that highlights the problem with rushing into marriage to heal a childhood wound and gives a key warning sign of moving too quickly.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When you change a lot, is it normal to want to change your friends?How do you stop worrying about future responsibility coming into your life?And what do you do when you aren't sure who you are anymore?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on life changes and asks that we notice the distinction between the adjustment process vs a settled change. She talks about how changes in your life may result in unexpected changes in the relationships and dynamics with the people in your life. She talks about the changes we have all faced in the pandemic and gives tips on how to manage change and create certainty if you feel unsafe. She gives you tips on how to stay in the moment, not needing to define every stage in your life and having more flexibility in life. She also discusses a scene in Scandal that highlights why it is important to have standards and know how you deserve to be treated. We also get into a conversation about chakras and how that can affect your energy.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do you trust a new partner when the last one cheated on you?Is it true that "once a cheater, always a cheater"?And how do you end it with someone if the trust is broken for good.In this episode, Michelle answers questions on infidelity and talks about why what constitutes as cheating will change for every person. She talks about how cheating and infidelity relates to boundaries and whether people really can change. She talks about the lasting impact cheating can have on a relationship and why staying in a relationship isn't always a bad thing. She gives you tips on how to heal if you were cheated on and also why it might have a lasting impact on your trust in other relationships in your life. She gives you practical tips on what to do if you decide to stay in the relationship and how you can know if they are truly invested in changing or it is just words. She also discusses a scene in Desperate Housewives that brings up the idea of comparison and why when we compare ourselves to others, we lose all context.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do you do when you feel like you can never do enough personal development?How do you stop self-sabotaging your own success?And what do you do if you feel like an imposter when you are confident?In this episode, Michelle answers questions on self worth, what it is and how to build your own. She talks about how a lot of the self worth conversation is very lofty and why people need practical advice in order to actually create the changes in their life. She talks about imposter syndrome is an illusion and why it's important to let personal development work resonate emotionally and not just intellectually. She gives you tips, exercises and tools you need in order to grow your self worth each day and shares with you a new exercise she is using herself to heal inner wounds from childhood. She also discusses a scene in The Bold Type and talks about why we need to be having race conversations, even if they aren't perfectly eloquent and articulate.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you feel like your friends expect you to be perfect, how do you handle someone else's perfectionism affecting you in group projects and how to heal how fear of failure so it doesn't affect your life anymore. She talks about how she believes perfectionism is used as a protection from the ego and how the term 'perfectionist' is used to push others down and feel better about yourself. She discusses how a number of things are hiding behind the term 'perfectionism' and gives you her evidence and proof as to why you should remove this word from your vocabulary altogether. She gives you tips on how to squash perfectionism immediately and gives you practical exercises to get started. She also discusses a scene in New Amsterdam which demonstrates how a boundary can be used as a wall when you are too scared to be intimate.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to handle jealousy at other people happy in love, whether people actually do change their mind about wanting a marriage and kids and when being single is just a disguise for not wanting to make yourself vulnerable to date. She talks about why she had a period of being consciously single and how that benefitted her life and why if you wouldn't date yourself, you still have things to work on before you are ready for a relationship. She gives you tips on how to be happy single and talks about what the difference is between walls and boundaries. She also discusses a scene in The Hills which brings up the dilemma of what do you do if your partner is refusing to change.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to cope in a pandemic when we have so much time on our hands, what to do if you find yourself stressing about using your free time productively and how to stop feeling the constant need to be busy. She talks about how we as a society have glorified being busy for so long and why that has resulted in the pandemic being such a shock to so many people. She gives you tips on how to learn to rest without guilt and talks about how an absence of rest often means an avoidance of your emails. She also discusses a scene in Firefly Lane and how codependent friendships can never be healthy.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to love your body when it is in so much pain, how do you adjust when your body is stopping you from living your dream life and whether it is worth it to lose weight for insurance to cover your surgery. She goes into the difference between body positivity and body confidence and discusses how to love your body through chronic illness. She gives you tips on how to be more vocal within the body positive movement and why it's important to make your version of body positivity intersectional. She also discusses a scene in Gilmore Girls which brings up the classic scenario of how to handle it when you say 'I love you' and they don't say it back.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to cut someone out, what to do if this person treats you differently to your other friend and whether you are allowed to cut someone out for giving you the silent treatment. She goes into how to handle it when people don't believe you and where to draw the line if someone is making up lies about you. She gives you tips on how to have that final conversation and what happens when there are mutual relationships and how when they get involved it results in triangulation. She also discusses a scene in The Crown which brings up the conversation whether a parent is allowed to have a favourite child and what impact that has on the family dynamic.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how you grieve someone who is still alive, whether feelings of grief for an old therapist confuses feelings for a new therapist and what do you do if you wish you had spent more time together. She gives you tips on how to process grief and whether it's possible to move on from grief or whether moving on "with" grief is healthier and explains that grief is an emotion that can arise around any loss and not just bereavement. She also discusses a scene in Breaking Bad in processing feelings around anticipatory grief and how to separate your feelings about someone else's situation.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this special bonus episode, Michelle discusses how she found out about pick-up artists, why that relates to her training as a life coach and how neuro-linguistic programming are related to both. She goes back through her life and recalls moments that she now recognises as pick-up artist techniques and how the book "Men Who Hate Women" has opened up an important conversation that needs to be had. The increased awareness around this secret community is essential for changes to take place and be able to recognise when it is happening in your own life so she shares a few techniques she has witnessed herself.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you want kids but your partner gets angry everytime you bring the conversation up, whether it's acceptable to be jealous of your partner's friend and if money is a legitimate reason to end a relationship. She gives you tips on how to have productive arguments within a relationship and talks about how romantic relationships often brings up our shadow self and uses an example from her own life to demonstrate how we can use it as an opportunity to heal and grow. She also discusses a scene in Normal People when the main character finds herself at dinner with her boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend and it all goes horribly wrong.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to manage the fear of making new friends, what to do if your partner feels lonely every time you leave and what to do if you already feel lonely and your friends keep cancelling. She gives you tips on how to process loneliness and heal from it as a childhood wound and explains the difference between alone and lonely. She also discusses a scene in Dawson's Creek and how to honour someone's vulnerability when they reveal something they are embarrassed about.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when a friend ghosts you, how you stop ghosting from affecting your self esteem and what to do when ghosting makes you doubt that the relationship even happened. She gives you tips on how to heal from the rejection and hurt that ghosting can cause and talks about how we need to take control of the parts we can control and why ghosting is the biggest turn off. She also discusses a scene in Emily In Paris when she tells her boyfriend she is moving to Paris and how that conversation could have gone!For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to find your first job after graduation, what to do if your health affects your ability to work your dream job and how do you set boundaries with a boss who doesn't understand you are off the clock when you leave the office. She gives you tips on how to write a CV with a difference and talks about how the pressure for your first job to be the right job is too high and how to change your mentality around starting from the bottom in middle-age.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do if you can't feel your emotions, how do your resolve childhood memories if you can't remember what happened and how do you stop crying when everything is going wrong. She gives you tips on how to process emotions and she shares why the way society talks about emotions is wrong and why we need to change the stereotype that emotions mean weakness.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when your friend stops sharing information with you, whether men and women can be just friends and how to have a conversation with a friend about your relationship if they want space. She gives you tips on how to find new friends (even in the middle of a pandemic!) and she shares how as a society we should be talking about the significance of a friend breakup, as often as we talk about romantic relationships ending.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when it feels like your whole life has stagnated, how do you feel more in control when everything in the world is uncertain and how can you help yourself if you feel uncertain because you are stuck with no options. She gives you tips on how to ride the wave of uncertainty and how to create certainty in uncertain moments. She also shares how her certainty in her writing career gave her the boldness to email Ariana Huffington herself!For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle has a special announcement to help you navigate boundaries! She answers questions on how to manage guilt around setting boundaries, what to do when the person you are setting boundaries with has bad mental health and how to respect someone else's boundaries when your boundaries aren't being respected. She gives you tips on how to set boundaries and shares how to open the conversation of boundaries in a calm way and the language you can use to set your own boundaries.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on what to do when you are losing hope in the dating game, how to stop relying on the external validation of men and whether it's a good idea to specify if you only want a guy who needs a car. She gives you tips on how to change your dating app profiles and shares the importance of putting full body pictures, and how it can go wrong if you aren't honest on your dating apps.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on why we are so focused on a baby's weight, how to educate others on fatphobia when they don't want to listen and how to change fatphobic language. She gives you tips on how to address your own internalised fatphobia, shares important statistics on fatphobia and recommends books to help you educate yourself.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on why anger is such a stigmatised emotion, how you can express anger without hurting others and why anger is the only negative emotion that creates energy. She gives you tips on how to processed unresolved anger, explains why negative emotions are not negative, and makes an important distinction between rage and anger, as well as anger and aggression.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on whether long distance relationships can work, can you start a new relationship with distance and is it a good idea to move across the country for a partner. She gives you tips on how to make distance work, how long distance is sometimes used as an excuse and talks about the practical issues that arise when you don't live in the same area as your partner.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Michelle answers questions on how to manage anxiety in big life events, can we all get anxiety and why do anxious thoughts increase at night time. She explains the relationship between fear and anxiety, why you can't experience in the present and some quick tips to help in the middle of an anxiety attack.For more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Michelle Elman introduces her brand new podcast and gives you a little taste of what's to come. In All Honesty is the podcast where you can get the honest answers you didn't know you needed.To join in on a future episode, email Michelle your question at inallhonesty@mindsetforlife.co.ukFor more information, follow Michelle on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter @MichelleLElmanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.