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The Four Horseman of the Relational Apocalypse Part 3: Defensiveness

Dr. John Gottman discovered four negative behaviors, or “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” that spell disaster for any relationship, and with them learned how to predict the failure or success of a relationship with a 90% accuracy rate. This week is the third installment of a 4 part series where we dive into each of the horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, &amp; Stonewalling. We are digging into defensiveness today… and it’s pretty safe to say— we’ve all been defensive a time or two. This week you will learn what being defensive sounds like, what it does, and what the antidote to this toxic communication technique is! Follow Kat on Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/kat.defatta/">@Kat.Defatta</a> Follow the podcast Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/youneedtherapypodcast/">@YouNeedTherapyPodcast</a> Have a question, concern, guest idea, something else? Reach Kat at: <a href="mailto:Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com">Kathryn@youneedtherapyodcast.com</a> Heard about Three Cords Therapy but don’t know what it is? <a href="https://threecordstherapy.com/">Click here!</a>   Produced by: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/houstontilley/">@HoustonTilley</a>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.

Kathryn DeFatta, who has earned her Masters of Education from Vanderbilt University in Human Development Counseling, is inviting you into conversations around what it’s like to live fully in a world where we’ve become accustomed to shut parts of ourselves off. Here you will find a space that welcomes in discomfort, tough questions, and hard truths, all while showing how to find joy through it all.