Love Life with Matthew Hussey

265: Esther Perel’s Advice On Modern Dating, Sexuality, And Communicating In Relationships

In this episode, we're joined by world renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel! Esther is a New York Times Bestselling author who books "Mating In Captivity" and "The State Of Affairs" have had a profound impact on our understanding of modern relationships. In this conversation, Matt and Esther talk about how to create desire in relationships, getting connected to your sexuality (even if you haven't in a long time), improving your communication around intimacy and sex with a partner, and practical advice for finding real attraction and love in modern dating. Get a copy of Esther's brand new course "<a href="https://www.estherperel.com/course-bundles/the-desire-bundle" rel="noopener" target="_blank">The Desire Bundle</a>" ▼ Connect with Esther ▼ Blog → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbWFTV1hWSDZPclMwd2U1Q3Q1RllrQjdsa1RvZ3xBQ3Jtc0trWlRicjltaEFsR2x5cTFhT21fU2VFalhmdWJoT1FWNFRsMUlWLU94ZS1fZ2EzOS04RVFvZ2NXMV91cWdHcnBPTW9LeVdLOURweTAtQmpROTVES1ZJeWQ3SEFJZmZsODNWNUl5NVJJaTM0OW5pQkJPMA&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.estherperel.com%2F&amp;v=snbuFcL7kow" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.estherperel.com</a> YouTube → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@estherperel" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">‪@estherperel‬</a> Instagram →  <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqa045YlRuazF3ZXdmU1pIa245N0RzVVI1N19LUXxBQ3Jtc0tsU0ozUVpMZWd1NmcyRzNRM3FVY0J2b09jaC1reGtyY2FyOGsza3NKeWNjNnFnX1BXbGtIMHM3aGhROFl2RjI3LUppSW56ZDR1TXNxR1F4aGlsN2FLQmoyMXNQRnVzMFBoemd6UHlMeHBKZzNmNUZpaw&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Festherperelofficial%2F&amp;v=snbuFcL7kow" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@estherperelofficial</a> Facebook → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqa2dydmx0T0VFT1NweDlPWWVqNmhQYjF1ODd6Z3xBQ3Jtc0ttNXVyVEM4ZzZodlNfSTJUQ2JoSDhfbVlJTGtoeHY0SjdkX0RCTk1IaDJIY3Z2YXZLZ0l2TGZvMVBDZENuWjVIR1ZGQ3pMalFmT3JpMzFxcmR2WEtad0YzT2FwZGM1QWFGNFdkRExTMTN0TTBYdXFtcw&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Festher.perel%2F&amp;v=snbuFcL7kow" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@esther.perel</a> ▼ Get My Latest Dating Tips and Connect With Me… ▼ Blog → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbThUV3p5dWhuaHowakttVEszVEJpcndpbUtId3xBQ3Jtc0tuaWVreGpDbjFJalBiaUNGTHFRUWlDTHpQNmhJWDlkZ1UwV0trZnpXVUdIM3R6SGdUWGtYWE1sME1LWGNpWHVhMGFncldOWm94SmdSOVY1eWlXYUMzVUhEb3FTbjBSVVRSNklRaTVwMDlqNFBhbDJiYw&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.matthewhussey.com%2Fblog%2F&amp;v=snbuFcL7kow" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.matthewhussey.com/blog/</a> Facebook → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbE15eDJzMFd1VTUyeDg1LTVDNV9CTVhjckdhQXxBQ3Jtc0trd0FmVVZWMUJld1lXbGE0MGpGSmFRRm9FWlBSVHpKdHZtcDR0NjBGd2t5UzBobFJhLVUtNTA4TjlVLVdpOGRXSTIxbU40NzJGaXBNNHNveW9NWjVpbVU5NndIM3NoTGlVYVRTMEUtZGtGMWhmcVJ0WQ&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Ffacebook.com%2FCoachMatthewHussey&amp;v=snbuFcL7kow" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@coachmatthewhussey</a> Instagram → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjBtUExudE9xOWJGYm1RaFFJcm1EdnluZzZCd3xBQ3Jtc0tuY3M5eEpYb0NFd2QzR2U4dHN2Zy1rQ0dfOGZCYjRwQUVIYlVySEVodUdoeG80VzBaOFdPX1loeHREQUd5ZGoydjJEMFlFQXRDSEl6cHVEcnYyejJBUGRYd2wxQVFRVWtvOHZiYmV5ck52T2Z3Qk5OTQ&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fthematthewhussey&amp;v=snbuFcL7kow" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@thematthewhussey</a> Twitter → <a href="https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&amp;redir_token=QUFFLUhqbVlVdlRHUDFCU3laMkc3RVBobVJpVTBkUGZzZ3xBQ3Jtc0tuUmRfamdEYkpocmY2ajlnMlZDQ2pBck5PY1JFZVQxT1BTQVRWbmpXRlNaTXV2SmMwZk9JSDJMTXJkMG4tRXoxbXhKUlVSbVJ5LWtUQm5KZ3FNczlObnhFRl9mbi0tUzFiZXM1RTZkU3JLVlBfRlI3QQ&amp;q=https%3A%2F%2Ftwitter.com%2Fmatthewhussey&amp;v=snbuFcL7kow" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@matthewhussey</a>

Relationships are for heroes.

Join bestselling author—and host of the #1 YouTube channel for women’s relationship advice—Matthew Hussey and his brother Stephen Hussey, as they offer tips and insights on how to make sense of the beautiful mess that is finding and maintaining love, while nurturing the relationship you have with yourself. 

In weekly episodes, they share practical advice, hard-won wisdom, and the occasional musing on relationships and the increasingly confusing world of modern dating. No matter your relationship status, the Love Life podcast will meet you where you are. 

About the Hosts: Matthew Hussey is the New York Times bestselling author of Get the Guy, and host of a YouTube channel that has received 400+ million views. Get the Guy co-writer and YouTuber Stephen Hussey holds a Doctor of Philosophy degree from Oxford University.