Unladylike

They're trending, unfortunately. Sociologist Emily Carian explains what the men's rights movement is, who it attracts and why. Cristen also talks to Emily about the mental and scientific challenges of interviewing anti-feminist men for her research. This episode originally aired in November 2022. Follow Unladylike Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cristen has a big update about the future of Unladylike and why now's the time to make bittersweet changes. Plus, What Is the Most Unladylike Thing About You: The Supercut!!! Remember - the Unladies' Room Patreon stays open! That where I'll be recapping election results on Saturday's bonus episode. . . . Listen to Conspiracy, She Wrote Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did Nobel Prize-winning scientist Claudia Sheinbaum Pardo become Mexico's first female and first Jewish President? Cristen maps her path into politics, the baggage she brings from her predecessor Andres Manuel Lopez Obrador (aka AMLO) and what–if any–difference Mexican feminists think this Presidenta will make.   . . . This episode's sponsor is Wild. Use code UNLADYLIKE20 for 20% off your first order. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Get your sweatshirts! Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prepare to burn your old bras and buy a new salad spinner! Custom bra maker, fitter and A Bra That Fits calculator creator Sarah McElvey blows Cristen's mind with everything you never knew you needed to know about bra sizing, bust measuring and what fit actually feels like. Shopping tips and your new favorite laundry hack included. This episode's sponsor is Wild. Use code UNLADYLIKE20 for 20% off your first order. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do big breasts get so little support when it comes to bra shopping, clothes shopping, healthcare and wellness? Inspired by The New York Times trend piece on "The Power of a Smaller Breast," Cristen revisits past conversations with two listeners who got breast reductions and share why they made the decision to get that weight off their chest and differences it made. From the physical challenges like back pain and bra struggles to the emotional rollercoaster of body image, unwanted attention, and societal expectations of breastfeeding, this episode explores the unseen realities of abundant bosoms. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's a Halloween treat from the Unladies Room Patreon! Cristen gets to the bottom of the lady-poisoner trope, where it came from and how true it really is. Highlights include Lucrezia Borgia, prunes stewed in rat poison, Agatha Christie's pre-murder mystery career, misogynist criminal science and one fatal cheesecake.  For more ad-free bonus episodes, join the Unladies' Room Patreon Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How much is too much of an age gap in relationships, and do sexist double standards apply? Cristen answers a 31-year-old listener who feels self-conscious about dating a 25-year-old guy. Plus, we take a glance at "new MILF cinema," aka why Nicole Kidman is currently starring in everything. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**UNLADIES' ROOM PATREON TEASER** Why did Casandra "Cassie" Ventura risk everything to come forward about the years of abuse she survived from her former boss and ex-boyfriend, Sean Combs, aka Puff Daddy, aka P. Diddy, aka Diddy? Cristen break down that, the federal indictment Combs is facing and the culture of silence, violence and (in)famous parties that shielded him until now. To hear the full ad-free bonus episode and support the pod, join the Patreon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when women's overlooked attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) gets diagnosed? Listeners share the "life-changing" power of finally discovering that it's not you, it's your brain wiring. For a deeper dive on what ADHD is, types of ADHD (hyperactive, inattentive, and combination) and the diagnostic gender gap, listen to the original episode, ADHD All Grown Up. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Taylor Swift endorsed Harris/Walz, she cited an “AI of ‘me’ falsely endorsing Donald Trump’s presidential run” as her reason for sharing her 2024 presidential voting plan. But this AI is just one instance of the far-right’s misinformation targeting Swift for years–nay, eras. In this Unladylike-Conspiracy, She Wrote bonus, Swiftie sociologist Brian Donovan breaks down why, how it influenced Swift’s political activism, and what it reveals about her power. And there’s plenty more red string to unravel (a Super Bowl psyop, Gaylor, Easter eggs, etc!) on CONSPIRACY, SHE WROTE episode 3: Taylor Swift Psyops. . . . Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know doctors used to put "too tall" girls (aka, over 5'7") on estrogen to stunt their growth? They even called it "tall girl therapy." Cristen breaks that old news to standup comedian and tall woman Marcella Arguello, who is constantly getting clocked for her height. Marcella and Cristen question societal around height, gender policing tall women and straight women's obsession with tall men. - Hear the latest CONSPIRACY, SHE WROTE - Get in touch on Instagram or hello@unladylike.co - Join the Unladies' Room Patreon - Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are most women vegan, and should most feminists be vegan, too? Geographer Catherine Oliver maps out gender politics on our plates and the masculinity of meat. Then, vegan beauty influencer Demi Colleen deconstructs white veganism and decolonizes plant-based diets. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Listen to Conspiracy, She Wrote Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**UNLADIES' ROOM teaser** What’s all the fuss about “historic” voter gender gaps? Does polling actually point to a “boys versus girls” US presidential election? Cristen sorts through the stats, fact-checks the media framing with a focus on white women, divorced dads and Theo Von bros.  To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon - and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How was Kamala Harris first introduced in the press, and what can it contextualize about her path from prosecutor to politician? Cristen digs into the "socialite" slurs, weaponized relationships and misogynoir that marked her first major media coverage and political showdowns—and how she defined her own narrative anyway. Join the Unladies Room Patreon to go deeper on the widening gender gap in 2024 presidential election polls. Listen and subscribe to CONSPIRACY, SHE WROTE. Episodes 1-5 are out now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**CONSPIRACY, SHE WROTE episodes 1-3 are out now! Subscribe on your favorite podcast app so you don't miss new episodes every Thursday** Pack your rush bags! It's sorority recruitment season in the South. Elizabeth Bronwyn Boyd takes us beyond the spectacle of #BamaRush into the "competitive femininity" and gender ritual of rush. She also reveals why it's no coincidence that historically white sororities were founded in the antebellum South, how they remained segregated far longer than frats, and the regional race and class roles sororities perform in her book, Southern Beauty: Race, Ritual and Memory in the Modern South. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Roxane Gay never envisioned herself as gun owner, until increasing threats forced her to reconsider what it means to be a Black feminist in a country where gun violence is rampant. From the historic role of armed resistance in Black liberation to the modern-day realities of misogynoir and the indifference toward Black women’s safety, Roxane confronts the complexities of gun culture, feminism and who is deemed worthy of self-defense. Her essay "Stand Your Ground" is the final installment of the Roxane Gay & series from Everand Originals. . . . Catch new episodes of Conspiracy, She Wrote every Thursday Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Use code UNLADYLIKE30 for 30% off at nulastin.com/unladylike. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are good vibes the secret to success? Cristen revisits psychologist Dr. Gabrielle Oettingen, author of Rethinking Positive Thinking, who rewrites the "law of attraction" with science and one handy acronym. Keep listening: How to Manifest Your BEST Life (original episode) Ask Unladylike: Happiness vs Toxic Positivity Magical Overthinking Have you heard the NEW podcast - Conspiracy, She Wrote?? Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introducing the debut episode of Cristen's brand new podcast Conspiracy, She Wrote. Where intersectional feminism meet conspiracy theories. Grab your red string and follow along for the unhinged women's history and Illuminati paranoia that set the stage for today's conspiracy-pilled political and pop cultures. Cultural historian Lindsay Porter introduces us to the fascist foremothers of modern conspiracism who were spreading disinformation about deep state plots, elite cabals and shady secret societies a century ago.  Subscribe to Conspiracy, She Wrote, available where you get your podcasts. New episodes every Thursday. For ad-free episodes, guest interview extras and exclusive red string unraveling, join The Cabal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From "peek n pokes" to chromosome testing, the Olympics has a questionable history of body policing female athletes. Tested host Rose Eveleth reveals the past, present and future of gender verification policies in elite sports, who they affect and what it has to do with fairness. Highlights include: Caster Semenya's swagger, Cold War paranoia, intersex identity, DDS status (Differences of Sexual Development) and misogynoir. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When do we care about women in conflict zones? Feminist activist Lina AbiRafeh has spent decades doing exactly that and witnessing the disproportionate impact of war and terrorism on women firsthand. She takes us to Nepal, Afghanistan, Palestine and back to unpack the realities of gender-based violence, the necessity of moving beyond despair paralysis and hierarchies of pain. Highlights include: actionable rage, feminist whataboutery and Yalla Feminists: Arab Rights and Resistance. Follow Unladylike on Instagram, TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Inspired an unlady told her big nose needed "fixing", this 2022 gem asks: What happens when refusing a nose job means defying family tradition? Filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum shares why her mother endlessly agonized over the bump in her nose. Then, medical historian Sharrona Pearl deconstructs the "Jewish nose" myth, big nose stigma and rhinoplasty's vain reputation. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is menstruation still so misunderstood? Ask Kate Clancy, the anthropology professor and period scientist who cared enough to study the relationship between COVID vaccination and temporary cycle changes when nobody else was. Cristen talks to Kate about intersectional feminist period science, what "normal" means and Period: The Real Story of Menstruation. Highlights include: an imaginary menarche, problematic faves, pathologizing vs contextualizing, a serendipitous Slack and menstrual liberation. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**UNLADIES' ROOM teaser** Cristen's calling it. The presidential election in November ain't gonna be Trump v Biden. dun dun dunnnn! To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon - and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is number two extra taboo for girls? This listener fave originally aired in 2019, but unlike Joe Biden, it does not get old. Cristen revisits a pair of comedian "poop friends" and an IBS expert to find out how gender gets in our guts, the side effects of poop shame and generally dealing with unruly bowels. Highlights include: the Moth for poop stories, colonoscopy fun, wee pads and sad improv. Follow Unladylike: Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the old saying goes, horses sweat, men perspire, and women glisten. In which case, call me a horse; I'm dripping. Cristen (and her signature sweat mustache) dives into the gender- and class-coded human superpower that is SWEATING. Science journalist Sarah Everts (The Joy of Sweat: The Strange Science of Perspiration) explains why our bodies make sweat and how deodorant marketers spun it into a societal problem for women. Highlights include: mythbusting sweat detoxes, smell dating, wild pig pheromones and stinky spinsters. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharing a preview of the Say More podcast, where, in a special series, Boston Globe columnist Shirley Leung is opening up the conversation about stress and burnout to help listeners feel less alone and inspired to get help. In this episode, Krista Tippett, says the uncertainty of the times we’re living in requires a larger spiritual quest for meaning and stillness in modern life. Krista shares her own journey managing burnout and “befriending reality” in all its glorious messiness. Then, she shares a benediction on burnout. You can listen to Say More HERE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Samhita Mukhopadhyay is done sacrificing herself to ambition. Editorial director of The Meteor and former Teen Vogue executive editor, Samhita details how corporate feminism failed us, what got lost in the fall of the girlboss and why we have to think beyond the fact that work suuuuucks. Her new book is The Myth of Making It: A Workplace Reckoning. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women initiate 70 PERCENT of divorces in husband-wife marriages. But why? Are no-fault divorce laws to thank/blame? Cristen digs through the legal history divorcing women, surprising stats and an old LIFE magazine to help explain the paradoxical and persistent relationship between women and divorce. Highlights include: faking affairs, mythbusting "too easy" divorce, America's hottest divorce colony, cooling off periods, and the 1980s "Divorce Wars."  This episode originally aired in the Unladies Room Patreon.  WANNA SHARE? Send voice memos, etc to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike: Instagram | TikTok Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are diaries the ultimate form of authenticity? How do our stories shift when we're journaling for no one to see? On Theme co-hosts Yves Jeffcoat and Katie Mitchell read into Black women's diaries for the personal reflections, everyday details and emotional nuance that goes unseen elsewhere. Highlights include: social media vs. journal authenticity, Harlem Renaissance tea, Octavia Butler's bills, and Whose Diary Do You WISH You Could Read?  Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do 400 years-worth of women's published diaries tell us about the kinds of secrets and feelings we keep to ourselves? From a 16th-century spiritualist to the diaries of Anne Frank and Ma Yan, writer Sarah Gristwood reveals the everyday histories they document, the age-old frustrations they share and why she's a proponent of hanging onto your old journals. (Yes, even the embarrassing ones!) Highlights include: writing in code, pie for dinner, peach lingerie and notes to future selves. Sarah's new anthology is Secret Voices: A Year of Women's Diaries. Follow Unladylike: Instagram, TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did Bumble get its (celibacy-themed) rebrand so wrong? What does it tell us about general dating app burnout? Cristen revises the brand's millennial girlboss origin story, its promise of female empowerment and Whitney Wolfe Herd's path to self-made billionaire. Highlights include: AI dating coaches, a sketchy Russian billionaire, corporate apologies, a Bumble-themed nunnery and costly roses on Hinge. SPILL YOUR DATING APP THOUGHTS AND STORIES: hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike: Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine having to host the Pope and the Chinese President. On the same day. Plus, a whole press corps and socialite circle is watching and waiting to blame you for anything that goes wrong. That’s what Deesha Dyer walked into when she was promoted to White House Social Secretary for the Obama administration in 2015. But even more than her high-stakes responsibilities, Deesha had to reckon with her own imposterism in a system setting her up to fail. Highlights include: a Condom Queen, 90s hip-hop, unpaid interning, handbag microaggressions and one infamous Tiffany's box. Deesha's new memoir is Undiplomatic: How My Attitude Created the Best Kind of Attitude.  Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh Advertise with Multitude Productions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

NeW ePiSoDeS returning next week, unladies! In the meantime . . . What happens when women in long-term relationships with straight men realize they're bi, and why are they less likely to come out? Writer and Culture Club host Maggie Zhou shares her own reckoning with the "Bittersweet Privilege of Straight-Passing in Queer Communities," queer imposterism and bisexual erasure. Maggie and Cristen also offer advice to two married unladies feeling stuck in the bisexual closet. (Originally aired May 25, 2023. ) Get in touch at hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for advertising inquiries Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when adult women discover they're autistic? Cristen busts the gender stereotypes and neurotypical myths of Autism Spectrum Disorder with help from unladies who've been there. The Loudest Girl in the World host and producer, Lauren Ober, details the (expensive!) jungle gym she had to cross for a middle-age diagnosis. Meanwhile, listener Sarah has mixed feelings about self-diagnosis, and listener Anna feels finally free to unmask. Highlights include: refrigerator-mom blame, too-tight ponytails, a queer correlation and America's Next Top Model cringe. Send voice memos and emails to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike doodads Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exiled from a world of engineered perfection, Demetria crash-lands into the brutal reality of the Outerlands. Distrusted by the defiant survivors, her only hope lies with a mysterious AGI, First Belle. But the secrets it holds could break her... or forge her into the hero she never knew she could be. From Wondery, the makers of Academy and Dr. Death, The Last City stars actors Rhea Seehorn, Jeannie Tirado, and Maury Sterling. Listen to The Last City on the Wondery App or wherever you get your podcasts. You can binge all episodes exclusively and ad-free on Wondery+. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Could an 1873 law that hasn't been enforced in nearly a century be a national abortion ban just waiting to happen? Legal friend of the pod Natalie Birnbaum (Repro Solutions) returns to explain what the Comstock Act is, why it's getting so much attention lately and whether it could it ban medication abortion and even birth control. Highlights include: Gilded Age abortionist Madame Restell, a postmaster general gone wild, fake-out abortion referenda and Justice Samuel Alito's revisionist legal history. Recommended resources: Plan C Pills Yellowhammer Fund ReproCare If/When/How Get more Unladylike: Send voice memos and emails to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. This episode is sponsored in part by Oak Essentials. Get 15% off your first order with code UNLADYLIKE15. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon preview** What does it take to erect a monument to women's history? Just ask Diane Carlson Evans, without whom the Vietnam Women's Memorial would not exist... To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon - and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Magician Nicole Cardoza has never met another illusionist who looks like her. The reasons why are no stage magic secret. This episode, Nicole debunks the default pale, male magician and his "lovely assistant" and reclaims the power of suspending disbelief. Highlights include: spiritual appropriation; taboo magic; the Queen of Coins; sexist pockets; and America's first Black female magician, Ellen Armstrong.  Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do vision boards and Princess Diana conspiracy theories have in common? They both rely on a kind of magical thinking called proportionality bias. It's one of many cognitive biases that returning guest Amanda Montell connects to all the woo-woo and delulu going around these days. From the sunk cost fallacy of toxic relationships to the halo effect of female celebs to the declinism of everyday doomsday speak, Amanda makes even the most mindboggling and brainrotting realities of today's (mis)information overload more bearable. Highlights include: Beyonce's vegan surprise, Charli XCX stans, Earth Mamas, therapy influencers, TikTok astrologers and "learning to stomach a sense of irresolution." Amanda's new book is The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon preview** A labor-free life of feminine leisure, and/or the ultimate self-care con? The SAHGs (stay-at-home girlfriends) of TikTok have been described as a manifestation of Gen Z, anti-girlboss culture. Except, they’re still getting paid to work!! To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon <3<3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's the difference between a white feminist and a mean girl? Not so much, as Kim Hong Nguyen explains this episode. From colonial era white women to TERFs on main today, mean girl feminism is a new term for an old problem that's all show, no go and oblivious to racialized white feminisms. We also meet its four familiar faces: Whitesplaining White Lady of Liberal Reason; Girlboss, a Self-Promotional Equity Lady; Karen with Illegible Rage; and Power Couple Wife with Resting Bitch Face. Kim is an associate professor of communication arts, and gender and social justice at the University of Waterloo. Her new book is Mean Girl Feminism: How White Feminists Gaslight, Gatekeep and Girlboss. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are butch-femme roles in queer relationships just recycling the same old hetero his 'n' hers gender boxes? What happens when toxic masculinity invades queer relationships and spaces? In an Unladylike FIRST, we're re-asking and re-answering a listener advice request–and with empathetic expertise from Autostraddle editor in-chief Carmen Phillips and membership editorial and ops wrangler and writer Nico Hall. Carmen and Nico break down butch misogyny, femme objectification and why lesbian relationships aren't immune to patriarchy. Highlights include: midcentury Buffalo lesbians, helpful dykes, queer signaling and Catholic school unladies. Use promo code UNLADYLIKE15 to get 15% off and a free organic honey-based Restorative Mask with your first order at oakessentials.com. Carmen and Nico's recommended reading: Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold Kate Bornstein (author of Gender Outlaw) With Gratitude and Struggle: Loving Butch/Femme as a Trans Woman Butch Memoirs to Check Out On navigating femme invisibility The Allure of Chola Femininity To get in touch with Unladylike: Send voice memos and emails to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon teaser** With spring a few days away, tis the season to talk BODY HAIR! But my 2019 interview with spoken word artist and performer Sukhjit Kaur Khalsa isn't the same old to-shave-or-not-to-shave body hair binary. Sukhjit is a practicing Sikh, and letting it all grow (aka keeping kesh) is an article of faith. And as you might imagine, that was easier said than done for Sukhjit once puberty rolled around, and visible hairiness attracted ALL of the unwanted attention.  To hear the full, AD-FREE episode, join the Patreon and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what the zodiac can reveal about your favorite artists? Then you have to listen to Stars and Stars with Isa, the podcast where we look to the stars above with the stars below. Every episode our charismatic, funny and insightful host and astrologer, Isa Nakazawa, sits down with the most talented creators and thinkers of our time to read them their birth chart. In the show, Isa delves into what the planets reveal about the star’s life’s purpose and why they love, create, and walk the world the way they do. You’ll laugh, you might cry and you’ll definitely connect with your favorites. You’ll even learn a little about yourself. Listen to Stars and Stars with Isa every Tuesday wherever you listen to podcasts.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Of all the aunt tropes in pop culture–spinster aunts, sinister aunts, weird aunts, witchy aunts–why is The Cool Aunt so popular these days? More importantly, who is she really, beyond (alleged) disposible income and TikTok aesthetics? Los Angeles Times art and design columnist Carolina Miranda appraises the figure as a timely foil to tradwives, as well as an underappreciated part of the family. Highlights include: Cristen's formative fictional cool aunt, Fresh Prince's Aunt Viv, Empire's Cookie Lyon and the invention of PANK (professional aunt, no kids). *Read Carolina's LA Times piece that inspired this episode: How the cool aunties of pop culture flout, the growing restrictions imposed on women* Get in touch at hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's not like a regular podcast episode. It's a cool episode. Right, Regina? Andi Mitchell and Sabrina Kohlberg from Pop Culture Moms take us on a pop cultural tour of The Cool Mom, from Mean Girls to Euphoria, and her defining qualities on screen. But as we also learn from her disregard for boundaries, the Cool Mom isn't all trope and no substance. Highlights include: Munchausen by proxy, Peg Bundy, cool dads and whether The Cool Mom is just The Cool Girl with kids. Follow Unladylike: Instagram | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wtf just happened with frozen embryos, fertility clinics and IVF in Alabama?? Get ready for the un-true crime, sci-fi Jesus saga of LePage v Center for Reproductive Medicine. As in, the case behind the Alabama state supreme court’s ruling that frozen embryos for IVF are “EXTRAUTERINE CHILDREN” in a “CRYOGENIC NURSERY” and therefore are full-ass people?? Cristen ragesplains how this anti-abortionist legal buffoonery happened, the fetal personhood of it all and why “save IVF” is a bait and switch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In 1974, what had started as a sexist gimmick became the first and only (so far) professional women's football league in US history. It wasn't a feminist stunt, either. Sports writer Frankie de la Cretaz tells us the incredible - and incredibly queer - story of the National Women's Football League, the hundreds of women who played and how it changed their lives. Highlights include: breast padding, "Harlem Globetrotters with rip-away skirts," Dallas lesbian bars and your new favorite Linda. Frankie is the co-author of Hail Mary: The Rise and Fall of the National Women's Football League. Get in touch: hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike: Instagram, TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The feminist blogosphere era officially ended last November when Jezebel, website and water cooler of millennial feminism, was shut down by its media overlords. But even though Jezebel was swiftly put on life support by Paste magazine, its long-term survival remains unclear partly due to the same, old "business problems" of feminist media. First, senior lecturer Melanie Waters shares what happened 50 years ago when Ms. magazine launched with a million-dollar investment but never turned a profit. Then, New York Times reporter Emma Goldberg explains how the feminist blogosphere's success help put it out of business and how Gen Z feminists are navigating today's fractured feminist internet. GET IN TOUCH: Send voice memos to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates Thank you to this episode's sponsor, Flure Dating App: Made for Pleasure - https://flure.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is penis size and performance the go-to butt of the joke, especially when we're talking about shitty men? Is it punching up at misogyny, or just recycling bad material? Writer Mikala Jameson (Body Type) introduces America's Small Dick Joke Problem, interrogates the instinct to hit misogyny where it hurts and recalls an infamous "hot dog down a hallway." Then, Robin Taylor, Your Trans Friend You Didn't Know You Needed, takes us deeper into the simultaneous objectification and erasure wrapped up in their punchlines. Highlights include Ben Shap***, gym bros, Sydney Sweeney's flop romcom, truck nuts, everyday transphobia and the "normal" trap. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon preview** Grab your snorkel masks and oxygen tanks, unladies! We're revisiting my 2019 interview with cave diver and underwater explorer Jill Heinerth (ep. 64: How to Dive Into Fear). She takes us along her path into the incredibly dangerous world of cave diving, how she approaches fear as an asset and what sexism looks like in her niche field.  To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon - and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if society exalted the love and commitment of friendship as highly as that of marriage and biological family? How would our lives change if close friends were more empowered to be our til-death-do-us-part significant others? Journalist Rhaina Cohen (NPR, Embedded) talks to Cristen about the friendship that shook up her own notions of BFFs; how platonic intimacy became sexually suspect and the legal barriers to nonmarital support systems. Highlights include: passionate but not sexual friend attraction, straight men besties, friend co-parenting, Byzantine brotherhoods, Thelma & Louise and the finale of HBO's Girls. Rhaina's new book is The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center. Send in your voice memos: hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharing an episode of another podcast we’re loving: Your Mama’s Kitchen, all about cuisine and culture, ingredients and identities, and the meals and memories that make us who we are. Every week, host Michele Norris talks to guests like Michelle Obama, Glennon Doyle, and José Andrés. They explore the complexities of family life and how their earliest culinary experiences helped shape their personal and professional lives—and of course, each guest shares a recipe from their youth so you can taste a bit of their story. In this episode, chef, writer and tv personality Samin Nosrat shares stories of her mother's Persian cooking in Samin's childhood kitchen, of her time training with Alice Waters at Chez Panisse in Berkley, California, and of a special trip Samin took with her mother when she was a teenager that made Samin realize how influential her own Iranian culture had been in her life, all along. The best part -- Samin shares the recipe for her Iranian-influenced, lemony chicken soup that you can savor in your own home. You can listen to more of Your Mama’s Kitchen HERE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If care workers make all work possible, then why aren't they better taken care of? And what if that predominantly low-income women of color workforce would rather care for their own children and families? Answer: racial capitalism. Barnard historian Premilla Nadasen contexualizes today's multibillion-dollar care industry in the domestic worker rights and welfare rights movements and builds the case for redefining work and reimagining care through radical Black feminism. Her newest book is Care: The Highest Stage of Capitalism. Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**UNLADIES' ROOM teaser** Did y'all know women initiate 70 PERCENT of divorces in husband-wife marriages? Are no-fault divorce laws to thank/blame? Cristen digs through the legal history of divorce rate stats, facts and an old LIFE magazine to help explain the paradoxical and persistent relationship between women-married-to-men and divorce. To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon - and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At 16 years old, Molly McGlynn discovered why she'd never had a period. Diagnosed with MRKH syndrome, Molly was born without a uterus, cervix and an underdeveloped vaginal canal. Blindsided, teenage Molly was then promptly tasked with "making" her own vagina - and advised to keep it all a secret. Now a grownup and filmmaker, Molly shares how MRKH upended her teenage life, her journey to reconnecting with her own body and turning that trauma into the coming of age comedy Fitting In, starring Maddie Ziegler and Emily Hampshire. Send voice memos: hello@unladylike.co Follow @unladylikemedia: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when someone who built their career on being Indigenous turns out to be ... a white lady? Award-winning writer and reporter Michelle Cyca shares how she came face to face with Indigenous identity fraud, why academia and the arts have a 'Pretendian' problem and what these scams means for Indigenous rights and sovereignty. **This episode originally aired on January 31, 2023** Read Michelle's MacLean's cover story, The Curious Case of Gina Adams: A "Pretendian" Investigation Send voice memos and emails to: hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon preview** With Real Housewives of Salt Lake City having a pop cultural moment, it's the perfect time for a reality check on women, gender and Mormonism.  Listen to Cristen's uncut 2018 interview with Kate Kelly, who sent shockwaves through the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS) when she dared to ask why women aren't allowed into the Mormon priesthood. Originally featured in Unladylike episode 8: How to Be a Mormon Feminist. To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon - and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Since when did parenting opposite-gender kids get branded as #BoyMoms and #GirlDads (not to be confused with "fathers of daughters")? Cristen unravels their origins and compares what these viral identities tell us about motherhood, masculinity and societal pressures to have at least "one of each." Highlights include: toxic boy moms of TikTok, Etsy merch, Rhianna, the Kardashians, a brief history of mother blame, Kobe Bryant, virtue signaling and angry dads at gender reveal parties. Send voice memos: hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready or not, the 2024 presidential election is fast approaching. So why hasn't the Democratic Party pushed for President Biden step aside and run the Veep instead? And how come the even bigger question swirling around Kamala Harris is whether SHE'S the one who should step down? Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The invention of tabloids was both revolutionary and regressive for women, and it all goes back to The Daily Mail (yes, that Daily Mail with the book-length headlines and endless celeb photos). In this Unladies' Room bonus episode, Kristen Meinzer (How to Be Fine, The Daily Fail) regales us with the surprising women's history of The Daily Mail, feminized news and what tabloids actually get right. Follow Unladylike on IG, Twitter, TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did a line of expensive, educational dolls overtake 90s girlhood? Historians and Dolls of Our Lives hosts Allison Horrocks and Mary Mahoney tell us the backstory of Pleasant Rowland inventing American Girl, the brand's uneasy relationship with feminism and Barbie, and why Molly et al remain iconic despite their obvious flaws. Their new book is Dolls of Our Lives: Why We Can't Quit American Girl. MORE, MORE, MORE: Follow Unladylike on IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The pelvic floor is so much more than Samantha Jones' kegels and postpartum prolapse. In this Unladies' Room bonus episode, pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Kara Strauss breaks down "the keystone of the body" (!!), its many functions and why we don't talk about it enough. Kara also guides Cristen through pelvic floor therapy and how it applies to painful intercourse, elusive orgasms, peeing your pants when you laugh and gender-affirming healthcare. The body's KEYSTONE, y'all! Absolutely had to share this Patreon bonus on the main feed for all to hear. Follow Unladylike on IG, Twitter, TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it sexist when straight men call each other the b-word? Cristen tracks down how bitch has (and hasn't) evolved and advises an unlady whose boyfriend thinks the b-word is no longer gendered. Then, a neurodivergent unlady is unsure how to ask friends to stop casually dropping the r-slur. BUT FIRST! Some recommended listening on Palestine: Rethinking Palestine Unsettled On the Nose Ethnically Ambiguous 5-4 More, more, more: Follow Unladylike: IG, Twitter, TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does a good life mean, especially when bad things are happening? The Mash-Up Americans creators and hosts Amy Choi and Rebecca Lehrer are celebrating their 10th podcast anniversary by answering just that. Amy and Rebecca share their epic story of deep friendship, storytelling partnership and why living a good life is neither boring nor simple. (Nor does it cater to men.) Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreion Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do Miss Universe, Miss World and international beauty pageants tell us about globalization and national identity, and why are pageants becoming MORE popular across the Global South? Feminist sociologist Dr. Oluwakemi Balogun embedded in Nigeria’s beauty pageant industry to find out. Kemi takes us beyond Western feminism’s tête-à-tête with pageant culture and to see what big international beauty pageants can tell us about gender, globalization, and the precarious power of being a beauty queen. Her book is Beauty Diplomacy: Embodying a Nation.  more more more: Follow on IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

SCOTUS just kicked off a new term, and Strict Scrutiny hosts and law professors Leah Litman and Kate Shaw are here to explain how the Justices pick which cases to hear / what fresh hell might be in store. Then, Leah and Kate break down the stakes of Acheson Hotels v. Laufer, civil rights testers and what it has to do with last year's SCOTUS win for the Colorado website designer who wished to refuse (nonexistent) gay clients. We also get into the MINDBOGGLING case of US v. Rahimi, what's next for the mifepristone appeal and keeping tabs on the Big Bad that is the Alliance Defending Freedom.  This is a bonus episode from the Unladies' Room Patreon. Support the pod and come on in! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are magic mushrooms poised to become the next big mental health med, and if so, who stands to benefit? Psychologist and Chacruna Institute co-founder Dr. Clancy Cavnar reframes today's psychedelic renaissance through the lens of social justice, queer liberation and Indigenous reciprocity. Along the way, we confront the ugly history of LSD conversion therapy, the wildly high cost of legal psilocybin therapy in Oregon and why it all comes back to patriarchy. Follow: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop ~merch~ Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. . . . Thank you to Hinge for sponsoring this episode! We all deserve to have more control over our dating experience and go on great dates. So download Hinge, and find someone worth deleting the app for: https://hin.ge/Unladylike. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Call the tripsitter! We’re macrodosing on magic mushrooms, psychedelic sexism and psilocybin breakthroughs with journalist and fact-checker Jennifer Chesak. Author of The Psilocybin Handbook for Women, she explains why psilocybin could work wonders for anxiety, eating disorders, endometriosis, PCOS, PTSD and more, and the drug’s unresolved legacy of Indigenous exploitation. Cristen also journeys into Western psychedelics’ white boys’ club culture where men are psychonauts, and women are tripsitters. Part two of three. . . . Follow on IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch! Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. . . . This episode is sponsored by Hinge. We all deserve to have more control over our dating experience and go on great dates. So download Hinge, and find someone worth deleting the app for: https://hin.ge/Unladylike. . . . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the shroom boom. It's hard not to be a mushroom enthusiast considering all the practical and medicinal magic they can do. Not to mention, they're nutrish and delish. But also sometimes deadly! In part one of three, Maria Pinto - writer and mycophile (aka fungi lover) - takes us on a foray into wild mushroom hunting, the mycological (aka fungi study) community and how a hen of the woods mushroom changed her life.  Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To change or not to change? That is the married-last-name question that actor, host and proud hyphenate Ashley Blaine Featherson-Jenkins (Dear White People, Trials to Triumphs) loves to answer. In this latest Ask Unladylike installment, Ashley and Cristen advise a listener in construction who's weary of being the "trophy worker" and an affianced unlady who worries whether taking her husband's last name is giving away part of her identity and/or caving to patriarchy. But first, they bond over Bug Juice, aka the greatest reality show for tweens ever!! Got q's for Ask Unladylike? Send a voice memo to hello@unladylike.co.  Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are more young women trading in their natural teeth for veneers, and what does it say about beauty standards, class perceptions and the dental healthcare gap? Writer Jessica Goldstein drills down on the rise of cosmetic dentistry, aesthetic veneers, head-to-toe "hotness creep" and her brilliant Washington Post feature, Have you noticed that everyone's teeth look a little too perfect?. Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are so many women getting into life coaching these days, and is it legit self-help? The Dream host (and certified life coach, technically!) Jane Marie sheds light on what it is, why it's appealing and how MLMs (multilevel marketing, a la Rodan + Fields) and influencer culture pipeline straight into life coaching and aspirational self-optimization. Follow Unladylike on Instagram, Twitter and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop unlady-merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do tarot cards really have secrets to spill? Investigative journalist and Ritually host Nelufar Hedayat shares what happened when she turned to tarot for guidance on two major life decisions and how the cards connect to the history of women and minoritized groups. Cristen also discovers the surprising origins of tarot and how its fortunetelling lore came to be. Mixed and mastered by Multitude Productions. Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad inquiries Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A lifelong self-doubter, comedian Aparna Nancherla decided to get to the bottom of her angst, and things didn't quite go as planned. From a childhood speech contest to the standup stage, Aparna takes us along her journey to finding her comedic voice, claiming her identity and confronting her inner fraud in her new book, Unreliable Narrator: Me, Myself and Imposter Syndrome. Cristen also retraces how women's imposter "syndrome" became a thing and why it's being called into question. Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop cozy merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the first-ever (!) mailbag episode, Cristen shares listener letters, DMs and life updates about dating apps, leaving academia, the bisexual closet, green card marriage and MORE! She also answers an unlady who is frustrated with negative media coverage of sorority life, gets some actionable advice on supporting local libraries and a juicy fact-check about the original "Little Mermaid". Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Commodified motherhood has come a long way, babies! Or has it? Now a multi-billion dollar industry, momfluencing also comes with a side of tradwives and mom guilt. Sara Petersen, author of Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture, talks to Cristen about the ideals they’re selling, the motherhood they’re performing and why mega-momfluencer @Ballerina Farm is such a “rich text.”  This interview originally aired in 2022 in the Unladies’ Room Patreon, and it hasn't aged a day (just like a good momfluencer!). Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop unlady-merch Contact Multitude Productions for advertising Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is one of the largest school districts in the country turning libraries into student detention centers? Debbie Hall, certified librarian and co-founder of Students Need Libraries in Houston Independent School District, fills Cristen in on the difference school librarians make, why their jobs are in jeopardy and how Moms for Liberty is pushing book censorship in Texas and beyond. Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for advertising inquiries Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How are real-life teachers applying “Abbott Elementary” inside and out of the classroom, and what can all of us learn from it? Cristen talks to Brown University senior and future teacher Jada Wooten about Black teacher representation and what education equity looks like in action. Then elementary ed associate professor Dr. Sara Jones created a college seminar on "Abbott" and she her own journey of unlearning white-savior teacher tropes (aka Dangerous Minds-itis). Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long live White Gladis, orca queen of the deep. From today's yacht-sinking killer whale moms to 19th-century "devil fish," environmental historian Anna Guasco takes Cristen on an underwater expedition of mammalian matriarchy, seafaring masculinity and the revealing messiness of human-whale relationships. Come for orca uprising, stay for the powerful underbelly of whale stories past and present. Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pack your rush bags, unladies! It's sorority recruitment season in the South. Elizabeth Bronwyn Boyd takes us beyond the spectacle of #BamaRush into the "competitive femininity" and gender ritual of rush. She also reveals why it's no coincidence that historically white sororities were founded in the antebellum South, how they remained segregated far longer than frats, and the regional race and class roles sororities perform in her book, Southern Beauty: Race, Ritual and Memory in the Modern South. hear Cristen's "Bama Rush" HBO doc recap in the Unladies' Room shop Unladylike merch contact Multitude for advertising q's Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Will going on record about your mental illness endanger your career? Mental health advocate, writer and podcaster Allison Raskin, aka Emotional Support Lady, is here to help. Allison and Cristen advise unladies navigating PTSD and "professionalism," dating anxiety and supporting chronically depressed friends and family. Join the Unladies' Room patreon Shop Unladylike merch Check out Allison's book, Overthinking It Advertising inquiries? Contact Multitude Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How has homeschooling gone from being illegal in the US to wildly unregulated in many states? The Homeschool Legal Defense Association, aka the homeschool lobby, is one of the most powerful grassroots networks you've probably never heard of. Cristen talks to reporters Meena Hart Duerson and Julia Lindau about the homeschool lobby's stealth politics; its connection to abortion bans and anti-LGBTQ laws; and why more parents across the political spectrum are choosing homeschooling. The pair investigated it all for the Vice News doc, The Secret Power of Homeschoolers.  Support Unladylike by joining the Patreon Shop Unladylike merch For advertising inquiries, contact Multitude Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Barbie has spent probably as much time in the courthouse as her Dreamhouse, suing over doll designs, feminist book titles, a literal bag of chips—you name it. Intern Anuli Ononye and Cristen follow the shocking paper trail of Barbie lawsuits, which leads them to guest Dr. Orly Lobel, author of You Don't Own Me: The Court Battles That Exposed Barbie's Dark Side, who reveals the lengths Mattel has legally gone to "protect" its billion-dollar doll, what happens when corporations clamp down on creativity and the one job Barbie will never have. Part 2 of 2. Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop brand new merch Interested in advertising? Contact Multitude Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, TikTok and Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did Barbie—a voluptuous fashion doll for children—become the It girl of toy aisle in the early 1960s, and what has it taken Mattel to keep it that way? Answer: Beyoncé-level PR and a whole lotta lawsuits. Intern Anuli and Cristen sleuth out Barbie's ascent from gold digger to girl next door; her creator, Ruth Handler, whose own children hated the dolls; when Mattel took "Barbie Girl" to court; and why it took 21 years for Black Barbie to happen. Part 1 of 2. Mixing and mastering by Multitude Productions. Advertising inquiries? Contact Multitude Shop NEW merch (sizes up to 5x) Join the Unladies Room Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's been a BUSY year for abortion law, ever since the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade. But what should we make of it, and is it all terrible news?? Repro attorney Natalie Birnbaum gives Cristen a bird's-eye view of America's abortion legal landscape, pseudoscience in the judiciary, rebuilding better than Roe and the promise of shield laws. SEE ALSO: If/When/How Center for Reproductive Rights Shout Your Abortion MORE UNLADYLIKE: Patreon Shop Advertising Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Storytime, unladies! Often called the first trans celebrity, Christine Jorgensen became world famous practically overnight. AND way back in 1952. In this Unladies Room bonus episode, Cristen tells the why, what happened next and how Jorgensen captured so much (mostly positive!) attention.  Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | Tiktok Join the Unladies Room Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh  Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Got pee pants (aka incontinence)? UTIs? Pelvic floor probs? Urologist Fenwa Milhouse, aka the Pee, Privates and Sex Doc, treats it all and then some. In this Unladies Room bonus episode, Dr. Milhouse mythbusts urologists as “gynos for men”, shares her unexpected journey into the pale male field and demystifies the unmentionable. FOLLOW Dr. Fenwa Milhouse: IG | TikTok MORE Unladylike: IG | Twitter | Tiktok JOIN the Unladies Room patreon SHOP bRaNd NeW mErCh  CONTACT Multitude for ad inquiries Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you refuse to laugh at unfunny men, shrug off casual misogyny and/or look past toxic allies? You might be a feminist killjoy - congrats! Queer scholar-activist and feminist theorist Sara Ahmed talks to guest co-host Anuli Ononye about the power of reclaiming the stereotype and the women of color who paved the way and her latest book, The Feminist Killjoy Handbook: The Radical Potential of Getting in the Way. Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | Tiktok Join the Unladies Room Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh  Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why waste a good passport marrying a fellow citizen?? What if your long-distance relationship is due to deportation? How realistic is 90-Day Fiancé? Journalist and author Anna Lekas Miller shares what happened when she "proposed marriage fraud" to a Syrian refugee and how borders, visas and passports decide who gets to be together. Just in time for summer traveling, her new book is Love Across Borders: Passports, Papers, and Romance in a Divided World. *Follow Unladylike: IG | Twitter | Tiktok *Join the Unladies Room *Shop bRaNd NeW mErCh  *Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus episode alert! Cristen dives into the FASCINATING backstory of the original Little Mermaid, why it almost wasn't made (hint: sexism), how Ariel saved Disney (!!) and whether Ursula is even more subversive than we thought. Join the Unladies Room Shop NEW merch Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How does a feminist podcast (Unladylike, specifically) make money? Cristen chats with Amanda McLoughlin of Multitude Productions about indie podcasting, surviving Big Podcast Industry and whether it's possible to make a podcast living without selling your soul to the capitalist gods. Plus, a special request to for listeners who appreciate quality podcast ads! Advertising inquires and tips: sponsors@multitude.productions Shop **new** merch: unladylike.co/shop Join the Unladies Room (aka the patreon): patreon.com/unladylikemedia Follow Unladylike on IG, TikTok and Twitter: @unladylikemedia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when women in long-term relationships with straight men realize they're bi, and why are they less likely to come out? Writer Maggie Zhou shares her own reckoning with the "Bittersweet Privilege of Straight-Passing in Queer Communities," queer imposterism and bisexual erasure. Maggie and Cristen also offer advice to two married unladies feeling stuck in the bisexual closet. Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join the Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you empower nonbinary and trans kids struggling with their changing bodies? Gender Spectrum executive director Cameron Van Fossen shares their expert advice on distinguishing gender congruence from beauty norms, checking in with kids about their mental and emotional wellbeing and responding to critics who don't get it. But first, Cristen has a question for nonbinary unladies listening. Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join the Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when women are the primary or sole earners? Is it only stigmatized if they're coupled up with men? Maya Lau, Journalist and host of Other People's Pockets, helps unpack the gender baggage around breadwinning, household finances and divorcing unsupportive husbands. Plus, Cristen tracks down the origins of the male breadwinner ideal and how it got SO baked into domestic life.  Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join le Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Special correspondent to the Met Ball / Unladylike intern Anuli debriefs Cristen on the “Super Bowl of Fashion in this Unladies Room (aka the Patreon) bonus. Why is the Met Gala such a big deal? What’s its history? Who‘s Karl? How is AOC under congressional investigation for attending in 2021?? Like Rihanna in her Valentino cape, we cover it all!  Listen to the full episode (and support an indie Unladylike!) by joining the Unladies Room.    PS: The Maintenance Phase episode Anuli mentions is Diet Book Deep Dive: The Karl Lagerfeld Diet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unladies, have y'all hear the Love Letters podcast? Love Letters tells stories about romance, marriage, partnership, sex, loss, and the human heart. Served with a side of advice. On the new season, host Meredith Goldstein explores all the ways money plays into love, dating, and relationships. Like: What happens when two partners come from different wealth backgrounds? What if someone is harboring secret debt? Who should pay for drinks on a first date? How do couples decide whose “turn” it is to pursue a career dream? Find out on the new season of Love Letters. Listen on Apple | Spotify. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you solve a problem like an adrift niece who won't add you on Snapchat? Intern Anuli helps Cristen advise an unlady trying to get through to a distant 14-year-old, a 16-year-old unsure how to tell her mom she wants an IUD, and a job-seeker feeling hopeless about finding a meaningful career path. Do YOU want some advice? We're all ears! Send requests and voice memos to hello@unladylike.co. Episode mixed and mastered by Multitude. Want to directly support Unladylike? Join le Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is—and isn't—feminist porn, and why even make it? Emerging feminist porn director Bea Blue shares how she got started in Berlin, what feminist porn means behind the scenes and why she embraces radical consent and performer criticism. Cristen also touches down on the infamous "Porn Wars" of the 1980s that ironically allied radical feminists and right-wing evangelicals. Want to support Unladylike? Join le Patreon Interested in advertising on the podcast? Contact Multitude Keep in touch? Follow @unladylikemedia on IG, Twitter, TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From #FreetheNipple to Naked Athena, public nudity is likely THE oldest, most widespread form of protest. Unladylike intern Anuli Ononye investigates why naked and topless protests remain so popular and pop culturally appealing today. Then, she assesses their complex powers and perils with Cornell University professor Naminata Diabate, author of the award-winning book Naked Agency: Genital Cursing and Biopolitics in Africa. SUPPORT UNLADYLIKE ON PATREON Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like 'I love you' expectations are higher than ever in romantic relationships? Is there a right time to say it, and does it matter who declares it first? Love to See It co-hosts Emma Gray and Claire Fallon help Cristen decipher what those three magic words do and don't signify and advise an unlady who's in love and too nervous to say it out loud. SAVE UNLADYLIKE. JOIN THE PATREON. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How did 'self-care' become synonymous with skincare routines and beauty treatments, and what does it actually mean? Dr. Pooja Lakshmin reclaims the buzzword in her debut book, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included). She tells Cristen about the existential crisis that led her to the Black, queer origins of self-care; the faux self-care sold to women; and why it's essential for taking better care of ourselves and others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you square the circle of recreational pole dancing for pleasure and strip club pole to get paid? Strippers United president Selena the Stripper confronts the tension between the polefit and sex worker communities and reclaims their pole space. Plus, we go deeper on strippers' decades-long labor movement and why some are going on strike. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unladies lead Whatthe way in this important follow-up to The Ozempic Weight-Loss Craze, sharing the less talked about reasons for taking the meds, including autism, IBS and polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). Along the way, Cristen questions the feminist taboo of intentional weight loss and her own body-positive blindspots. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does recreational pole dancing reveal about sex work stigma, from social media to strip clubs? Dr. Carolina Are unpacks why and how pole dancers dodge shadowbans and deplatforming. Then, writer and activist Selena the Stripper pulls focus to the overlooked realities that's got strippers unionizing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is a medication that's safer than Tylenol at risk of a nationwide ban? Cristen crash courses the who, what, when and WHHHHYYY of the mifepristone lawsuit, its implications for medication abortion and the too-powerful judge deciding the case (whose last name Cristen unintentionally butchers throughout). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are women expected to put on a happy VOICE? Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from How to Be Fine (formerly By the Book) lend their self-help expertise and empathy to listener questions about a "pervy" father in-law, professional dress codes and bitchy resting voice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who gets to be a ballerina and why? Erika Lantz, host of The Turning: Room of Mirrors, details the rigid hierarchy, body standards and elite ballet culture fostered by George "Father of American Ballet" Balanchine. Then, dancer Alyah Baker finds how to express her whole self as a Black, queer ballet dancer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can toxic relationships be a form of addiction? Codependency is complex, controversial and often ascribed to women. Writer Nina Renata Aron shares her own story of confronting codependency and helps Cristen unpack the culturally fraught relationship between codependency, women and feminism. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sure, breaking up is hard to do, but then what? Cristen offers some reassuring research and firsthand advice to three listeners on embracing singlehood, questioning relationships and marrying the rebound. Plus, a very happy ending from a newly divorced unlady. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when someone who built their career on being Indigenous turns out to be ... a white lady? Writer Michelle Cyca shares how she came face to face with Indigenous identity fraud, why academia and the arts have a 'Pretendian' problem and what these scams means for Indigenous rights and sovereignty. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do dogs tell us about gender, power and dominance? Listener Claire surprises Cristen with the toxic masculinity leashed to dog training, and pro dog trainer Jerri Scherff risks it all to smash the pawtriarchy. Plus, ladies who lapdog, pseudo alpha males and racialized canines. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A 50-year age gap didn't stop Annie Korzen and Mackenzie Morrison from forging a best friendship, and Cristen is frankly jealous! She talks to the besties about how they met and fell in platonic love with one another. Then, psychologist, author and podcaster Dr. Andrea Bonior goes deeper on ageism in friendship, what gender has to do with it and tips for making intergerational friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kids are sexting, like it or not! Non-parent Cristen consults sex educator Dr. Catherine Dukes about when and how to have The Sext Talk with kids. Then, Cristen channels her inner Ms. Frizzle to help a listener who wants to get better sex education in her high school. Recommended resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ https://www.scarleteen.com/ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/ https://amaze.org/ Sex Ed for Social Change: https://siecus.org/resources/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to a new era of 'miracle' weight-loss drugs, starring Ozempic. In this Patreon bonus episode, Cristen gets to the bottom of the type 2 diabetes drug shortage, how it "works" for dropping lbs and whether it means thin is back in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's a daughter to do when her estranged mom won't stop asking for money? Financial abuse expert Axton Betz-Hamilton untangles the possible financial enmeshment and enabling at play and how to set healthier boundaries. Then, Cristen advises an overwhelmed unlady on outsourcing her mental load. For more resources: https://financialtherapyassociation.org/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can real feminists eat cheese? Vegan geographer Catherine Oliver maps out why most vegans are women and the masculinity of meat. Then, vegan beauty influencer Demi Colleen deconstructs white veganism and decolonizes plant-based diets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gender roles ever catch you by surprise? Comedian Emma Willmann (Inside the Closet) offers her firsthand advice to a lesbian listener turned off by her girlfriend's masculinity. Then, Cristen answers a childfree stepmom feeling pressured to play homemaker for the holidays. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do men become men's rights activists? Sociologist Emily Carian has spent her academic career answering that question. Cristen talks to Emily about her research; the straight, white pathway into MRA belief; and what they have in common with feminist men. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, I’m sharing a preview of a new podcast I’m enjoying and think you will, too. On Come As You Are, educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. You’ll get a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Emily debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality. In this preview, Emily is joined by organizer and writer Adrienne Maree Brown for advice on how to reconnect with pleasure and make it a lifelong practice. Listen to Come As You Are at Listen at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/caya?sid=unladylike.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are Iranian women burning hijabs and leading revolutionary protests? Dr. Claudia Yaghoobi contextualizes their rage over the death of a 22-year-old Kurdish woman named Jîna Mahsa Amini. Then, graphic designer Ghazal Foroutan shares how the revolution has turned art into activism and why Gen Z women are fearlessly fronting this fight. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does virginity f*ck with our heads? Cristen advises a listener who's worried her sexual inexperience is showing. Listeners also sound off on previous advice on unvaxxed friends, STEM sexism and the "Mom" treatment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when adult women discover they're autistic? Cristen busts the gender stereotypes and neurotypical myths of Autism Spectrum Disorder with help from Unladylike listeners and The Loudest Girl in the World, Lauren Ober. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Christian right has become synonymous with anti-abortion, but what about the Christian left? Reverend Angela Tyler-Williams takes Cristen to church on reconciling reproductive justice and abortion with Christianity and how she and the interfaith repro alliance SACReD are leading congregations to do just that.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women dominate both true crime and horror, and in unexpected ways. Bobbi Miller (The Afternoon Special) and Cristen dig into true crime media, fandom and white ladies’ fascination with serial killers. Then, film critic Amy Nicholson (Unspooled) reframes horror as “the genre that has always belonged to women,” Final Girls' surprising origin and an iconic scary movie worth rewatching.   ~ Go to Zocdoc.com/UNLADYLIKE and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then start your search for a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when refusing a nose job means defying family tradition? Filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum shares why her mother endlessly agonized over the bump in her nose. Then, medical historian Sharrona Pearl deconstructs the "Jewish nose" myth, big nose stigma and rhinoplasty's vain reputation. ~ This show is sponsored by Betterhelp. When you want to be a better problem solver, therapy can get you there. Visit BetterHelp.com/UNLADYLIKE today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re sharing a special episode from another podcast, A Slight Change of Plans, from Pushkin Industries. In this preview, civil rights icon Ruby Bridges shares what it was like to be the first African-American student to attend an all-white elementary school in Louisiana in 1960. Ruby was just six years old at the time, and it would be years before she fully appreciated her role in advancing civil rights in America. Hear the full episode, and more from A Slight Change of Plans, at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/scp5?sid=unladylike. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can friendship survive the vaccine divide? Is entering a male-dominated industry setting yourself up to fail and/or become the "Mom" of the workplace? It's a juicy grabbag of listener advice requests, and Cristen is coming in HOT. ~ This show is sponsored by Betterhelp. When you want to be a better problem solver, therapy can get you there. Visit BetterHelp.com/UNLADYLIKE today to get 10% off your first month. Get started with Issuu today for FREE or sign up for an annual premium account and get 50% off when you go to issuu.com/podcast and use promo code UNLADYLIKE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cristen dips her toe into wikiFeet and FeetFinder on a quest to figure out why foot fetishes and feet pics are so hot right now. Then, professional dominatrix Miss Mae Ling schools her on the sex work of foot fetishes and what it takes to be a successful feet model. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wedding bells and feminist guilt are in the air! Cristen answers three unladies' advice requests on WHY engagement rings, feminist wedding pressure and being the liberal daughter in-law. ~ Go to Zocdoc.com/unladylike and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then start your search for a top-rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re sharing a special preview of a new podcast, The Loudest Girl in the World. For years, journalist and podcast host Lauren Ober wasn’t all that jazzed about herself. She was always getting in trouble, she had a lot of sensory issues and her anxiety felt off the charts. And then, she found out why — she was autistic. The Loudest Girl in the World tells the story of Lauren’s journey to understand what it means to be on the autism spectrum and how to live life as a newly diagnosed autistic person. You can hear the full episode, and more from The Loudest Girl in the World, at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/loudest?sid=unladylike. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What attracts women to conspiracy theories? TikTok misinformation researcher Abbie Richards debunks the tinfoil hat stereotype and explains the rise of Pastel QAnon. Then, returning guest Bridget Todd demystifies the gender panic embedded in mainstream conspiracies and what we don't talk enough when it comes to conspiracy theories.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The pod’s officially back, and Cristen’s officially fallen down the conspiracy theory rabbit hole. For research! From the "grand dame of modern conspiracy theory" to moms "saving girls' sports," women spreading conspiracies goes deep, it’s a two-parter. Cristen spends this episode with women’s historian Erin M. Kempker who details how predominantly white suburban women were mainstreaming right-wing, antifeminist conspiracy theories way before QAnon and Canva.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey unladies! Cristen is back with a LOT of Unladylike questions to answer, gender baggage to check and dumpster fires to extinguish. So much fun to be had and rage to be stoked! Catch new episodes of Unladylike every Tuesday on all the podcast places. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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One Unladylike era comes to an end, and another begins. It's Caroline's farewell episode, and we're taking stock of our decade podcasting together, why Caroline's moving on, how Cristen’s processing and what's next for Unladylike.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being FOD — first, only, or different — can also mean contending with self-doubt and imposter syndrome. Elaine Welteroth has been there and has an Unladylike Pep Talk for not shrinking yourself. The Project Runway judge, author and former Teen Vogue editor in-chief offers her firsthand tips for cultivating wild confidence, a positive inner voice and limitless possibility. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Since nothing summons body insecurity quite like “swimsuit season," yoga goddess Jessamyn Stanley has an Unladylike Pep Talk for appreciating the skin we're in. Even when we feel like a boob-sweaty, thigh-chafing hot mess! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's so wrong with being alone? Writer and podcaster Julia Bainbridge brings us a reassuring, insightful Pep Talk on spending time by ourselves, how it's misunderstood and what getting comfortable with solitude can teach us. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you maintain your identity — not to mention your sanity — in the thick of wedding planning? Whether you’re the one tying the knot, or you’re watching from the wings, Unladylike co-host Cristen Conger has a wedding-wisdom pep talk we could all use.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike.Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Infertility struggles and treatments drain more than your wallet. Doree Shafrir, co-host of the podcast Forever35, wants you to know you’re not alone. Her Unladylike pep talk lends perspective and encouragement for folks on the fertility journey. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine a world without unsolicited dick pics and dating-site harassment. Bye Felipe founder Alexandra Tweten wants to make that a reality. In the meantime, she offers an Unladylike pep talk on dealing with internet creeps and maintaining your sanity. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dildos, harnesses and o-rings, oh my! Professional dominatrix/listener Mae Ling introduces us to the power and pleasure of strap-ons and pegging. Then, we dig deeper into the gender and sexual politics of penetration with queer sex educator Henri-June Pilote, and writer Demetria Blooms shares how strapping led to self-healing. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Returning guest and restorative justice expert Dr. Alissa Ackerman helps us advise a listener whose BFF's boyfriend is accused of sexual assault as well as a listener whose friends turned on her when she came forward about being assaulted. Plus, what's the best way to respond to sexual harassment deniers? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With book banning on the rise, it's the perfect time to hear from Glory Edim, aka Well-Read Black Girl. Glory tells us about growing up at the library, how books changed her life, and the power of reading in community. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do breast reductions have such sky-high satisfaction rates? How does life before and after surgery compare? Listeners Kelly and S. share their breast reduction stories and the weight it did — and didn't — take off their chests. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Staying together forever can feel like an impossible slog — just Ask Polly, aka advice columnist Heather Havrilesky. She helps us troubleshoot marital regret, absent sex drives and self-preservation and discusses her new memoir, Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Romance is the most popular fiction genre, but it rarely gets the respect it deserves. Avid romance reader Nichole Perkins and best-selling queer romance author Casey McQuiston guide us through the relationships, tropes and happily-ever-afters that make romance novels worth falling for. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Intimacy coordinator is one of the newest, buzziest roles in Hollywood. But what exactly does the job entail? Pioneering intimacy coordinator Alicia Rodis takes us behind the scenes of making simulated sex and nudity safer on set. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There might be a special place in hell for women who don't support other women, but how on earth do you deal with them in the meantime? C&C help a listener struggling with a terrible female coworker and offer rapid-fire advice on orgasms, apologies and feminist marriage. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adult friending is hard! Luckily, a pair of long-distance besties are here to pep-talk you through the process: Call Your Girlfriend hosts Aminatou Sow and Ann Friedman swap their tips and tricks for making new friends when you're grown. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Negin Farsad passes along her rules for making online dating (aka dating) less terrible and offers a hilariously practical pep talk for stepping up your game, even when you end up across the table from someone you instantly hate. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fired, laid off, downsized — whatever you call it, losing your job can feel like losing everything. By the Book podcast co-hosts Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg are here to commiserate, reset your self-worth and forge ahead. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether you're "the poor friend," the "rich auntie" or somewhere in between, class is always in session. Writer Ashley C. Ford blows past polite conversation with a mythbusting pep talk around money, meritocracy and moving on up. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Need less FOMO and more JOMO (joy of missing out)? Girls’ Night In founder Alisha Ramos is here to pep you up for staying put—and not feeling bad about it. So toss off your bra, grab a face mask and get ready for some expert self-care coaching. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel at odds with society's sexpectations? Model and activist Rain Dove shares their story of opting out of the gender binary and offers a very personal pep talk for embracing your uniqueness and giving the world everything you’ve got. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When faced with infertility, unladies are often pressured to just "try harder." But what if you don't want to? A pair of listeners take Cristen and Caroline along their journey of navigating infertility and being childfree NOT by choice—or at least not first choice. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's so wrong with not wanting kids? Cristen and Caroline investigate what happens when unladies choose to be childfree and the pressure to justify their non-reproductive choice. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cristen and Caroline advise two listeners in need of major spousal support. One husband is willfully incompetent with childcare and another won't let go of his anti-abortion beliefs. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some orgasms are wetter than others — so what? A listener calls us in on the squirting shame she experienced from a previous Unladylike episode. Then, author and host Lux Alptraum brings a refreshing dose of squirting positivity and detaches the pleasure from porn fetishizing and the sexist debate over whether it's "just pee." Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The sexual revolution will be monetized. In this Patreon bonus episode, Caroline and Cristen explore the concept of "lean-in sexuality," the commodification of climaxing and why sometimes, it's fine to fake it. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Until recently, nonconsensual condom removal, aka stealthing, has gone unnamed and unpunished. When then-law student Alexandra Brodsky published a legal paper about stealthing, it went viral and yielded immediate, real-world ripple effects. Brodsky tells us that astonishing story, why stealthing struck a chord and how changing laws can help change consent culture. Alexandra Brodsky is a civil rights attorney and the author of the new book Sexual Justice: Supporting Victims, Ensuring Due Process, and Resisting the Conservative Backlash. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cristen and Caroline advise a mom worried that divorce will ruin her daughter and a teacher unsure how to address dress codes with her students. Then, it's time for a fashionable game! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hormonal birth control is the most commonly prescribed contraception, but what about the side effects? Nurse practitioner Jennifer Robinson helps us weigh the hormonal — and nonhormonal — options. Plus, author Elinor Cleghorn shares the shocking history of The Pill and how it relates to birth control side effects today. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you solve a problem like environmental injustice? Meet two forces of nature and intergenerational allies — trailblazer Vernice Miller-Travis and Intersectional Environmentalist founder Leah Thomas — on a mission to connect the dots between environmentalism, anti-racism and feminism. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Kyra Condie says climbing is for everyone, she’s not exaggerating. It's a rare sport where young girls can hold their own against ripped CrossFit bros — even if they have severe scoliosis like Kyra. This episode, we find out how she scaled her way to the Olympics and what it's taken to beat the odds and reach the top. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's the best way to navigate life's major money pits? Our very own financial planner Helen Ngo lends her expert advice on budgeting, spending guilt, ethical investing and more. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You can't swing a vision board around social media without hitting influencers, life coaches, and boss babes galore selling manifesting and positive vibes as the secret to wealth and happiness. Cristen and Caroline investigate the growing business of manifesting, why it's so attractive to women, and the psychological powers—and pitfalls—of positive thinking. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are cult vibes so strong right now? Don't blame brainwashing. Linguist Amanda Montell breaks down what cult-speak sounds like, how it seduces us and why it's everywhere these days. Her new book is Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cookbook author Julia Turshen thinks of her recipe collections as Trojan horses to talk about far more than food, and she's right. We mix it up with Julia about her childhood cookbook obsession, recipe writing, and why cookbooks deserve more respect. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you mend emotionally fraught friendships? Cristen and Caroline offer advice - and some tough love - to two unladies in the thick of friendship conflicts. Then, it's onto a rapid fire round of questions about boob jobs, bosses, catcallers and more! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why did it take 13 years for Britney Spears to speak out against her conservatorship? Tess Barker and Babs Gray share how they galvanized #FreeBritney into a disability right movement. Then, ACLU lawyer Zoe Brennan-Krohn takes us deeper into the ableist origins of guardianship, why it's so hard to get out of one, and how Britney's case could affect the system at large. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do antivax memes, abortion myths and canceling Father's Day have in common? They're all lies amplified through fake online accounts impersonating Black women. Digital activist Bridget Todd sheds important light about how this kind of racist, sexist disinformation works, its offline impacts and what tech platforms have — and haven't — done to stop it. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling burnt out? Journalist Anne Helen Petersen breaks down where our collective exhaustion comes from, how modern workplaces fuel it, and why "self-care" isn't the antidote. She also shares her own burnout bottoming out that inspired her book, Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cristen and Caroline advise a mom who's scared of giving her daughter body issues and a daughter who wants to help her mom become body positive. Then, it's on to a delightfully cringe new segment, Terrible Advice. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we pretend women don't lose their hair? In the final episode of our series all about head hair, we wig out with Supriya Surender who began living more fully after alopecia areata left her fully bald. Then, hairstylist Dorin Azerad demystifies trichotillomania — her deepest, darkest secret growing up. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does your hair color say about you? In part two of our series all about head hair, we find out how writer Jessica Berger Gross broke up with dyeing and fell in love with her grays. Then, software engineer Jameson Hampton highlights how rainbow-bright hair helped them navigate gender identity and queerness. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When twin sisters Mya and Deanna Cook wore braided extensions to school, they had no idea it would start a fight for their civil rights. In part one of our series all about head hair, we untangle Black hair discrimination and the CROWN Act movement to end it. Plus, listener Tara Nelson takes us on her natural hair journey and why it was about so much more than just hair. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dear unladies, let's talk about life timing. Forever35 hosts Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir help us answer advice questions on feeling too late to dating, too early to aging and behind schedule on baby-making. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Ashley C. Ford was growing up, money was tight, home life was unstable and a current of shame ran through it all. We talk to Ashley about unlearning that shame; reconciling her family relationships; coming into her own and sharing it all in her bestselling memoir, Somebody’s Daughter. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Endometriosis is highly common, incurable and often written off as "bad periods." But the uterine disease can also wreak havoc with chronic pain, infertility, mood disorders and more. Shereen Marisol Meraji of NPR's Code Switch takes us on her endometriosis journey. Then, medical student/patient researcher Meghan Martin shares her brilliant idea to make endometriosis diagnoses a lot easier. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

States across the U.S. are racing to ban trans girls from school sports. Why? Because two teen runners in Connecticut did arguably the riskiest thing transgender athletes can do these days: They won. This episode, ESPN writer Katie Barnes and trans runner Andraya Yearwood tell us the astonishing story — and how it unleashed a tidal wave of transphobic legislation and a lawsuit that could redefine Title IX. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dear unladies, we've got a trio of advice q's on deck AND a dazzling guest! Comedian Negin Farsad helps us make new friends. Then, Cristen and Caroline go ham on "when are you having kids?" and "pulling the race card" racism. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’ve survived sexual trauma. But then what? This episode, we're breaking the silence on the ripple effects of rape and assault and exploring pathways to healing and relearning intimacy with help from Unladylike listeners and forensic psychologist Dr. Judy Ho. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exiting abusive relationships can be extremely difficult — especially when your partner is extremely powerful. But that's what Tanya Selvaratnam did when she broke up with former New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. Unladylike senior producer Nora Ritchie talks to Tanya about how she got out; why she went public; and what she wants to accomplish with her memoir, Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Where's the line between fostering happiness and just forcing women to smile all the time? Yale psychologist and the host of The Happiness Lab podcast, Laurie Santos, breaks down the facts and fictions of how to get happier. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hawaii Senator Mazie Hirono is a trailblazer, feminist and a political force to be reckoned with. Cristen and Caroline talk to the Senator about sexism, AAPI stereotyping, calling bullsh*t and her new memoir, Heart of Fire: An Immigrant Daughter’s Story. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Activist Raquel Willis is on the frontlines of the trans rights movement 24/7. We follow Raquel's journey to becoming a modern-day movement leader. Plus, we dig deeper into trans inclusion in feminism, the weaponization of womanhood and the onslaught of anti-trans laws that are sweeping the US. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are so many women struggling with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)? Caroline and Cristen sort through the gender stereotyping and moralizing that obscures ADHD in girls and why finally getting diagnosed with ADHD can feel so life-changing for women. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dear unladies, it's our very first advice episode! Cristen and Caroline answer a listener who's torn about finding "The One" and swap stories about falling in love, not-so Prince Charmings and exes who definitely weren't the ones. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As divas go, Mariah Carey and Céline Dion have a lot in common. But the media has treated their divadoms wildly differently, dahling. Chelsea Devantez, host of the Celebrity Book Club podcast, helps us dissect the diva construct by walking us through the wild career highs and lows of Mariah and Céline. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Listen to our companion Unladylike Divas Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5GtWg4oNVsupuKr8tXQUl5?si=3c7b629112084ef6 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tracing family trees can take more than DNA tests and genealogy websites, especially if your ancestors were enslaved. Acclaimed writer Morgan Jerkins tells Caroline about driving across the country to find out who she came from, how she fits into the broader history of the Great Migration and why learning about her family's ancestry changed her perception of Blackness. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Self-love is easier said than done, even when you're a body positivity icon like Tess Holliday. We're going deep with the model, activist and tattoo queen about chasing her dreams, chasing off fatphobic trolls and learning what it really means to love herself. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cristen and Caroline are back with all-new episodes starting March 30th! Plus, the show is going to be mostly weekly from here on out. Rather than taking longer breaks between seasons, we'll be pumping out fresh episodes nearly every single week of the year. Look out for a new episode dropping next week! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leading up to brand-new episodes of Unladylike, we’re hitting replay on four of our top (and most timely) episodes from the archive. Today, we revisit one of our buzziest episodes from 2018. Vibrators are more popular than ever, and women founders, designers, and engineers are increasingly claiming their space in today’s booming, $15-billion sex toy and sextech industries. But the biz behind the buzz isn't exactly liberating. Polly Rodriguez, co-founder of the sexual wellness start-up Unbound, talks to Cristen and Caroline about the unexpected kinks of being a boss babe with vibrator career goals and what still stands between us and the good vibes our bodies deserve. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the run-up to brand-new episodes of Unladylike on March 30th, we’re hitting replay on four of our favorite episodes from the archive. Today, C&C revisit this episode from 2019. The 1990s were supposed to be the "decade of women," but it became all about the bitches instead. Caroline and Cristen put on their velvet chokers for a feminist 90s-nostalgia trip with journalist Allison Yarrow (90s Bitch: Media, Culture, and the Failed Promise of Gender Equality), through the bitchification backlash and its leading unladies like Monica Lewinsky, Lorena Bobbitt, and Tonya Harding. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leading up to brand-new episodes of Unladylike, we’re hitting replay on four of our top (and most timely) episodes from the archive. Today, C&C stretch it out and revisit this episode from 2018. Body-positive yoga icon Jessamyn Stanley shares her journey to finding her yoga body and claiming her space on the mat as a fat, queer, black woman. Cristen and Caroline also unpack the claptrap of why yoga has become an aspirational whitewashed lifestyle and what that means for the women who need yoga the most. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

C&C revisit this episode from 2018 while they prepare for new episodes -- coming your way March 30th. Moms aren't supposed to admit it, but loving your kids can also come with not loving--and possibly regretting--becoming a parent at all. Caroline and Cristen explore this taboo territory and its maternal instinct mythology with help from a couple bad mother-disruptors who are figuring out what motherhood means on their own terms. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unprecedented times call for an unprecedented Unladylike! Cristen and Caroline close out 2020 by interviewing each other about how we're feeling as people, podcasters and, especially, white feminists. Along the way, we grapple with our own insecurities, listener criticisms and the Karens in our midst. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Michelle Buteau is everywhere these days, including a Netflix standup special (Welcome to Beautopia); the First Wives Club reboot on BET+ and her new memoir, Survival of the Thickest. This episode, she bares all about the three B’s: her body, her boobs, and her babies. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

'Tis the season for romantic comedies. But are we "allowed" to love these very imperfect, yet formative films? Bestselling author, Shrill co-creator and Hallmark movie fan Lindy West helps us reconcile our problematic rom-com faves and ruins Love, Actually for good. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has breaking out ever made you feel like breaking down? Adult acne and facial skin conditions are extremely common — and so are their mental health side effects. This episode, Cristen and Caroline get deep with dermatology and what we believe "bad skin" says about us. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is there a right way to choose your Botox choice? Does it make you a bad feminist? Is a wrinkle makeover worth it? Cristen and Caroline examine their own aging anxieties and break through the good-or-bad Botox binary with Dr. Dana Berkowitz, author of Botox Nation: Changing the Face of America. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexting is totally normal, especially during quarantine. So why don't we treat sending nudes with the same attention to pleasure and consent as we do with IRL encounters? With help from The Cut's Avery Trufelman and Allison P. Davis, we're finding out what happens we get sext-positive. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the Bachelor franchise here for the right reasons? For Rachel Lindsay, the first Black Bachelorette, it's complicated. This episode, Rachel shares the highs and lows of being the first, how the franchise uses race for ratings, and why she almost broke up with Bachelor Nation. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Actor Busy Philipps has been in Hollywood since she was 19. But it wasn't until she gave up on giving in to the industry and its sexism that her big breakout moment arrived. This episode, Busy spills what it was like breaking into the industry during the ultra-low-rise jeans era, why she started naming names, and why trying her best is good enough. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pregnant? Scared? Anti-abortion crisis pregnancy centers, or pregnancy resource centers, outnumber abortion clinics three to one in the United States. This episode, we find out why they're thriving and what to expect when you're NOT expecting to end up at a crisis pregnancy center. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it take to build abortion clinics in America? Whole Woman’s Health founder Amy Hagstrom Miller shares the lengths providers have to go to create and sustain safe clinic spaces. Plus, the story of how she took one of the biggest, baddest anti-abortion laws to the Supreme Court. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's impossible to not shake, wiggle and twerk when Big Freedia takes the mic. The Queen Diva of bounce music shares her astonishing journey from a New Orleans gospel choir to hip-hop superstardom and how Hurricane Katrina helped make it happen. Plus, C&C rejoice in the power of ass! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Full Frontal host Samantha Bee never thought her late-night show would reach five seasons and almost as many Emmy wins. Find out why, plus what she's learned about being the boss and the civility scandal she's still not over. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stacy Osei-Kuffour has made a name for herself writing for shows like Pen15, Watchmen and Run, but growing up in Chicago, she was a self-proclaimed outcast. In this bonus episode, we talk with Stacy about how embracing her weirdness helped her write her breakthrough play, how that play opened the door to television writing, and how she put it all together to go after her dream job. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hiking has been all the rage lately. But its popularity also reveals uncomfortable truths about who gets to belong in the great outdoors. This episode, Cristen and Caroline cross paths with geographer Carolyn Finney and Outdoor Journal Tour founders Kenya and Michelle Jackson-Saulters to map out the duality of America's hiking trails as sites of racial pain as well as Black joy and healing. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter [unladylike.co]. And join our Facebook group! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This ad is brought to you by Prose [prose.com/unladylike for 15% off first order [prose.com]], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com [bestfiends.com]], and Wild Basin [drizly.com [drizly.com] code UNLADYLIKE for $5 off first order]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it possible to combat sexual violence and support survivors without sending perpetrators to prison? Dr. Alissa Ackerman, a sex crimes policy expert and rape survivor, thinks so. In part two of two episodes reconsidering mainstream feminism's reliance on the criminal justice system, Dr. Ackerman outlines a powerful alternative to prison punishment called restorative justice and why she's living proof that it works. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Femme Fun [femmefun.com code UNLADYLIKE for 15% off], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], Native [nativedeo.com promo code Unladylike], Tempest [jointempest.com code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], and Each and Every [https://eachandevery.com/ code UNLADYLIKE for 30% off your first purchase]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Recent calls to defund police and abolish prisons have raised the question: But what about rapists? In part one of two episodes exploring that question, prison abolitionist Maya Schenwar presents the case for looking outside the criminal justice system for safety and connects the dots between abolition and feminism Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], Native [nativedeo.com code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off], Barefoot Scientist [barefootscientist.com code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off first order], Tempest [jointempest.com code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], and Each and Every [eachandevery.com code UNLADYLIKE for 30% off your first purchase]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When was the last time you had sex, if ever? In the final episode of our How to Live Single series, science journalist Angela Chen upends that question by creating romantic room for asexuality. Her book, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society and the Meaning of Sex, comes out in September. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Barefoot Scientist [code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off first order] Tempest [code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], and Best Fiends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does living single usually come with roommates? In part two of three about How to Live Single, Cristen and Caroline get a Golden Girls reality check on the housing crises caused by breakups and aging. This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends [bestfiends.com] and Native [nativedeo.com promo code Unladylike]. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if being single wasn't sold to us as a problem to solve? In part one of three episodes exploring How to Live Single, Aminatou Sow (Call Your Girlfriend) and Shani Silver (A Single Serving Podcast) get real about how unpartnered unladies care for themselves, embrace their relationship status and negotiate the casual and costly ways that society taxes singledom. This episode is brought to you by Barefoot Scientist [code UNLADYLIKE for 20% off first order] Tempest [code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], Oscar Mayer, and Ms. Bitch. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A number of feminist-branded companies, including The Wing, Man Repeller and Ban.do, are reckoning with racism and employee mistreatment. This episode, we're focusing in on the digital-media powerhouse Refinery29 and its problematic white leadership. Plus, we'll examine what the #blackatR29 movement reveals about working while Black and why seemingly woke, women-led outlets aren't immune to toxicity, inequity and top-down racism. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Tempest [code UNLADYLIKE for $50 off], Oscar Mayer, and Ms. Bitch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Almost as soon as pandemic lockdowns started, homebound breasts everywhere began forgoing their bras. But how is going braless still unconventional enough to inspire viral media coverage amid a public health crisis? Breast expert Jenny Burbage joins us to bust some bra myths, and author Chidera Eggerue explains why saggy boobs matter. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Weightlifting used to be boys-only exercise, but women are getting swole like never before. Cristen and Caroline find out why from competitive powerlifter Casey Johnston. Then Team USA weightlifter Mattie Rogers shares how she muscled her way to becoming one of the strongest — and most Instagram-famous — women in the sport. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This episode is brought to you Rosebud. [rosewoman.com promo code UNLADYLIKE], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], Third Love [thirdlove.com], the Let's Go Together podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you solve a problem like white feminism? Mikki Kendall knows, and the answer isn't being nice. From #solidarityisforwhitewomen to Hood Feminism, Mikki shares how uprooting racism within mainstream feminism became her mission, and why she makes white ladies uncomfortable on purpose. This episode is brought to you Rosebud. [rosewoman.com promo code UNLADYLIKE], Best Fiends [bestfiends.com], and Third Love [thirdlove.com]. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tori Amos is a piano prodigy and Gen X goddess whose music was a soundtrack of third-wave feminism. Cristen and Caroline talk to her about breaking through the early 90s airwaves and find out: Why is Tori Amos such an enduring feminist icon? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

'How are you doing?' has become a super loaded question in the days of COVID. So this episode, Cristen and Caroline find out how listeners are feeling, check in with Unladylike illustrator Tyler Feder and take a much-needed Zoom trip to the therapist to help us sort through our collective pandemic emotions. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This episode is brought to you by Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com] and Best Fiends [bestfiends.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Contrapoints creator Natalie Wynn is among the most popular and acclaimed YouTubers, specializing in counteracting the red-pilled, radicalized voices that thrive on the platform. So why did she suddenly find herself canceled, how did she handle it, and what does it say about owning our values out loud? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Third Love [ThirdLove.com/unladylike] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From lesbian TikTok to a magical place called Mantrap, getting your nails done means way more than meets the eye. In this episode, Cristen and Caroline find out why writer Tembe Denton-Hurst feels her realest in fake nails, and documentary filmmaker Adele Free Pham shares the stunning story behind the rise of nail salons. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. To support nail workers who are out of work because of the coronavirus, you can donate to the Nail Salon Workers Resilience Fund or the One Fair Wage Fund. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parental estrangement is surprisingly common — and commonly misunderstood. Caroline and Cristen sort fact from fiction to find out: What happens when daughters break up with their moms? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends [bestfiends.com] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do gender, race and class color our tattoo perceptions? Comedy icon Margaret Cho breaks down the body politics of being a heavily inked Korean-American woman. Plus! Cristen and Caroline discover the original "tramp stamp," a stick-n-poke renaissance, and the origins of the ladylike tattoo taboo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by CLR Clean [CLRBrands.com], Rothy's [Rothys.com/unladylike] and Honeybook [Honeybook.com/UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How can women advocate for workplace equality when they don't have a salaried 9-to-5 with benefits? With help from Freelancers Union founder, Sara Horowitz, Cristen and Caroline troubleshoot sexism for the self-employed, contractors and tip earners. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Third Love [thirdlove.com] and Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sweet 16 doesn't hold a birthday candle to the quinceañera. But why has such a ladylike tradition and its poofy gowns kept partying on? You're invited to find out, as Cristen and Caroline unwrap how today's quinceañeras are coming of age in unladylike ways. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Best Fiends and Truly Grass Fed [trulygrassfed.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To freeze or not to freeze? That's today's hottest fertility question. With help from Washington Post reporter Nicole Ellis, Cristen and Caroline find out why it suddenly seems like every ovary's doing it, and whether egg freezing is all it's cracked up to be. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by M.M. LaFleur [mmlafleur.com/unladylike], Buffy Comforters [buffy.co with code UNLADYLIKE], and Honeybook [HoneyBook.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you aren't "the appropriate type of crazy?" Best-selling author Esmé Weijun Wang talks to Caroline and Cristen about living with schizoaffective disorder, how it shapes her ambition, and the subjectiveness of being 'high functioning'. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cristen has a case of fraud fever, and the only cure for it is more scams! First, Jane Marie of The Dream breaks down why millions of women go for broke with multilevel marketing schemes, or MLMs. Then, Laci Mosley, aka Scam Goddess, revels in scam schadenfreude and spills why she's pro-petty fraud. Plus, Caroline plays Who Wants to Scam a Millionaire. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike.Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by M.M. LaFleur [mmlafleur.com], Buffy Comforters [buffy.co], and Third Love [thirdlove.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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From Dry January to #sobercurious, not drinking has recently taken on new meanings and more mainstream visibility. But what really happens when women sober up? Cristen and Caroline explore the grayer layers of female sobriety that get filtered out of Instagram hashtags and Alcoholics Anonymous alike. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by M.M. LaFleur [mmlafleur.com], Buffy Comforters [buffy.co], and Honeybook [honeybook.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel hot 'n' bothered -- and helplessly horny? Thirst Aid Kit, a podcast hosted by Bim Adewunmi and Nichole Perkins, is here for you. Cristen and Caroline let off steam with Bim and Nicole about the evolution of thirst, the hotness of Hot Priest, and lusting out loud in the #MeToo era. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by IQ Bar [eatiqbar.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From the children's classrooms to the Met Gala red carpet, Sinéad Burke is on a mission to tilt the lens on what accessibility looks like and whom it’s for. Cristen and Caroline find out how she navigates the world as a little person, cultivates vulnerability as a strength and boldly asks uncomfortable questions. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Third Love [ThirdLove.com/unladylike], Native [nativedeodorant.com] and Ritual [http://ritual.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To wrap up our winter break, Cristen and Caroline revisit their episode on fighting for the Equal Rights Amendment. C&C talk to filmmaker and activist Kamala Lopez about the century-long fight for an ERA, why we still need one, and the unladylike power we have to finally get a constitutional IUD to protect our rights from unplanned politics.Unladylike will be back on January 21st with a brand new season! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. This episode is brought to you by Ritual [Ritual.com/UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unladylike is on winter break! To celebrate, Cristen and Caroline are revisiting their favorite episodes from past seasons. This week, they take on the slam dunk. For women's basketball, to dunk or not to dunk has long been the question. It’s the ‘wow factor’ that WNBA haters often point to as proof that the women's game doesn't deserve the fandom, fame and fortune that the guys get. C&C talk to two dunking superstars of past and present to sort through the courtside gender politics and controversy of stuffing the net and find out whether more women bringing the slams could settle the score. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Caroline and Cristen are revisiting some of their favorite Unladylike episodes throughout the month of December. This week, they look into the cannabiz! Legal cannabis is America's fastest-growing industry and reportedly one of its women-friendliest. Cristen and Caroline sort the hype from the hangups around women and cannabis with help from three ganjapreneurs who are having their Big Weed Brownie - and rewriting its recipe, too. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For the month of December, Cristen and Caroline are revisiting some of their favorite Unladylike episodes. First up, they dive into the feels. Women's anger is all the rage, but why does showing our sadness feel weak? Nora McInerny (Terrible, Thanks For Asking) shares how she stopped emotionally should-ing herself and started claiming her sadness space, even while falling in love again. Then, Therapy for Black Girls founder Dr. Joy Harden Bradford drops some expert advice on how to sit with our sorrow and recognizing white-girl-tears privilege. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By listener request, Caroline and Cristen go full potty mouth on the ladylike poop taboo and its real-deal side effects. With help from a sh*t-talking doctor and a pair of "poop friends," they find out why women are twice as likely to have irritable bowels, how gender affects our gut feelings, and the importance of airing fecal matters. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Brooklyn Brewery's Special Effects [BrooklynBrewery.com/Special Effects], thredUP [thredUP.com/unladylike], Native [nativedeodorant.com with promo code UNLADYLIKE], and ThirdLove [ThirdLove.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before Mari Kondo-ing your closet, consider this: the average American throws away 80 pounds of clothes each year, and only a fifth of what's donated survives secondhand. Unladylike producer Sam Lee takes Cristen and Caroline along on her mission to purge her own fast fashion habits and find out how so many garments become garbage - meeting a one-woman textile sustainability machine along the way. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by FareDrop [faredrop.com/unladylike], Native [nativedeodorant.com with promo code UNLADYLIKE], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], and Bad With Money. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women marrying off their "maiden names" is one of the most enduring gender traditions — and feminist conundrums. Cristen and Caroline pop the questions: What's it really like to choose your maiden name choice, and how does family, race and sexual orientation factor into the choice? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter [unladylike.co]. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by HomeChef [homechef.com/unladylike], thredUP [thredup.com/unladylike], Honeybook [honeybook.com/unladylike], and Acuity [acuityscheduling.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In early 2000s Hollywood, Ilene Chaiken did the seemingly impossible, co-creating and running a hit TV show entirely about lesbians and queer women. But the iconic television writer, producer and occasional director is no one-hit wonder. Caroline and Cristen talk to Ilene about navigating toxic male egos, tokenization and tough audience feedback on her way to creating all sorts of genre-breaking TV shows that you've definitely watched. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], ThirdLove [ThirdLove.com/unladylike], Vistaprint [Vistaprint.com, promo code UNLADYLIKE50], Modern Ruhles and The Sexual Happiness Podcast by Lovehoney [lovehoney.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Saddle up for a ride through horse-girl country. First, Bojack Horseman designer Lisa Hanawalt shares her personal horse-tery and why horse girls' passion is so often misunderstood. Then, Cristen and Caroline ride along with writer Gray Chapman to one of the largest annual horsey gatherings and take a detour through horse-girl internet. All to find out: What happens when we get off our high horses about horse girls? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Home Chef [homechef.com/unladylike], Luden's [Amazon.com with code 15UNLADYLIKE], Acuity [acuityscheduling.com/unladylike] and The Sexual Happiness Podcast by Lovehoney [lovehoney.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For most of medical history, vulvas and vaginas have been mythologized as too dirty, dainty and/or deformed. But gynecologist Jen Gunter is on a mission to detox that douchebaggery. Cristen and Caroline get a check-up on what it really takes to take care of the V's and why haters call her the "vaginal antichrist." Plus, Dr. Gunter answers Unladylike listeners' questions they've always wanted to know but have been too scared to ask other OB/GYNs. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], HoneyBook [honeybook.com/unladylike], Luden's [Amazon.com with code 15UNLADYLIKE], Stitcher Premium [stitcherpremium.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and Welcome to My Vagina [morebanana.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When politics feels like dumpster fire, how do we still take it on without losing our minds? Actor and activist June Diane Raphael is here to help us reconsider what running for office looks like and how to get started. Plus, former CNN chief White House correspondent Jessica Yellin tell us how to engage with political news, without all the yellin'. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by thredUP [thredup.com/unladylike], Zip Recruiter [ZipRecruiter.com/unladylike], Luden's [Amazon.com with code 15UNLADYLIKE], and Mob Queens. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When queerness is out of the closet, what does bisexuality even mean? For bisexual Iranian-American filmmaker Desiree Akhavan, the answer is . . . complicated. Cristen and Caroline talk to Desiree about fitting in, coming out and unlearning rom-com lies about female desire. All to find out: How do you fall in love with your own sexuality - even when you're not supposed to? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Third Love [thirdlove.com/UNLADYLIKE], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Luden's [ludens.com/coupons], Reset and Tastemade. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Underwater cave explorer Jill Heinerth has dived deeper inside Earth's inner space than any other woman in history, pursuing one of the most dangerous jobs on the planet. This episode, Caroline and Cristen channel their inner mermaids to discover what happens when you swim towards your fear instead of away from it. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Stitcher Premium [stitcherpremium.com/unladylike], Away [awaytravel.com/UNLADYLIKE with code UNLADYLIKE], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Honeybook [Honeybook.com/UNLADYLIKE] and Tastemade. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The US Women's National Soccer Team might be wrapping up their World Cup victory tour, but their equal pay lawsuit is far from over. With assists from Meg Linehan of The Athletic and Maya Raghu from the National Women's Law Center, Cristen and Caroline game out what's at stake and why it's relevant to us non-Megan Rapinoes, too. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Flamingo [shopflamingo.com/unladylike], Blume [https://www.blume.com/], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and Tastemade. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rap queens are rarely allowed to reign more than one at a time, but Megan Thee Stallion and City Girls are leading a whole stable of up-n-coming female emcees and hip-hop artists blowing up that ladylike standard. Bottom of the Map hosts Christina Lee and Dr. Regina Bradley join Caroline and Cristen to break down how female emcees have redefined sexuality and self-love for themselves, why hip-hop feminism matters, and the icons who made #hotgirlsummer possible. Go listen to the Unladylike x Bottom of the Map playlist on Spotify! Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by Zip Recruiter [ZipRecruiter.com/unladylike], Third Love [ThirdLove.com/unladylike], Thred Up [thredup.com/unladylike] and the podcasts Money Ha Ha & Astro Poets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedy writer and actor Ashley Nicole Black knows what she's good at. But that almost derailed her path to landing "Full Frontal with Samantha Bee" and now co-starring on HBO's "A Black Lady Sketch Show." Find out how Ashley flipped her life script, ditched a doctorate, and improvised all the way to the Emmys. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! This episode is brought to you by the Money Ha Ha podcast, HoneyBook [HoneyBook.com/UNLADYLIKE], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and the podcasts Uncharted: Seattle and Hot & Bothered [hotandbotheredrompod.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when you live out self-help advice? Cristen and Caroline find out from By the Book co-hosts Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg. The pair has done exactly that with more than 50 self-improvement books, including The Secret, Girl Wash Your Face and The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. It’s all to find out: What is self-help really selling us, and why are women are so drawn to it? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Bud Light Chelada [budlight.com], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/UNLADYLIKE], and Honeybook [HoneyBook.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and the podcast Uncharted: Seattle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when we wear makeup like war paint? Best-selling author R.O. Kwon confronts 'China doll' stereotypes with eyeshadow. Then, activist Jacob Tobia flips off the gender binary with a bold lip and five o'clock shadow. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Bud Light Chelada [budlight.com], Flamingo [shopflamingo.com/unladylike], ZipRecruiter [http://ziprecruiter.com/unladylike], the podcasts Uncharted: Seattle, Stuff Mom Never Told You, and the Stitcher Premium podcast Mo Mophilia. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here’s a new podcast for you! On The Secret Lives of Black Women, join close friends Charla Lauriston and Lauren Domino on their hunt for the ‘secrets’ that have helped black women flourish through the bullsh*t. They connect with guests over shared experiences by wading through everything from sex and self-care to rage and anxiety. Each conversation centers on creating a space for joy with some newfound besties while asking: how do the black women we admire stay incredibly phenomenal? The Secret Lives of Black Women is out NOW - listen wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After Nicola Thorp was fired for refusing to wear high heels on the job in 2015, she called bullsh*t all the way to British Parliament. Because from banks to bars, it’s not unusual for workplaces around the world to expect women to work in high heels, and it's not exactly illegal. C&C find out how Nicola sparked an international mini-movement, why #MeToo made it possible, and how high heels tread the sexy-professional tightrope. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by PROcure [procureheals.com/UNLADYLIKE with code 3UNLADYLIKE on amazon], Bud Light Chelada [budlight.com], Native Deodorant [nativedeodorant.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and the Stitcher Premium podcast Wild Horses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Find out what happens when C&C open the Unladylike Hotline to take listeners' calls, live 'n' unrehearsed. From politics and pregnancy to breakups and bridesmaid bad vibes, y'all asked, and we answered . . . and probably overshared. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Bud Light Chelada [budlight.com], Honeybook [HoneyBook.com with code UNLADYLIKE] ThredUp [thredup.com/unladylike] and ZipRecruiter [ziprecruiter.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like stripping, commercial phone sex is a form of legal sex work—AND you can do it from home in pajamas. But what does the job really entail? C & C called up longtime phone sex operator and CEO Sera Miles to find out how the craft works, what callers want, and why she doesn't think camming will replace phone sex any time soon. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter [unladylike.co]. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by PROcure [procureheals.com/UNLADYLIKE with code 3UNLADYLIKE on amazon], Bud Light Chelada [budlight.com], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/UNLADYLIKE], and the Stitcher Premium podcast History the She-Quel. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexual harassment is a typical part of the K-12 school day, so why do we only talk about it on college campuses? Even though Title IX enshrines harassment-free education for all students -- from pre-k through higher ed -- most kids don't know it applies to them, too. Today, we’ll learn about the hidden history and fight for Title IX enforcement and meet some of the passionate activists working to get girls the schools they deserve. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Bud Light Chelada [budlight.com], True&Co [trueandco.com/unladylike], SimpleHealth [simplehealth.com/unladylike], Openfit [text UNLADYLIKE to 303030], and the podcasts Uncharted: Seattle and Crime Junkie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sana Amanat has been called the "Shonda Rhimes of Marvel Comics" and an IRL superhero. C&C explore how this awkward-teen-turned-visionary-VP has helped lead an inclusive superhero comics revolution and what it takes to create actually feminist sheroes — whether fanboys like it or not. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by the podcasts Terrible, Thanks for Asking and Committed, The Real Real [therealreal.com with code REAL], Bud Light Chelada [budlight.com] and Honeybook [HoneyBook.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Geena Davis is so outspoken about Hollywood's women problems, she founded a think-tank to bring the research receipts. But speaking up didn't come naturally for the Academy Award winner and feminist pop cultural icon. Live from the Bentonville Film Festival, Geena takes C&C on her journey from almost dying of politeness to finding her voice on the Thelma & Louise set. And how that did—and didn't—"change everything." Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by the podcast Feminist Folklore, The Real Real [therealreal.com with code REAL], PROcure [procureheals.com/UNLADYLIKE with code 3UNLADYLIKE on amazon], ThredUp [thredup.com/unladylike] and ZipRecruiter [ziprecruiter.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Caroline and Cristen are going to couple's therapy — for math — with educator and stereotype-disrupter, Vanessa Vakharia. Bad-at-math baggage is easy to pick up, and Vanessa's here to teach C&C and some unladylike callers how to put it down already. All to find out: What happens when you rewrite your can't-do-math story, even if you're not a "numbers person"? Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by The Real Real [therealreal.com with code REAL], PROcure [procureheals.com/UNLADYLIKE with code 3UNLADYLIKE on amazon], Away Travel [http://awaytravel.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/UNLADYLIKE], and TomboyX [tomboyx.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For Sikh women like Sukhjit Kaur Khalsa, head-to-toe hairiness isn't just normal - it's sacred. In the final episode of our three-part body hair miniseries, we follow Sukhjit as she navigates faith, feminism and baring her hair from the schoolyard to national television. See our special body hair illustrations by Miss Gloria at instagram.com/unladylikemedia. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode was brought to you by PROcure [procureheals.com/UNLADYLIKE with code 3UNLADYLIKE on amazon], The Real Real [therealreal.com with code REAL], and OMGyes [OMGyes.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hairy feminists have haunted pop culture since the suffrage days, but is it time to give up those ghosts? In part two of a three-part miniseries on body hair politics, Caroline and Cristen explore how feminism and body hair became attached at the hip, and what it feels like when binary body positivity ignores your spot on the spectrum. See our special body hair illustrations by Miss Gloria at instagram.com/unladylikemedia. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by The Real Real [therealreal.com with code REAL], Honeybook [honeybook.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Cove [withcove.com/unladylike], ThredUp [thredup.com/unladylike] and the podcast Uncharted: Seattle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pit hair might be having a moment, but more than 90 percent of American women still choose to remove it. In the first episode of a three-part miniseries spilling all our body hair secrets, Cristen and Caroline talk to comedian and actor Sasheer Zamata about opting out of the hair-removal rules. Plus, we investigate who decided lady-hair is gross, and why girls still take shaving for granted. See our special body hair illustrations by Miss Gloria at instagram.com/unladylikemedia. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by PROcure [procureheals.com/unladylike with code 3UNLADYLIKE on amazon], The Real Real [therealreal.com with code REAL], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/UNLADYLIKE], Pretty Litter [prettypleasecats.com with code UNLADYLIKE], and Flamingo [shopflamingo.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Help us win a Webby Award! Vote now at wbby.co/vote-pod16 We're bringing you something special in the feed today... a pep talk! Nothing summons the body blues quite like “swimsuit season” (yes, even if you're a feminist!). So, yoga queen Jessamyn Stanley has an Unladylike Pep Talk to help banish poolside panic and love yourself--even through peak boob-sweat-n-thigh-chafe weather. Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up and subscribe today at stitcher.com/premium. Use code UNLADYLIKE for a month of free listening. Find Jessamyn’s digital yoga studio at https://www.theunderbelly.com/ Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

DIY zines are having an IRL revival, but it's not the riot grrrl 90s all over again. Cristen and Caroline go on a cross-country zine-quest to find out why these handmade mags mean so much to today's creators, fans and librarians alike. Help us win a Webby Award! Vote now at: wbby.co/vote-pod16 Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by The European Wax Center [AxThePinkTax.com], Quay [quayaustralia.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/unladylike] and The RealReal [therealreal.com with code REAL]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is cursing still considered so effing unladylike, and how does swearing affect how women are heard? Caroline and Cristen decode the unspoken gender rules in our taboo talk with Australian linguist Kate Burridge who knows pretty much everything you’d ever wanna know about allegedly ‘filthy’ language. Then, Egyptian-American feminist author Mona Eltahawy flexes the patriarchy-smashing power of profanity. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. And join our Facebook group! Our Pep Talk series is available only on Stitcher Premium. Sign up today to hear episodes on embracing swimsuit season, getting ready for a wedding, breaking out of the gender binary and more! Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by The European Wax Center [AxThePinkTax.com], ZipRecruiter [http://ziprecruiter.com/unladylike], PROcure [procureheals.com/UNLADYLIKE with code 3UNLADYLIKE on amazon], and Quay [quayaustralia.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From band class to the orchestra pit, girls are rarely encouraged to toot their own horns. In fact, brass sections are one of the boys-clubbiest corners of the musical world. To find out the wild reasons why, Cristen and Caroline talk to sexism-slaying trombonist Abbie Conant and visionary tuba player Chanell Crichlow. Unladylike has a Facebook group! Join the conversation by searching for "Unladylike" on Facebook and looking for our middle finger logo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Shout Your Abortion [shoutyourabortion.com/shrill], The European Wax Center [AxThePinkTax.com], Instacart [instacart.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Honeybook [honeybook.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and Care/of Vitamins [takecareof.com with code UNLADYLIKE50]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The 1990s were supposed to be the "decade of women," but it became all about the bitches instead. Caroline and Cristen put on their velvet chokers for a feminist 90s-nostalgia trip with journalist Allison Yarrow, author of 90s Bitch: Media, Culture, and the Failed Promise of Gender Equality. Tune in to discover the bitchification backlash against the decade's leading unladies, like Monica Lewinsky, Lorena Bobbitt, and Hillary Clinton. Unladylike has a Facebook group! Join the conversation by searching for "Unladylike" on Facebook and looking for our middle finger logo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Shout Your Abortion [shoutyourabortion.com/shrill], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], The European Wax Center [AxThePinkTax.com], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/unladylike], and Cove [withcove.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you stay honest with your besties - even when the truth might hurt? Few know better than comedy partners Gaby Dunn and Allison Raskin. Through their popular YouTube channel and new podcast, Just Between Us, Gaby and Allison (aka Gallison) have built their own creative empire based on their friendship, both onscreen and off. Cristen and Caroline get some next-level friendship advice, as well as the real-deal highs, lows, and mixed feelings that come with being professional BFFs. Unladylike has a Facebook group! Join the conversation by searching for "Unladylike" on Facebook and looking for our middle finger logo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by the book We Are Okay, the podcast The Double Shift, Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Instacart [instacart.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Native Deodorant [nativedeodorant.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and The European Wax Center [AxThePinkTax.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women's anger is all the rage, but why does showing our sadness feel weak? Nora McInerny from the podcast Terrible, Thanks For Asking shares how she started claiming her sadness space, even while falling in love again. Then, Therapy for Black Girls founder Dr. Joy Harden Bradford drops some expert advice on how to sit with our sorrow and recognize white-girl-tears privilege. Find links to Nora & Dr. Joy's projects at unladylike.co. Unladylike has a Facebook group! Join the conversation by searching for "Unladylike" on Facebook and looking for our middle finger logo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Nurx [nurx.com/unladylike], Instacart [instacart.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and The European Wax Center [AxThePinkTax.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Birth control is relatively easy to come by — so long as it's temporary. But if you're young and/or childfree, permanent birth control (aka sterilization) remains a stunningly controversial choice to choose. To find out why, Cristen and Caroline join independent radio producer Brie Ripley, who documented getting her own tubes tied and discovered what happens when you definitely, no-maybes, want to tie the fallopian knot. Unladylike has a Facebook group! Join the conversation by searching for "Unladylike" on Facebook and joining the group with our middle finger logo. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Honeybook [honeybook.com with code UNLADYLIKE], ZipRecruiter [ziprecruiter.com/unladylike], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Nurx [nurx.com/unladylike] and the book We Are Okay by Nina LaCour. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian and actor Amanda Seales is having a breakout moment - on her own terms. Cristen and Caroline talk to the hilarious gem-dropper and self-identified late-bloomer about why turning 30 was a major milestone for finding authentic success and reclaiming her voice. Plus, how gymnastics, a name change, and dinner at Katy Perry’s house helped her get there. Send us your stories about body hair! Call 262-8-GALPAL and leave us a message or email us at hello@unladylike.co. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by the podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking, Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/unladylike], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE], and Nurx [nurx.com/unladylike]. Help out our show by taking a brief survey for a chance to win a $100 amazon gift card at podsurvey.com/UNLADYLIKE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Herpes is super common and manageable but it's constantly the butt of jokes. And that punchline stigma can throw a major wrench into romance. So, this Valentine's Day, we're unpacking the herpes rom-com with help from two Unladylike listeners who get real about dropping the h-bomb while dating — and finding happily ever after. New merch is here! Find Unladylike t-shirts, sweatshirts and koozies at unladylike.co/shop. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Honeybook [honeybook.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Instacart [instacart.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Pact [wearpact.com with code UNLADYLIKE] Nurx [nurx.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When workplace sexism smacks us in the lady lumps, we can't always just clock out. So how can we handle it like a pro? Cristen and Caroline talk to author and podcaster Hillary Frank about her skirmish with the "special misogyny" that transformed her career. Then, the co-hosts of Battle Tactics for Your Sexist Workplace take on jobby questions from Unladylike listeners. New Unladylike merch is here! Find t-shirts, sweatshirts, koozies and more at unladylike.co/shop. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Try Stitcher Premium to hear bonus episodes from Unladylike and tons of other exclusive content, like the latest season of The Lonely Hour. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by CLR [clrbrands.com], Baked by Melissa cupcakes [bakedbymelissa.com/unladylike], Care/of Vitamins [takecareof.com with code UNLADYLIKE50], Flamingo [shopflamingo.com/unladylike], Nurx [nurx.com/unladylike] and Skimm'd from The Couch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In part two of our unladylike diet culture detox, Cristen and Caroline confront how body issues bond mothers and daughters and the subtle slimming messages we're fed by our families. They also uncover an historical bombshell about white feminism and dieting rules that weigh down the body positivity movement today. Trigger warning: We discuss eating disorders and recovery in this episode. Briefly, the conversation describes in detail certain bulimic behaviors that accompanied our guest’s struggle. If you haven't heard it yet, check out the first part of this series - How to Leave Dietland Pt. 1 with Joy Nash. New merch is here! Find Unladylike t-shirts, sweatshirts and koozies at unladylike.co/shop. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear Unladylike without ads by signing up for Stitcher Premium. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by CLR [clrbrands.com], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/unladylike] and Zola [zola.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Each new year serves up a new season of empty weight-loss promises and pressure to size down. But what if we could detox from diet culture and claim our space instead? In this first episode of a two-part series, Cristen and Caroline head to America's body-shaming capital, Hollywood, where actor Joy Nash is breaking the rules of what a leading lady looks like in TV's 'Dietland.' New merch is here! Find Unladylike t-shirts, sweatshirts and koozies at unladylike.co/shop. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear Unladylike without ads by signing up for Stitcher Premium. Get a month of free listening at stitcher.com/premium with code UNLADYLIKE. This episode is brought to you by Honeybook [honeybook.com] (with code UNLADYLIKE), Simple Contacts [simplecontacts.com/unladylike] (with code UNLADYLIKE), and the book: Becoming Michelle Obama. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We've got a brand new season coming your way starting January 22! But in the meantime, we're sharing something we think you'll like. Our friends at Focus Features have a podcast episode all about the Equal Rights Amendment. And it's hosted by some voices we think you'll recognize. Check out this trailer and then find the full episode - plus other stories behind the latest Focus Features films - by searching for "Focus Features" in your favorite podcast player. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Y'all, we are on a mission to #FreeTheVibrator from society's ladylike hangups. Because even though women founders, designers, and engineers are increasingly claiming their space in today’s booming, $15-billion sex toy and sextech industries, the biz behind the buzz is an obstacle course of prudery, sexual double standards, and whole lotta dicks. Polly Rodriguez, co-founder of the sexual wellness start-up Unbound, talks to Cristen and Caroline about the unexpected kinks of being a boss babe with vibrator career goals and what still stands between us and the good vibes our bodies deserve. Check out our Spotify playlist "Feelin Your Unladylike Self" here: sptfy.com/1bjz TELL US: What are your Unladylike New Year's Resolutions? Email us at hello@unladylike.co or call our hotline - 262-8-GALPAL. Got a pep talk request? Send those in, too! Hear our new bonus episodes about the best books to give as gifts on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code ""UNLADYLIKE"" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. **Signed copies** are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by Bumble BFF [bumble.com/unladylike], Living Proof [livingproof.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE], Warby Parker [warbyparker.com/unladylike], Fossil [fossil.com/unladylike] and FabFitFun [fabfitfun.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know that San Francisco, aka America’s queer capital, is currently home to ZERO bars exclusively for queer women? Ditto for Los Angeles, Portland, Chicago, New Orleans, and a growing number of cities around the country. So why have lesbian bars become an endangered nightlife species? Caroline and Cristen explore their complex cocktail of historical and cultural impacts and hear from y'all about what it means for communities when these near-and-dear, queer watering holes dry up. In need of an Unladylike Pep Talk? Send in your requests for pep talk topics and talkers by calling out hotline - 262-8-GALPAL. Hear our new bonus episodes about the best books to give as gifts on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by Bumble BFF [bumble.com/unladylike], Fossil [fossil.com/unladylike], Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/unladylike] and Bombas Socks [bombas.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To dunk or not to dunk? For women's basketball, this has long been the question. It’s the ‘wow factor’ that WNBA haters often point to as proof that the women's game doesn't deserve the fandom, fame and fortune that the guys get. But will more women bringing the slams settle the score? And, uh, how do you slam dunk anyway? Cristen and Caroline talk to dunking superstars past and present to sort through the courtside gender politics of stuffing the net. In need of an Unladylike Pep Talk? Send in your requests for pep talk topics and talkers by calling out hotline - 262-8-GALPAL. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by Bumble BFF [bumble.com/unladylike], Fossil [fossil.com/unladylike], Flex [http://ihatetampons.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Thrive Market [thrivemarket.com/unladylike] and Betterhelp [betterhelp.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is not another depressing AF story about the rape kit backlog. Instead, unladylike hero and sexual assault nurse examiner Trisha Sheridan tells Cristen and Caroline everything we didn't know we needed to know about what's in a rape kit and how could these forensic tools restore consent, dignity and justice to patients. Plus, we discover the very surprising funding source for America's first rape kits! TW for rape and sexual assault. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by the new podcast UnErased, Bumble BFF [bumble.com/unladylike], Living Proof [livingproof.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE], Fossil [fossil.com/unladylike] and Ulta Beauty [ultabeauty.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even if women sweep the 2018 midterm elections, they will still occupy less than a third of congressional seats. So, what does the political pipeline look like for today’s Tracy Flicks and Olivia Popes who are dreaming about running in tomorrow’s elections? To find out, C&C revisit the one place where American girls get to be president. Plus, they get schooled about political ambition and what makes or breaks a women's decision to run for office. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by And We Evolve [andweevolve.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Bombas Socks [bombas.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE], Daily Harvest [daily-harvest.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Fossil [fossil.com/unladylike] and Simple Health [simplehealth.com/UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As morticians, funeral directors, taxidermists, and all-around mortality enthusiasts, women of the death-positive movement are out to radically disrupt — and reclaim — our end-of-life culture and care. Order of the Good Death director Sarah Chavez helps Caroline and Cristen sort out what that means, how the male gaze haunts our corpses, and why reclaiming what happens to our bodies when we die just might be the ultimate feminist act. Hear our new Halloween bonus episode with Negin Farsad on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/unladylike], FabFitFun [fabfitfun.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Ulta Beauty [ultabeauty.com], Thrive Market [thrivemarket.com/unladylike] and And We Evolve [andweevolve.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women go to the doctor more often than men but our aches and pains tend to be taken less seriously by physicians. To learn more about why patients are losing their patience, Cristen and Caroline talk to Allison Behringer about how her mystifying experience with painful sex inspired her to create a new podcast called Bodies. Then, we'll meet a gynecologist who’s got some great advice for getting heard at your next appointment. Hear our new Halloween bonus episode with Negin Farsad on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by the books She Wants It by Jill Soloway, Tommy John [tommyjohn.com/unladylike], Helix Sleep [helixsleep.com/unladylike], Daily Harvest [www.daily-harvest.com with code UNLADYLIKE], and And We Evolve [andweevolve.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As y'all know, we released our book a couple weeks ago, Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space. And as part of recording our audiobook, we were invited to make an episode of This is The Author, a podcast about authors reading their audiobooks from Penguin Random House. So today, we’re bringing that episode to you in the Unladylike feed. If you like it and wanna hear more authors talk about their audiobooks, search for “This Is The Author” wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't know jack about loosening lug nuts and swapping in a spare? You're definitely not alone. But why don't more women know how to change a tire? And where did the boys-only rules about car care come from anyway? Today, C&C investigate with one handywoman who fixed a flat but broke her date and another whose racetrack dates led to pro racing's first all-female pit-crew. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by the books She Wants It by Jill Soloway and A Very Large Expanse of Sea by Tahereh Mafi, Bombas Socks [bombas.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE], Tommy John [tommyjohn.com/unladylike], and Ulta Beauty [ultabeauty.com]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here’s something new from the team here at Stitcher: Journalist and activist Noor Tagouri grew up thinking she knew everything about sex trafficking in the U.S. But when she embarks on a deeply personal, deeply reported journey, taking listeners into the world of selling sex in the United States, she realized the story is more complicated. Join Noor as she travels across the country to meet the human faces of this billion-dollar trade – and uncover its surprising misconceptions. Listen to Unladylike Episode 28. How to Report on Sex Work with Noor Tagouri to learn more about Noor, her reporting, and how we regulate sex work in the United States. Check out Sold In America in Apple Podcasts: applepodcasts.com/soldinamerica Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The commercial sex work economy is ancient, vast, and constantly misrepresented by police and pop culture alike. With the help of Noor Tagouri, a Muslim-American journalist and host of the new podcast Sold in America, Cristen and Caroline explore the spectrum of the sex trade, what really makes it risky, and why legalization isn't the silver bullet for making it safer. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by the podcast Tilted from Lean In, Fossil [fossil.com/unladylike], Thrive Market [thrivemarket.com/unladylike] and Framebridge [framebridge.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Y’all pissed? Us, too. As America rings in a year since Harvey Weinstein’s comeuppance with a Supreme Court confirmation vote for Brett “I Like Beer” Kavanaugh, we humbly offer a pep talk for putting our feminist rage to good use. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel lost in a patriarchal wilderness where "boys will be boys," but girls must be ladies? Then do we have a field guide for you! In a special behind-the-book episode, Cristen and Caroline sit down with senior producer Abigail to get up close ’n’ personal about the inspo, info and illustrations packed inside Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy & Claiming Your Space. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by Tommy John [tommyjohn.com/unladylike], Helix Sleep [helixsleep.com/unladylike], Daily Harvest [www.daily-harvest.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Damsel by Elana K. Arnold [epicreads.com] and I Feel Bad [on NBC Oct 4]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Birdwatching is one of the fastest-growing outdoor hobbies, but don't let its daintyfied, kitchen-window connotations fool you. Point your binoculars in the right direction, and you'll spot a nest of unladylike passions, persistence and politics that have bonded women and birds for centuries. Join Cristen and Caroline's cross-country flight from a competitive minivan of moms to a political mover and shaker in the nation's biggest birding organization. Pre-order Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space and register for free swag here: https://app.snapapp.com/UNLADYLIKE. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Daily Look [http://dailylook.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE], Fossil [http://fossil.com/unladylike], Hello Fresh [http://hellofresh.com/unladylike60 with code UNLADYLIKE60] and I Feel Bad [on NBC Oct 4]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In 2012, Franchesca Ramsey got famous overnight with her viral YouTube video, "Shit White Girls Say to Black Girls." She was instantly crowned a queen of internet call-outs about race, identities, and social injustice. So why did her dream-come-true also feel like a nightmare? Comic, activist, and new author of Well That Escalated Quickly: Memoirs and Mistakes of an Accidental Activist, Franchesca talks to Cristen and Caroline about the unexpected side effects of celebrity, calling out, and fessing up. Pre-order Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space and find book events near you at unladylike.co. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter Hear our new bonus episode "Extra Unladylike: How to Be A Hot Mess" exclusively on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by the podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking, Vrai & Oro [http://truthandgold.com/unladylike], Quip Toothbrushes [http://getquip.com/unladylike], Skillshare [http://skillshare.com/unladylike], Tommy John [http://tommyjohn.com/unladylike] and Ritual [http://ritual.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women's friendships: life-affirming sisterhood or hotbed of mean-girlness? From pop culture to politics, galpals are all the rage right now, so why aren't they taken more seriously? With help from girls at Camp Farwell and friendship author Kayleen Shaefer, Caroline and Cristen discover an age-old battle against besties that often keeps us from passing the IRL Bechdel Test. Plus, a pep talk for making friends from comedian and writer Erin Gibson. Pre-order Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space at unladylike.co. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear our bonus episodes exclusively on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Vrai & Oro [http://truthandgold.com/unladylike], ZipRecruiter [http://ziprecruiter.com/unladylike], Pier1 [http://pier1.com] and Daily Look [http://dailylook.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Workplace fashion police are tough to please--especially for women and non-binary folks. But with the help of Unladylike listeners, Cristen and Caroline strip down the sexism of professional appearance standards and find out if it's possible for women to dress for success. Plus, comedian Kate Berlant helps us get dressed with an Unladylike Pep Talk! Pre-order Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space at unladylike.co. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter Hear our bonus episode that goes behind the scenes on the Unladylike theme song on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Halo Top [halotop.com and @halotopcreamery], Away Travel [http://awaytravel.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE], Quip Toothbrushes [http://getquip.com/unladylike], Ritual [http://ritual.com/unladylike] and The Spy Who Dumped Me [in theaters August 3]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Moms aren't supposed to admit it, but loving your kids can also come with not loving--and possibly regretting--becoming a parent at all. Caroline and Cristen explore this taboo territory and its maternal instinct mythology with help from a couple bad mother-disruptors who are figuring out what motherhood means on their own terms. Pre-order Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space at unladylike.co. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear our brand new exclusive bonus episode that goes behind the scenes on the Unladylike theme song on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Stitch Fix [http://stitchfix.com/unladylike], Brooklinen [http://brooklinen.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Vrai & Oro [http://truthandgold.com/unladylike], FabFitFun [http://fabfitfun.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and The Spy Who Dumped Me [in theaters August 3]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In a time of political panic, why is beauty and skincare booming like never before? During the first-ever Unladylike live show, Cristen and Caroline get way more than skin-deep with Buzzfeed writer and Thirst Aid Kit co-host Bim Adewunmi and New Yorker staff writer Jia Tolentino about makeup, morality and messaging and spill some beauty secrets from the audience. A surprise guest also makes her pep-talk return. Pre-order Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space at unladylike.co. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Hear our brand new exclusive bonus episode that goes behind the scenes on the Unladylike theme song on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code ""UNLADYLIKE"" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Framebridge [http://framebridge.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Stitch Fix [http://stitchfix.com/unladylike], Halo Top [halotop.com and @halotopcreamery], Hysteria from Crooked Media and The Spy Who Dumped Me [in theaters August 3]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg could add anything to the US Constitution, it would be an Equal Rights Amendment (ERA)--and Cristen and Caroline are on a mission to make that happen. Today, we talk to filmmaker and activist Kamala Lopez about the century-long fight for an ERA, why we still need one, and the unladylike power we have to finally get a constitutional IUD to protect our rights from unplanned politics. Find #IUDmyrights images to share (and resources galore) at unladylike.co. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike merch at unladylike.co/shop. This episode is brought to you by Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Flex [http://ihatetampons.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Stitch Fix [http://stitchfix.com/unladylike], Vrai & Oro [http://truthandgold.com/unladylike], Mod Cloth [http://modcloth.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and The Spy Who Dumped Me [in theaters August 3]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The robot future is female, but can it be feminist? Gendered digital assistants like Alexa are here to make our lives easier, yet all this artificial intelligence comes with retrograde human baggage (and unnecessary boobs). Caroline and Cristen investigate what robots reveal about the real-world with two of the brightest human minds out there. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline with your friendship stories at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Felix Gray [http://felixgray.com/unladylike], and Hello Fresh [http://hellofresh.com/unladylike30 with code UNLADYLIKE30]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Although it's as old as ovaries, menopause remains medically mysterious and more unmentionable than menstruation, something guests Nina Lorez Collins and Krysta Rodriguez are totally over. Today, Cristen and Caroline get hot-flashed 'n' bothered investigating what to expect when you're expecting menopause (or not). Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline with your friendship stories at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], ZipRecruiter [http://ziprecruiter.com/unladylike], Stitch Fix [http://stitchfix.com/unladylike], and the podcast Skimm'd from The Couch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are rape jokes having a #MeToo moment? Caroline and Cristen talk to comic Cameron Esposito about her new stand-up special, 'Rape Jokes,' and discover a history of this humor that'll change how y'all hear rape jokes today. Trigger warning: This episode contains conversations (and two very unfunny jokes) about sexual assault. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline with your friendship stories at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Our new bonus episode, How to Be C&C, is out now! This episode is brought to you by Flex [http://ihatetampons.com with code UNLADYLIKE], Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Framebridge [http://framebridge.com with code UNLADYLIKE], and Skillshare [http://skillshare.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you think "having the talk," you might think birds and bees. Far more cringe-worthy? Money. Today, things get personal as Cristen and Caroline chat with Bad with Money podcast host Gaby Dunn about how to talk about finances in your relationship — and why we all need to. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline with your friendship stories at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Our new bonus episode, How to Be C&C, is out now! This episode is brought to you by the podcast Science Vs, Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Felix Gray [http://felixgray.com/unladylike], PHLUR [http://phlur.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and Brooklinen [http://skillshare.com/unladylike]. Learn more about GOSSIP at https://www.gossippodcast.com/. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the Supreme Court rolls the dice with women's and LGBTQ people's rights, how do you channel your rage and choose your battles? Cristen and Caroline talk with Rewire.News legal analyst — and self-described Angry Black Lady — Imani Gandy about issues that are flying under the radar and how to keep your eyes on the balls that matter. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by the podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking, Beyond Meat [http://beyondmeat.com/unladylike], Flex [http://jihatetampons.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and Brooklinen [http://skillshare.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women overwhelmingly buy guns for self-defense, but statistics show guns escalate violence across the board. Cristen and Caroline talk with two firearms fans to find out how much that feeling of safety is worth -- and what's at the root of women's fear. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by The Gateway Podcast, The Black Witch by Laurie Forest, Tripping.com [http://tripping.com/unladylike], JustFab [http://justfab.com/unladylike] and Brooklinen [http://brooklinen.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Nicole Byer is single, loves sex and has the dildo Tinder profile pic to prove it. But she's starting to realize that getting laid can be way easier than going steady. Hear Nicole dish to Cristen and Caroline about being horny, hilarious, and hellbent on learning to love herself first--AND answer listeners' sex + dating questions! Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Right now we're collecting your questions for C+C for an AMA bonus episode! Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Late Night Whenever, The Black Witch by Laurie Forest, PHLUR [http://phlur.com with code UNLADYLIKE], JustFab [http://justfab.com/unladylike] and Framebridge [http://framebridge.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In our Extra Unladylike 4/20 bonus episode, we meet Becca Grumet, a member of the weedia. (Yes, that's weed + media and yes, we made it up!) Becca tells Cristen and Caroline about writing her magnum opus—Weed Shop: The Musical. And how her identities as a cannabis enthusiast and queer woman overlap. Get tickets to Unladylike Live in NYC on May 16th at https://goo.gl/r45uhc Hear exclusive bonus episodes of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Legal cannabis is America's fastest-growing industry—and reportedly one of its women-friendliest. Cristen and Caroline sort the hype from the hangups around women and cannabis with help from three "ganjapreneurs" who are having their Big Weed Brownie—and rewriting its recipe, too. Get tickets to Unladylike Live in NYC on May 16th at https://goo.gl/r45uhc. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. This episode is brought to you by MedMen [http://medmen.com], Spice Islands [http://spiceislands.com/unladylike], Sunbasket [http://sunbasket.com/unladylike] and Daily Look [http://dailylook.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kaz Lucas wants to start a sexual revolution with her microphone. But is her native Kenya ready to listen? The host and creator of Kenya's ultra sex-positive podcast, The Spread, tells Cristen and Caroline what it means to really own your sexuality in a place where doing so is not just risqué... but also risky. Get tickets to Unladylike's LIVE show in Brooklyn, NY on May 16th at www.thebellhouseny.com. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear our new bonus episode "How to Define Claptrap" exclusively on Stitcher Premium. Go to stitcher.com/premium and use the code UNLADYLIKE for a month of free listening. This episode is brought to you by MedMen [http://medmen.com], the book Hot and Badgered by Shelly Laurenstn [http://shellylaurenston.com], Spice Islands [http://spiceislands.com/unladylike] and Daily Look [http://dailylook.com/unladylike with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rosie Batty did everything victims of domestic abuse are told they should do. But it didn’t prevent her estranged ex-partner from brutally murdering their only child four years ago, in Melbourne, Australia. Our producer, Clare Rawlinson, returns home to Australia to investigate what happened next for Rosie, and for the nation. And what the rest of the world can learn from it. Get tickets to Unladylike's LIVE show in Brooklyn, NY on May 16th at thebellhouseny.com. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear the first exclusive bonus episode of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by MedMen [http://medmen.com] and Bioclarity [http://bioclarity.com with code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Behind every Sheryl Sandberg, there's a pink-collar workforce of caregivers and housekeepers who makes her success sustainable. So Cristen and Caroline want to know: what does "leaning in" look like for them? Ai-jen Poo and Allison Julien of the National Domestic Workers Alliance reveal the unsung power of nannies and feminism within domestic work. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear the first exclusive bonus episode of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Spice Islands [spiceislands.com/unladylike], Havenly [http://havenly.com/unladylike], Sunbasket [http://sunbasket.com/unladylike] and Thirdlove [http://thirdlove.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Major religions come with major women problems, but that hasn't stopped feminists of faith from trying to smash religious patriarchy from the inside. Today, Cristen and Caroline talk to Kate Kelly, who did just that in her most sacred community: Mormonism. Find out what happens, and whether Kate thinks feminism and faith are ultimately compatible. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear the first exclusive bonus episode of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Spice Islands [spiceislands.com/unladylike], Lola Tampons [mylola.com with code UNLADYLIKE] and Tripping.com [tripping.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When showrunner and filmmaker Kulap Vilaysack realized that a part of her felt missing, she did what comes naturally and made it an onscreen project. Cristen and Caroline talk to Kulap about navigating relationships with her Laotian refugee parents and going the distance to unpack her family baggage. Plus, the premiere of Ask a Girl, where we hear from almost-10-year-old Courtney about the ups and downs of being smart, negotiating with boys, and how growns can relate to girls. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear the first exclusive bonus episode of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Good Girls on NBC, Twenty20 [http://twenty20.com/unladylike] and BioClarity [http://bioclarity.com and use code UNLADYLIKE]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

More than 90 percent of American public statues are of dudes, and that monumental gender gap persists around the globe. Today, Cristen and Caroline talk to Diane Carlson Evans, a veteran who spent 10 years fighting for the first memorial to military women on the National Mall. She tells us what it takes to break the bronze ceiling and why the fight still matters. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike Merch at unladylike.co/shop. Call our hotline to leave a message at 262-8-GALPAL. Hear the first exclusive bonus episode of Unladylike on Stitcher Premium! Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial.This episode is brought to you by Good Girls on NBC, Havenly [http://havenly.com/unladylike], Twenty20 [http://twenty20.com/unladylike] and Thirdlove [http://thirdlove.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mystical vibes may be hot right now, but some career witches worry it’s a recipe for double double toil and trouble. Cristen and Caroline discover witchcraft lite, #witchesofinstagram and the “spiritual industrial complex” as they find out what happens when witches get down to business. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Find Unladylike merch at unladylike.co/shop. This episode is brought to you by the podcast By the Book, Good Girls on NBC, TomboyX [tomboyx.com/unladylike] with code UNLADYLIKE, and Sunbasket [http://sunbasket.com/unladylike]. Hear Unladylike without ads on Stitcher Premium. Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To celebrate Galentine's Day, C&C kick back with comedians Aparna Nancherla and Jo Firestone for realtalk about their star-crossed friendship, puberty horrors, and womanhood hilarity. Plus, the debut of our 'Ask a Grandma' advice segment with Unladylike's resident grandma, Rosalyn Koo. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. This episode is brought to you by TomboyX [tomboyx.com/unladylike] with code UNLADYLIKE, and Throwing Shade: Deeper Shade of Shade on Stitcher Premium. For a free month of Stitcher Premium go to stitcherpremium.com/shade and use promo code UNLADYLIKE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you scroll through yoga icon Jessamyn Stanley's Instagram feed, you'll see images that look pretty different from the average 'yoga' google image results. Today, Jessamyn gets real about how she embraced her yoga body and claimed space on the mat as a fat, black woman. Plus Cristen and Caroline unpack the yoga claptrap to trace the roots of yoga's whitewashed image problem back to it's unladylike source. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear Jessamyn Explains It All (plus Unladylike, ad-free!) on Stitcher Premium. Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Midroll [podsurvey.com/unladylike], the podcast Night Call, Thirdlove [thirdlove.com/unladylike], TomboyX [tomboy.com/unladylike] with code UNLADYLIKE, and Tripping.com [tripping.com/unladylike]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Susan B. Anthony once called bicycles the ticket to "free, untrammeled womanhood" ... but can women really pedal their way to empowerment? Cristen and Caroline investigate the complicated history of bicycles and catcalling, and talk to a modern, badass bike messenger about out how to clap back at douchebags. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear Unladylike without ads on Stitcher Premium. Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace [talkspace.com/unladylike] and Everlywell [everlywell.com]. Use code UNLADYLIKE for a special offer. This episode was also sponsored by Casper Mattresses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the premiere episode of Unladylike, Cristen and Caroline tackle one of life’s most unladylike practicalities: abortion. But even though one in three U.S. women will have an abortion, how much they cost is any uterus' guess. We’ll hear from three women with radically different experiences paying for this procedure, and unpack the dollars and nonsense that determine our access to safe, legal abortions. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. And sign up for our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter. Hear Unladylike without ads on Stitcher Premium. Use promo code "UNLADYLIKE" at stitcher.com/premium for a free month trial. This episode is brought to you by Talkspace (Code: Unladylike), Audible and Sunbasket. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hold on to your maxi pads y’all: Unladylike is coming on January 23rd! Find out what happens when women break the rules with hosts Cristen and Caroline’s trademark obsessive research, stories from rule-breakin’ ladies and a solid dose of delightful feminist rage. Subscribe now to get the first episode on January 23rd. Follow the show @unladylikemedia. More info at unladylike.co/podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices