042: Finding Yourself + Creating Boundaries with Julia Langley
Hello Couragemakers and welcome to the last episode of 2016!
Next week we’re taking a short one week break for the holidays, and then we’re back on January 2nd with a corker on an episode to start the new year on a great foot!
This week I have a fascinating interview for you, with forensic psychologist Julia Langley. Julia is from the UK and in her spare time, can be often found on her sofa watching YouTube videos to distract her from the impending doom of handing in her PhD thesis, doing the occasional yoga class, and writing
In this episode, Julia shares her journey to becoming a forensic psychologist, by the way of studying drama, running workshops in a women’s prison and being a support worker for people who struggle with drug and alcohol addiction.
We really get into how to look after yourself when you spend a lot of time supporting other people, tangible ways to avoid burnout and finding a lifestyle that makes you thrive and how tricky and scary it is redefining relationships in our personal lives to they work for us.
We really dive deep into the topic of boundaries and creating honest and healthy relationships in our lives, the parallels between how we help other people and our own lives, and just how important it is to figure out what kind of a person we are.
I loved chatting about the crossovers between mental health and the arts, how multipotentiality is changing the way we think about the future and practical ways we can top ourselves up after giving so much of ourselves to the world.
This is a fantastic episode if a lot of your life is dedicated to helping people, if you have a tendency to put other people’s needs in front of your own and if you struggle with imposter syndrome. Julia shares great advice for establishing boundaries with the people in your life, and the scary issue of redefining relationships when they’re feeling toxic.
I absolutely love this episode and how open and honest Julia is about her journey. I love how she shares her learning curves along the way and how she is so open about her own challenges when it comes to feeling responsibility over other people. Julie’s journey is really inspiring and it’s so great to hear how she’s balanced putting great shit into the world while looking after herself at the same time.
I know this episode is a much needed one, so enjoy the show!
About JuliaJulia is currently training to be a forensic psychologist. In her spare time, she is often found on her sofa watching YouTube videos to distract her from the impending doom of handing in her PhD thesis, doing the occasional yoga class, and writing. Julia is very mindful of the balance between maintaining privacy due to her work, and voicing her opinions on subjects that she's passionate about.
You can connect with Julia here: Blog | Email | Instagram
Things we talked about during today's show
Burnout in the giving professions- and the balance between your responsibility for someone else and their responsibility for themselves The fear and vulnerability of creating boundaries Julia shares her journey to becoming a forensic psychologist, by the way of studying drama, running workshops in a women’s prison and being a support worker for people who struggle with drug and alcohol addiction. The importance of listening to yourself and using the support around you
Books/Resources etc mentioned during today’s show
Six Pillars of Self Esteem - Nathaniel BrandonFind out more and download the Couragemakers Manifesto here
If you have any question about today's episode, any comments or would like to be a guest on Couragemakers, get in touch: meg@thathummingbirdlife.com
About Meg & That Hummingbird Life
I'm Meg and I'm the host of Couragemakers and founder of That Hummingbird Life. I started this podcast because I wanted to create a platform for passionate and unconventional women to have honest conversations and to share their stories, struggles and dreams. The intention behind this podcast is to inspire and encourage creative and mission-driven women to live a wholehearted life and follow the beat of their drum.
When I'm not recording episodes and making new friends with the wonderful guests, you can find me working on all manners of magic over at That Hummingbird Life, sending free self care checks ins to hundreds of women every Sunday and helping my clients build brands they love as a graphic designer. I'm currently on a 3 month road trip of the US with Mr. Meg but normally based in the UK.
