We Get It On (With Ourselves)

As a break from the onslaught of traumatic news, this week we're talking about what makes us feel good about ourselves. Really good. We start by exploring what has been lost with the recent closure of Craiglist's personal ads section: a unique place, so distinct from Tinder or Grindr or Bumble, where you could search honestly for your own sexiness. Then we share some our personal tips for maintaining and nurturing that feeling once you find it. Finally we jam out to some of our all-time favorite songs of seduction, from k.d. lang to Beyoncé to Cardi B, and explain why exactly they make us feel the way they do. And finally, here’s a link to all of our favorite jams to turn it up by yourself: Still Processing Presents: The Autoerotica Mix (Spotify).

Discussed This Week:

The Magicians (SyFy)

“We need to talk about how Grindr is affecting gay men’s health” (Jack Turban, Vox)

“‘I Am Super Straight and I Prefer You be Too’: Constructions of Heterosexual Masculinity in Online Personal Ads for “Straight” Men Seeking Sex With Men” (Chelsea Reynolds, Sage Journals)

“Missed Connections: Craigslist Drops Personal Ads Because of Sex Trafficking Bill” (Niraj Chokshi, The New York Times)

“A Field Guide to Getting Lost” (Rebecca Solnit, Penguin Books)

“Sexiness: Rituals, Revisions and Reconstructions” (Tamara Santibanez, Discipline Press)

Still Processing Presents: The Autoerotica Mix (Spotify)

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