Esther Perel ON: Finding Love & the Real Reason Couples Break Up

By iHeartPodcasts

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

12/07/21·1h 11m

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Esther Perel talks with Jay Shetty about how the quality of our relationships affect our daily life, the right mindset when seeking love, creating a connection, or keeping a partnership, and the biggest relationship challenges during the pandemic.

Belgian psychotherapist Esther Perel is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker and podcast host. Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 30 million views and she is also the host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? and How's Work?. Her newest project is Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories. Learn more at EstherPerel.com/TheGame

What We Discuss with Esther:

00:00 Intro02:17 The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives04:37 Relationship challenges while in quarantine and lockdown08:55 Approaching a relationship at times of pressure13:26 Resetting expectations of ourselves and boundaries of our space18:23 When you’re putting an effort but your partner is unresponsive22:14 Skills we lost in the pandemic and the skills we gained27:47 Playing the ‘Where Should We Begin?’ game33:58 Asking boring questions makes you feel that people are boring36:48 Relationships about death, sex, and money39:48 The intention or mindset one should approach love and relationships when seeking out a partner42:57 From feeling madly in love to then feeling out of love, when they weren’t truly in love45:36 What are the deepest, truest root reasons that relationships fail?52:00 Have you been affected by the experience of infidelity in your life?57:21 When to break up and move, when to stay and hold on59:55 Fill in The Blanks01:01:30 Esther on the Final Five01:06:30 Meeting people who are truly happy and purposeful

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